Wondering what the AA “spiritual malady” is all about? Explore it with us and learn how to incorporate a more science-friendly spiritual practice into your recovery!
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
There are many maladies out there — anything from chicken pox to “fish odor syndrome” (a metabolic disorder where the body is unable to break down trimethylamine, a compound with a strong fishy odor). None of them are fun (and some might hamper our social life), but thankfully in our day and age, most are curable. But what about a “spiritual malady”? Now that’s a doozy.
And yet, if you’ve spent any time around AA folks, chances are the term has come up. Whatever a “spiritual malady” is, it sounds serious. How do you know if you have it? And can you cure it? Let’s find out what the spiritual malady is in AA terms, and explore some ways to reframe the concept into one that’s a bit more science-based, practical, and optimistic.
What is a spiritual malady? In short, it’s the inner turmoil, restlessness, and disconnection that many people struggling with addiction experience. It’s the void we feel when we’re stuck in the alcohol trap. It’s the psychological “itch” we can’t manage to scratch — the feeling that something’s missing (and that a drink might make it better).
However, there’s more to the concept of a spiritual malady. Definitions tend to feel slippery until we look at how it fits into the three-part model of alcohol misuse as described by AA founder Bill W. in The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Once we understand the central role it plays in the way AA portrays alcoholism (or, to use the more scientifically accurate term, alcohol use disorder or AUD), it becomes clear why the idea of a Higher Power (and spirituality in general) is so central to “the program.”
AA sees alcohol use disorder as a three-part problem:
The “spiritual problem,” in turn, calls for a “spiritual solution.” And in AA, that spiritual solution is the Higher Power. When “the spiritual malady is overcome,” this Higher Power is supposed to “restore us to sanity” and tidy up the physical, mental, and spiritual mess that booze has stirred up in our life.
At first glance, this three-part breakdown actually matches the scientific description of AUD fairly well (albeit in a slightly different order). The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) describes AUD as a three-step cycle:
That said, for many, it’s ultimately not satisfying to simply call the problem a “spiritual malady” and call it a day. Let’s look at the reasons why.
For one thing, the AA definition of the “spiritual malady” that drives us to obsess about booze and compulsively seek it out misses the science behind the three-step cycle of AUD as it’s described by the NIAAA. The obsession and compulsion — as well as the spiritual malaise — have to do with the way alcohol affects the brain. For a deep dive, check out “Understanding Alcohol Dependence: Health Issues, Causes, and How To Overcome.” Here’s the gist:
The best part about getting science on board? It also points the way out of the trap. While AA promises that the Higher Power can “restore us to sanity” when “the spiritual malady is overcome,” we’re never entirely free. The potential of getting off track if we stop going to meetings or “working the Steps” is always looming in the background, fostering a new type of dependence and sometimes becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Granted, it’s better to be dependent on a self-help group instead of on an addictive substance, but for some, it can feel like being stuck in permanent limbo.
Science, in turn, points us to a more satisfying way out of the alcohol trap. Research shows that those brain changes that make it so difficult to put down that drink can be reversed thanks to the power of neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to rewire itself. And while it’s still not a good idea for those who struggled with AUD to drink again, abstaining from booze while actively seeking out healthy ways to boost dopamine can change the way we see alcohol for good. Moreover, we can use science-based methods such as cognitive behavioral therapy to reframe our cognitive distortions around booze, making it easier to stick to our new alcohol-free lifestyle.
Another problem is the “flavor” of spirituality as it appears in many AA communities, texts, and discussions. To put it bluntly, it can be, well, judgy. There’s a lot of talk of “character defects” and “resentments” that contribute to the spiritual malady and drive us to drink. If we stick around long enough we’ll probably certainly hear that our moral compass is on the fritz, that our thoughts are a “dangerous neighborhood,” and that our natural inclination is to lie (“We’re alcoholics, that’s what we do!”).
And while newcomers are often reassured that the “Higher Power” that will absolve us of these failings “can be anything, even a doorknob,” most AA members do call it “God.” And in addition to not being a doorknob, that “God” is often reminiscent of the Protestant “bearded man upstairs” type. (And in all honesty, are we really going to talk to a doorknob about our drinking problem?)
However, let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater just yet. There’s actually a more fulfilling (and less accusatory) way to weave spirituality into the picture — one that doesn’t clash with the science and is ultimately more positive and optimistic.
One of the biggest hiccups in the “spiritual malady” concept is the “malady” bit. But what if there’s no need to think of ourselves as spiritually “sick”? What if instead we look at spirituality as a way to deepen our recovery — a powerful tool to add to our growing toolbox rather than a repair kit to fix our “flawed” character?
There are many spiritual paths out there, all of which ultimately come down to finding meaning in something greater than ourselves and connecting with the world around us in a way that’s inspiring, satisfying, and motivating. And while the many organized religions around the world have a lot to offer, there are many other spiritual paths to consider. Mindfulness-based practices such as yoga and meditation, connecting with nature, and even pursuing creative passions all have an element of spirituality that we can harness in our alcohol journey. For a deep dive, check out “Exploring Spirituality in Recovery.” For now, let’s look at the science-based benefits of adding a spiritual element to our recovery toolbox:
Sounds exciting, doesn’t it? Try it out for yourself and see how spirituality could revamp your recovery. It’s all about enriching your life instead of fixing flaws!
The key to making spirituality work for us rather than against us is to approach it with a positive and optimistic mindset. After all, our struggle with booze might just lead us to discover a way of living that’s filled with more authentic joy and meaning than we ever imagined. Here’s how spiritual author and Tibetan nun Pema Chödrön puts it:
“…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.”
Chödrön’s version of spirituality, in turn, is all about acceptance and love — toward others and for ourselves. Rather than a “spiritual malady,” the pain and discomfort we feel are “spiritual messengers” pointing out places where there’s room to grow and change. And here at Reframe, we’re ready to help you every step of the way!
There are many maladies out there — anything from chicken pox to “fish odor syndrome” (a metabolic disorder where the body is unable to break down trimethylamine, a compound with a strong fishy odor). None of them are fun (and some might hamper our social life), but thankfully in our day and age, most are curable. But what about a “spiritual malady”? Now that’s a doozy.
And yet, if you’ve spent any time around AA folks, chances are the term has come up. Whatever a “spiritual malady” is, it sounds serious. How do you know if you have it? And can you cure it? Let’s find out what the spiritual malady is in AA terms, and explore some ways to reframe the concept into one that’s a bit more science-based, practical, and optimistic.
What is a spiritual malady? In short, it’s the inner turmoil, restlessness, and disconnection that many people struggling with addiction experience. It’s the void we feel when we’re stuck in the alcohol trap. It’s the psychological “itch” we can’t manage to scratch — the feeling that something’s missing (and that a drink might make it better).
However, there’s more to the concept of a spiritual malady. Definitions tend to feel slippery until we look at how it fits into the three-part model of alcohol misuse as described by AA founder Bill W. in The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Once we understand the central role it plays in the way AA portrays alcoholism (or, to use the more scientifically accurate term, alcohol use disorder or AUD), it becomes clear why the idea of a Higher Power (and spirituality in general) is so central to “the program.”
AA sees alcohol use disorder as a three-part problem:
The “spiritual problem,” in turn, calls for a “spiritual solution.” And in AA, that spiritual solution is the Higher Power. When “the spiritual malady is overcome,” this Higher Power is supposed to “restore us to sanity” and tidy up the physical, mental, and spiritual mess that booze has stirred up in our life.
At first glance, this three-part breakdown actually matches the scientific description of AUD fairly well (albeit in a slightly different order). The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) describes AUD as a three-step cycle:
That said, for many, it’s ultimately not satisfying to simply call the problem a “spiritual malady” and call it a day. Let’s look at the reasons why.
For one thing, the AA definition of the “spiritual malady” that drives us to obsess about booze and compulsively seek it out misses the science behind the three-step cycle of AUD as it’s described by the NIAAA. The obsession and compulsion — as well as the spiritual malaise — have to do with the way alcohol affects the brain. For a deep dive, check out “Understanding Alcohol Dependence: Health Issues, Causes, and How To Overcome.” Here’s the gist:
The best part about getting science on board? It also points the way out of the trap. While AA promises that the Higher Power can “restore us to sanity” when “the spiritual malady is overcome,” we’re never entirely free. The potential of getting off track if we stop going to meetings or “working the Steps” is always looming in the background, fostering a new type of dependence and sometimes becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Granted, it’s better to be dependent on a self-help group instead of on an addictive substance, but for some, it can feel like being stuck in permanent limbo.
Science, in turn, points us to a more satisfying way out of the alcohol trap. Research shows that those brain changes that make it so difficult to put down that drink can be reversed thanks to the power of neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to rewire itself. And while it’s still not a good idea for those who struggled with AUD to drink again, abstaining from booze while actively seeking out healthy ways to boost dopamine can change the way we see alcohol for good. Moreover, we can use science-based methods such as cognitive behavioral therapy to reframe our cognitive distortions around booze, making it easier to stick to our new alcohol-free lifestyle.
Another problem is the “flavor” of spirituality as it appears in many AA communities, texts, and discussions. To put it bluntly, it can be, well, judgy. There’s a lot of talk of “character defects” and “resentments” that contribute to the spiritual malady and drive us to drink. If we stick around long enough we’ll probably certainly hear that our moral compass is on the fritz, that our thoughts are a “dangerous neighborhood,” and that our natural inclination is to lie (“We’re alcoholics, that’s what we do!”).
And while newcomers are often reassured that the “Higher Power” that will absolve us of these failings “can be anything, even a doorknob,” most AA members do call it “God.” And in addition to not being a doorknob, that “God” is often reminiscent of the Protestant “bearded man upstairs” type. (And in all honesty, are we really going to talk to a doorknob about our drinking problem?)
However, let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater just yet. There’s actually a more fulfilling (and less accusatory) way to weave spirituality into the picture — one that doesn’t clash with the science and is ultimately more positive and optimistic.
One of the biggest hiccups in the “spiritual malady” concept is the “malady” bit. But what if there’s no need to think of ourselves as spiritually “sick”? What if instead we look at spirituality as a way to deepen our recovery — a powerful tool to add to our growing toolbox rather than a repair kit to fix our “flawed” character?
There are many spiritual paths out there, all of which ultimately come down to finding meaning in something greater than ourselves and connecting with the world around us in a way that’s inspiring, satisfying, and motivating. And while the many organized religions around the world have a lot to offer, there are many other spiritual paths to consider. Mindfulness-based practices such as yoga and meditation, connecting with nature, and even pursuing creative passions all have an element of spirituality that we can harness in our alcohol journey. For a deep dive, check out “Exploring Spirituality in Recovery.” For now, let’s look at the science-based benefits of adding a spiritual element to our recovery toolbox:
Sounds exciting, doesn’t it? Try it out for yourself and see how spirituality could revamp your recovery. It’s all about enriching your life instead of fixing flaws!
The key to making spirituality work for us rather than against us is to approach it with a positive and optimistic mindset. After all, our struggle with booze might just lead us to discover a way of living that’s filled with more authentic joy and meaning than we ever imagined. Here’s how spiritual author and Tibetan nun Pema Chödrön puts it:
“…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.”
Chödrön’s version of spirituality, in turn, is all about acceptance and love — toward others and for ourselves. Rather than a “spiritual malady,” the pain and discomfort we feel are “spiritual messengers” pointing out places where there’s room to grow and change. And here at Reframe, we’re ready to help you every step of the way!
Embracing sober living leads to substantial financial savings, better money management, and increased disposable income. Experience the economic impact of sober living today!
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Living a sober lifestyle can have profound effects on an individual's health, relationships, and overall well-being. However, one area that often goes overlooked is the economic impact of sober living. By reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption, individuals can experience significant financial savings, improved financial health, and increased disposable income. This article explores these individual financial benefits and delves into the broader economic implications of adopting a sober lifestyle.
Alcohol consumption is not just a public health issue; it's also a significant financial burden for many individuals. The costs associated with alcohol consumption can be substantial, including the direct costs of purchasing alcohol, as well as indirect costs such as healthcare expenses, legal fees, and lost productivity.
The most immediate financial impact of alcohol consumption is the money spent on purchasing alcoholic beverages. According to Alcohol and Money Management: How Reducing Enhances Health and Wealth, the average American spends a considerable amount of their disposable income on alcohol each year. This expenditure can quickly add up, especially for heavy drinkers.
Beyond the direct costs, alcohol consumption can lead to several indirect financial burdens:
Transitioning to a sober lifestyle can offer numerous financial benefits, helping individuals save money and improve their overall financial health.
One of the most immediate benefits of sober living is the money saved from not purchasing alcohol. These savings can be redirected towards other financial goals, such as paying off debt, building an emergency fund, or investing for the future.
Sober living often leads to better financial management. Individuals who abstain from alcohol are more likely to make sound financial decisions, avoid impulsive spending, and stick to a budget. This improved financial discipline can lead to long-term financial stability.
With less money spent on alcohol, individuals have more disposable income to allocate towards other areas of their lives. This can include spending on hobbies, travel, education, or other activities that enhance their quality of life.
The economic impact of sober living extends beyond the individual level, benefiting society as a whole. Reduced alcohol consumption can lead to significant savings in public healthcare costs, lower crime rates, and improved productivity in the workforce.
Alcohol-related health issues place a significant burden on public healthcare systems. By reducing alcohol consumption, individuals can decrease the incidence of alcohol-related illnesses, thereby reducing the strain on healthcare resources and lowering overall healthcare costs.
Alcohol is often a contributing factor in various criminal activities, including domestic violence, assault, and drunk driving. By promoting sober living, communities can reduce the incidence of alcohol-related crimes, leading to safer neighborhoods and lower law enforcement costs.
Alcohol consumption can negatively impact workplace productivity due to absenteeism, presenteeism, and impaired performance. Sober living can lead to a more productive workforce, benefiting employers and the economy as a whole.
While the financial benefits of sober living are clear, some individuals may face financial barriers to making this lifestyle change. These barriers can include the costs associated with addiction treatment, lack of access to support resources, and the potential loss of social connections.
Addiction treatment can be expensive, and not all individuals have access to affordable treatment options. However, many insurance plans cover addiction treatment, and there are various community resources and government programs available to help individuals access the care they need.
Support resources, such as sober living homes and support groups, play a crucial role in helping individuals maintain sobriety. Ensuring that these resources are accessible and affordable is essential for supporting individuals on their recovery journey. For more information on the benefits of cutting back on alcohol, check out The Benefits of Cutting Back on Alcohol | Reframe App.
Social connections and peer support are vital for maintaining sobriety. Individuals who reduce or eliminate alcohol consumption may need to navigate changes in their social circles and find new ways to connect with others. Support groups and sober living communities can provide valuable social support and help individuals build new, healthy relationships.
Adopting a sober lifestyle can have long-term financial benefits, contributing to a more secure financial future. Here are some strategies for incorporating sober living into long-term financial planning:
Setting clear financial goals is an essential step in long-term financial planning. Individuals who adopt a sober lifestyle can redirect the money saved from not purchasing alcohol towards achieving these goals, whether it's buying a home, saving for retirement, or funding education.
An emergency fund is a crucial component of financial security. The money saved from reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption can be used to build or bolster an emergency fund, providing a financial safety net for unexpected expenses.
Investing is an important aspect of long-term financial planning. Individuals who adopt a sober lifestyle can use the money saved from not purchasing alcohol to invest in stocks, bonds, or other investment vehicles, helping to grow their wealth over time.
Sober living can lead to substantial financial savings, improved financial health, and increased disposable income. By reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption, individuals can save money, make better financial decisions, and allocate funds towards other essential and leisure activities.
Sober living can reduce healthcare costs by decreasing the incidence of alcohol-related health issues. This reduction in healthcare costs benefits both individuals and public healthcare systems.
Yes, sober living can contribute to lower crime rates. Alcohol is often a contributing factor in various criminal activities, and reducing alcohol consumption can lead to safer communities and lower law enforcement costs.
Sober living can lead to improved workforce productivity by reducing absenteeism, presenteeism, and impaired performance. A more productive workforce benefits employers and the economy as a whole.
Individuals may face financial barriers such as the costs associated with addiction treatment, lack of access to support resources, and potential loss of social connections. However, there are various resources and programs available to help individuals overcome these barriers.
Individuals can incorporate sober living into long-term financial planning by setting clear financial goals, building an emergency fund, and investing for the future. The money saved from not purchasing alcohol can be redirected towards these financial goals.
The economic impact of sober living is multifaceted, offering significant financial benefits for individuals and broader economic advantages for society. By reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption, individuals can experience substantial financial savings, improved financial health, and increased disposable income. These individual benefits, combined with reduced healthcare costs, lower crime rates, and improved workforce productivity, highlight the importance of promoting sober living as a means of enhancing both personal and societal well-being.
Living a sober lifestyle can have profound effects on an individual's health, relationships, and overall well-being. However, one area that often goes overlooked is the economic impact of sober living. By reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption, individuals can experience significant financial savings, improved financial health, and increased disposable income. This article explores these individual financial benefits and delves into the broader economic implications of adopting a sober lifestyle.
Alcohol consumption is not just a public health issue; it's also a significant financial burden for many individuals. The costs associated with alcohol consumption can be substantial, including the direct costs of purchasing alcohol, as well as indirect costs such as healthcare expenses, legal fees, and lost productivity.
The most immediate financial impact of alcohol consumption is the money spent on purchasing alcoholic beverages. According to Alcohol and Money Management: How Reducing Enhances Health and Wealth, the average American spends a considerable amount of their disposable income on alcohol each year. This expenditure can quickly add up, especially for heavy drinkers.
Beyond the direct costs, alcohol consumption can lead to several indirect financial burdens:
Transitioning to a sober lifestyle can offer numerous financial benefits, helping individuals save money and improve their overall financial health.
One of the most immediate benefits of sober living is the money saved from not purchasing alcohol. These savings can be redirected towards other financial goals, such as paying off debt, building an emergency fund, or investing for the future.
Sober living often leads to better financial management. Individuals who abstain from alcohol are more likely to make sound financial decisions, avoid impulsive spending, and stick to a budget. This improved financial discipline can lead to long-term financial stability.
With less money spent on alcohol, individuals have more disposable income to allocate towards other areas of their lives. This can include spending on hobbies, travel, education, or other activities that enhance their quality of life.
The economic impact of sober living extends beyond the individual level, benefiting society as a whole. Reduced alcohol consumption can lead to significant savings in public healthcare costs, lower crime rates, and improved productivity in the workforce.
Alcohol-related health issues place a significant burden on public healthcare systems. By reducing alcohol consumption, individuals can decrease the incidence of alcohol-related illnesses, thereby reducing the strain on healthcare resources and lowering overall healthcare costs.
Alcohol is often a contributing factor in various criminal activities, including domestic violence, assault, and drunk driving. By promoting sober living, communities can reduce the incidence of alcohol-related crimes, leading to safer neighborhoods and lower law enforcement costs.
Alcohol consumption can negatively impact workplace productivity due to absenteeism, presenteeism, and impaired performance. Sober living can lead to a more productive workforce, benefiting employers and the economy as a whole.
While the financial benefits of sober living are clear, some individuals may face financial barriers to making this lifestyle change. These barriers can include the costs associated with addiction treatment, lack of access to support resources, and the potential loss of social connections.
Addiction treatment can be expensive, and not all individuals have access to affordable treatment options. However, many insurance plans cover addiction treatment, and there are various community resources and government programs available to help individuals access the care they need.
Support resources, such as sober living homes and support groups, play a crucial role in helping individuals maintain sobriety. Ensuring that these resources are accessible and affordable is essential for supporting individuals on their recovery journey. For more information on the benefits of cutting back on alcohol, check out The Benefits of Cutting Back on Alcohol | Reframe App.
Social connections and peer support are vital for maintaining sobriety. Individuals who reduce or eliminate alcohol consumption may need to navigate changes in their social circles and find new ways to connect with others. Support groups and sober living communities can provide valuable social support and help individuals build new, healthy relationships.
Adopting a sober lifestyle can have long-term financial benefits, contributing to a more secure financial future. Here are some strategies for incorporating sober living into long-term financial planning:
Setting clear financial goals is an essential step in long-term financial planning. Individuals who adopt a sober lifestyle can redirect the money saved from not purchasing alcohol towards achieving these goals, whether it's buying a home, saving for retirement, or funding education.
An emergency fund is a crucial component of financial security. The money saved from reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption can be used to build or bolster an emergency fund, providing a financial safety net for unexpected expenses.
Investing is an important aspect of long-term financial planning. Individuals who adopt a sober lifestyle can use the money saved from not purchasing alcohol to invest in stocks, bonds, or other investment vehicles, helping to grow their wealth over time.
Sober living can lead to substantial financial savings, improved financial health, and increased disposable income. By reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption, individuals can save money, make better financial decisions, and allocate funds towards other essential and leisure activities.
Sober living can reduce healthcare costs by decreasing the incidence of alcohol-related health issues. This reduction in healthcare costs benefits both individuals and public healthcare systems.
Yes, sober living can contribute to lower crime rates. Alcohol is often a contributing factor in various criminal activities, and reducing alcohol consumption can lead to safer communities and lower law enforcement costs.
Sober living can lead to improved workforce productivity by reducing absenteeism, presenteeism, and impaired performance. A more productive workforce benefits employers and the economy as a whole.
Individuals may face financial barriers such as the costs associated with addiction treatment, lack of access to support resources, and potential loss of social connections. However, there are various resources and programs available to help individuals overcome these barriers.
Individuals can incorporate sober living into long-term financial planning by setting clear financial goals, building an emergency fund, and investing for the future. The money saved from not purchasing alcohol can be redirected towards these financial goals.
The economic impact of sober living is multifaceted, offering significant financial benefits for individuals and broader economic advantages for society. By reducing or eliminating alcohol consumption, individuals can experience substantial financial savings, improved financial health, and increased disposable income. These individual benefits, combined with reduced healthcare costs, lower crime rates, and improved workforce productivity, highlight the importance of promoting sober living as a means of enhancing both personal and societal well-being.
Cut drinking costs and boost your financial health with sobriety. Learn how saving money in sobriety leads to long-term financial stability. Start saving today!
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Sobriety brings numerous benefits, from improved physical and mental health to enhanced relationships. One often overlooked advantage is the substantial financial savings that come with a sober lifestyle. This article delves into the cost comparison between regular drinking and maintaining sobriety, highlighting the long-term financial benefits and potential savings.
Maintaining sobriety can have a profound impact on various aspects of life, including financial health. Many individuals find that quitting alcohol not only improves their overall well-being but also leads to significant financial savings. This article explores the costs associated with regular drinking versus maintaining sobriety, showcasing the long-term financial benefits and potential savings.
Regular drinking incurs direct costs that can quickly add up. These include:
In addition to direct costs, there are several indirect costs associated with regular drinking:
One of the most immediate benefits of sobriety is the money saved from not purchasing alcohol. This can free up a significant portion of an individual's budget, allowing them to allocate funds toward more essential expenses or savings.
Sobriety often leads to better physical and mental health, reducing the need for medical treatments and medications. This can result in substantial savings on healthcare expenses.
Without the negative impact of alcohol on productivity, individuals are more likely to excel in their careers, leading to potential promotions and salary increases. This not only improves financial stability but also enhances overall quality of life.
Sobriety encourages better financial habits, such as budgeting and saving. Individuals in recovery often develop improved money management skills, which can lead to long-term financial stability.
By avoiding alcohol-related legal issues and the associated costs, individuals can save a significant amount of money. Additionally, improved relationships and social stability can prevent costly separations or divorces.
Creating a budget is a crucial step in managing finances effectively. By outlining income, expenses, and financial goals, individuals can gain a clearer understanding of their financial situation and make informed decisions about their spending.
Tracking expenses helps individuals identify areas where they can cut back and save money. This is particularly important for those transitioning to sobriety, as it allows them to see the financial impact of their lifestyle changes.
Paying off debts should be a priority for individuals in recovery. By focusing on high-interest debts first, individuals can reduce their overall financial burden and improve their credit scores.
An emergency fund provides a financial safety net for unexpected expenses. This can prevent individuals from falling back into old habits during times of financial stress.
Financial counseling can provide valuable guidance and support for individuals in recovery. Counselors can help create personalized financial plans, offer advice on managing debts, and provide resources for improving financial literacy.
While case studies are not included in this article, numerous personal stories highlight the financial benefits of sobriety. For instance, young people are increasingly choosing sobriety to save money and improve their financial stability. As discussed in the BBC article, many young individuals have saved significant amounts by not spending on nights out and other alcohol-related activities.
Over time, the money saved from not purchasing alcohol can accumulate into substantial savings. These savings can be used for various purposes, such as investing, purchasing a home, or funding education.
By managing finances effectively and paying off debts, individuals can improve their credit scores. This can lead to better interest rates on loans and credit cards, further enhancing financial stability.
Sobriety can ultimately lead to financial independence, allowing individuals to achieve their long-term financial goals and enjoy a higher quality of life.
Sobriety eliminates the costs associated with alcohol consumption, allowing individuals to save money and redirect funds toward essential expenses or savings. Improved health and productivity also contribute to better financial stability.
Creating a budget, tracking expenses, prioritizing debts, and building an emergency fund are essential strategies for managing finances during recovery. Seeking financial counseling can also provide valuable guidance and support.
Financial literacy helps individuals make informed decisions about their money, reducing the risk of relapse due to financial stress. Understanding how to manage finances effectively is crucial for achieving long-term financial stability.
There are several budgeting tools and apps available that can help individuals manage their finances effectively. Some popular options include Mint, YNAB (You Need A Budget), and EveryDollar. These tools offer features such as expense tracking, budget creation, and financial goal setting.
Individuals in recovery can address existing debts by prioritizing high-interest debts first, creating a debt repayment plan, and seeking advice from financial counselors. Consolidating debts or negotiating with creditors for lower interest rates can also be effective strategies.
Support systems, including family, friends, and support groups, play a crucial role in financial management during recovery. They can provide emotional support, accountability, and practical advice for managing finances. Engaging with a supportive community can help individuals stay on track with their financial goals.
Maintaining sobriety offers numerous benefits, including significant financial savings and improved money management. By eliminating the costs associated with alcohol consumption, individuals can achieve long-term financial stability and enhance their overall quality of life. Developing effective financial habits, such as budgeting, tracking expenses, and building an emergency fund, is crucial for individuals in recovery. With the right strategies and support, sobriety can lead to a brighter financial future.
By understanding the financial implications of sobriety and implementing effective money management strategies, individuals can enhance their recovery journey and achieve greater financial stability.
Sobriety brings numerous benefits, from improved physical and mental health to enhanced relationships. One often overlooked advantage is the substantial financial savings that come with a sober lifestyle. This article delves into the cost comparison between regular drinking and maintaining sobriety, highlighting the long-term financial benefits and potential savings.
Maintaining sobriety can have a profound impact on various aspects of life, including financial health. Many individuals find that quitting alcohol not only improves their overall well-being but also leads to significant financial savings. This article explores the costs associated with regular drinking versus maintaining sobriety, showcasing the long-term financial benefits and potential savings.
Regular drinking incurs direct costs that can quickly add up. These include:
In addition to direct costs, there are several indirect costs associated with regular drinking:
One of the most immediate benefits of sobriety is the money saved from not purchasing alcohol. This can free up a significant portion of an individual's budget, allowing them to allocate funds toward more essential expenses or savings.
Sobriety often leads to better physical and mental health, reducing the need for medical treatments and medications. This can result in substantial savings on healthcare expenses.
Without the negative impact of alcohol on productivity, individuals are more likely to excel in their careers, leading to potential promotions and salary increases. This not only improves financial stability but also enhances overall quality of life.
Sobriety encourages better financial habits, such as budgeting and saving. Individuals in recovery often develop improved money management skills, which can lead to long-term financial stability.
By avoiding alcohol-related legal issues and the associated costs, individuals can save a significant amount of money. Additionally, improved relationships and social stability can prevent costly separations or divorces.
Creating a budget is a crucial step in managing finances effectively. By outlining income, expenses, and financial goals, individuals can gain a clearer understanding of their financial situation and make informed decisions about their spending.
Tracking expenses helps individuals identify areas where they can cut back and save money. This is particularly important for those transitioning to sobriety, as it allows them to see the financial impact of their lifestyle changes.
Paying off debts should be a priority for individuals in recovery. By focusing on high-interest debts first, individuals can reduce their overall financial burden and improve their credit scores.
An emergency fund provides a financial safety net for unexpected expenses. This can prevent individuals from falling back into old habits during times of financial stress.
Financial counseling can provide valuable guidance and support for individuals in recovery. Counselors can help create personalized financial plans, offer advice on managing debts, and provide resources for improving financial literacy.
While case studies are not included in this article, numerous personal stories highlight the financial benefits of sobriety. For instance, young people are increasingly choosing sobriety to save money and improve their financial stability. As discussed in the BBC article, many young individuals have saved significant amounts by not spending on nights out and other alcohol-related activities.
Over time, the money saved from not purchasing alcohol can accumulate into substantial savings. These savings can be used for various purposes, such as investing, purchasing a home, or funding education.
By managing finances effectively and paying off debts, individuals can improve their credit scores. This can lead to better interest rates on loans and credit cards, further enhancing financial stability.
Sobriety can ultimately lead to financial independence, allowing individuals to achieve their long-term financial goals and enjoy a higher quality of life.
Sobriety eliminates the costs associated with alcohol consumption, allowing individuals to save money and redirect funds toward essential expenses or savings. Improved health and productivity also contribute to better financial stability.
Creating a budget, tracking expenses, prioritizing debts, and building an emergency fund are essential strategies for managing finances during recovery. Seeking financial counseling can also provide valuable guidance and support.
Financial literacy helps individuals make informed decisions about their money, reducing the risk of relapse due to financial stress. Understanding how to manage finances effectively is crucial for achieving long-term financial stability.
There are several budgeting tools and apps available that can help individuals manage their finances effectively. Some popular options include Mint, YNAB (You Need A Budget), and EveryDollar. These tools offer features such as expense tracking, budget creation, and financial goal setting.
Individuals in recovery can address existing debts by prioritizing high-interest debts first, creating a debt repayment plan, and seeking advice from financial counselors. Consolidating debts or negotiating with creditors for lower interest rates can also be effective strategies.
Support systems, including family, friends, and support groups, play a crucial role in financial management during recovery. They can provide emotional support, accountability, and practical advice for managing finances. Engaging with a supportive community can help individuals stay on track with their financial goals.
Maintaining sobriety offers numerous benefits, including significant financial savings and improved money management. By eliminating the costs associated with alcohol consumption, individuals can achieve long-term financial stability and enhance their overall quality of life. Developing effective financial habits, such as budgeting, tracking expenses, and building an emergency fund, is crucial for individuals in recovery. With the right strategies and support, sobriety can lead to a brighter financial future.
By understanding the financial implications of sobriety and implementing effective money management strategies, individuals can enhance their recovery journey and achieve greater financial stability.
Wondering if there are alternatives to AA? These days, getting sober without AA is possible! Find your path by checking out our blog about AA alternatives.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
These days, there are plenty of options for non-12-Step recovery. They include therapy, motivational coaching, other support groups, mindfulness-based approaches, online alcohol support groups, and alcohol reduction apps such as Reframe.
You’ve been to most of the church basements in your neighborhood, you’ve recited the Serenity Prayer countless times, and maybe even accidentally introduced yourself as “Hi, my name is so-and-so and I’m an alcoholic” at a PTA meeting (it’s been known to happen). Or maybe it didn’t take very long to feel like you just needed a different option. Whatever the reason, it’s clear that Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), while it works for some, just isn’t the solution for you. No problem! Rest assured, there are many in the same boat. And luckily, today there are many great alternatives to AA. Let’s explore what non-12-Step recovery is all about and check out the best AA alternatives!
First things first: what’s AA all about? The answer goes back almost a century, when stock broker Bill Wilson (known in AA circles as Bill W.) spontaneously recovered from an addiction to alcohol that nearly killed him. The program is based on 12 Steps that guide members through understanding their alcohol problem, cleaning up the aftermath, and living an honest and productive booze-free life while helping others do the same. (Want to learn more? Check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” for a deep dive.)
And while many swear by it, others find that it doesn’t jive with them for a number of reasons. For a detailed analysis, take a look at “Can AA Be Harmful?” For now, here’s the gist of the criticism:
If we find that these drawbacks resonate with us, it’s time to look at AA alternatives. Here we go!
There are many alternatives to 12-Step programs out there, but they tend to have one thing in common: they’re science-based. And as modern research shows, alcohol use disorder (AUD) is a brain-based condition. Here’s a brief overview:
How do these AA alternatives use science as part of the solution? Let’s take a closer look.
Gone are the days when therapy meant lying on the couch and talking about our dreams. These days, science-based therapeutic approaches provide practical coping strategies, support, and understanding of AUD. And since what works for one person might not work for another, there are many different types to choose from.
Neuroscience fact: All three types of therapy described above promote neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to make new connections and rewire itself. It allows us to hack our own brain circuitry to create a solid foundation for a sustainable and satisfying booze-free life!
Mindfulness — the practice of being aware of the present moment — has been a buzzword in wellness circles for years. But did you know that there’s solid science behind it? Yoga, meditation, deep breathing, mindful walking, and dozens of other practices that allow us to observe the moment (including our own thoughts) without judgment can work wonders for recovering from AUD. Here’s why:
Want to learn more? Take a look at “Practical Tips for Incorporating Mindful Living Practices to Support Sobriety.
Neuroscience fact: In addition to changing brain connectivity, mindfulness actually changes the physical structure of our brain! One study showed that meditators had a notably thicker prefrontal cortex compared with controls.
AA isn’t the only self-help recovery support group out there! SMART Recovery (Self-Management and Recovery Training) is another option. The main difference? It’s secular and based on science. Those who struggle with the AA “Higher Power” concept can breathe easy — there won’t be any talk of prayer, “spiritual maladies,” or absolution from “character defects.”
Instead, SMART Recovery is based on CBT. It’s all about changing harmful thoughts and behaviors in a more user-friendly, practical, and nonjudgmental way. Plus, we get the social support of others in the same (or similar) boat!
Neuroscience fact: One study showed that perceived social support had a specific neural “signature”: participants who experienced it had more activity in the left middle temporal gyrus, an area of the brain also associated with psychological well-being.
Interested in therapy that focuses on the positive side of things? Motivational coaching uses motivational interviewing, goal-setting, and accountability techniques to inspire change.
One of the major downsides of AA is that it can feel a bit negative at times. Listening to others’ stories is powerful, but there’s only so much we can handle when it comes to looking at how things fall apart. Instead, motivational coaching is all about putting our lives back together! The key is to find a person we really jibe with so that we can develop a strong and trusting relationship with our coach. They’ll motivate us to keep going when things get rough, provide useful insights, and, most importantly, cheer us on along the way.
Neuroscience fact: As we know, alcohol hijacks the reward circuit by flooding our brain with dopamine, making it difficult to stop. Motivational coaching can reverse the process! It engages the brain’s reward center and stimulates dopamine release in a healthy way.
Finally, we come to the latest AA alternative on the recovery scene — technology. Alcohol reduction apps such as Reframe and online support groups have changed the landscape of addiction recovery, providing a state-of-the-art toolbox that’s customized to our needs and is always with us, right in our pocket! Here are some of the benefits:
Neuroscience fact: Apps can use real-time data to help us track our progress, get timely feedback, and stay on track with daily reminders. This continuous monitoring and personalized support can strengthen neural pathways associated with healthy behaviors and reduce the risk of relapse.
In the end, the most important thing is this: you made a decision about changing your relationship with alcohol. Congrats! That’s by far the most important step. In the wise words of Buddha, “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” And simply by making this decision, you’re well on your way. The rest — planning your journey, charting your course, and choosing the trusty team to bring along with you — is details.
There are many options for finding help to stay on track in your alcohol journey, and listening to your intuition is important. Try out a few, give them a fair chance, and listen to that inner voice that knows what’s right for you. Whatever course you choose, know that there’s so much joy, health, and inspiration waiting for you in a life with less alcohol (or no alcohol at all). Approach these new opportunities with excitement and curiosity.
These days, there are plenty of options for non-12-Step recovery. They include therapy, motivational coaching, other support groups, mindfulness-based approaches, online alcohol support groups, and alcohol reduction apps such as Reframe.
You’ve been to most of the church basements in your neighborhood, you’ve recited the Serenity Prayer countless times, and maybe even accidentally introduced yourself as “Hi, my name is so-and-so and I’m an alcoholic” at a PTA meeting (it’s been known to happen). Or maybe it didn’t take very long to feel like you just needed a different option. Whatever the reason, it’s clear that Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), while it works for some, just isn’t the solution for you. No problem! Rest assured, there are many in the same boat. And luckily, today there are many great alternatives to AA. Let’s explore what non-12-Step recovery is all about and check out the best AA alternatives!
First things first: what’s AA all about? The answer goes back almost a century, when stock broker Bill Wilson (known in AA circles as Bill W.) spontaneously recovered from an addiction to alcohol that nearly killed him. The program is based on 12 Steps that guide members through understanding their alcohol problem, cleaning up the aftermath, and living an honest and productive booze-free life while helping others do the same. (Want to learn more? Check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” for a deep dive.)
And while many swear by it, others find that it doesn’t jive with them for a number of reasons. For a detailed analysis, take a look at “Can AA Be Harmful?” For now, here’s the gist of the criticism:
If we find that these drawbacks resonate with us, it’s time to look at AA alternatives. Here we go!
There are many alternatives to 12-Step programs out there, but they tend to have one thing in common: they’re science-based. And as modern research shows, alcohol use disorder (AUD) is a brain-based condition. Here’s a brief overview:
How do these AA alternatives use science as part of the solution? Let’s take a closer look.
Gone are the days when therapy meant lying on the couch and talking about our dreams. These days, science-based therapeutic approaches provide practical coping strategies, support, and understanding of AUD. And since what works for one person might not work for another, there are many different types to choose from.
Neuroscience fact: All three types of therapy described above promote neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to make new connections and rewire itself. It allows us to hack our own brain circuitry to create a solid foundation for a sustainable and satisfying booze-free life!
Mindfulness — the practice of being aware of the present moment — has been a buzzword in wellness circles for years. But did you know that there’s solid science behind it? Yoga, meditation, deep breathing, mindful walking, and dozens of other practices that allow us to observe the moment (including our own thoughts) without judgment can work wonders for recovering from AUD. Here’s why:
Want to learn more? Take a look at “Practical Tips for Incorporating Mindful Living Practices to Support Sobriety.
Neuroscience fact: In addition to changing brain connectivity, mindfulness actually changes the physical structure of our brain! One study showed that meditators had a notably thicker prefrontal cortex compared with controls.
AA isn’t the only self-help recovery support group out there! SMART Recovery (Self-Management and Recovery Training) is another option. The main difference? It’s secular and based on science. Those who struggle with the AA “Higher Power” concept can breathe easy — there won’t be any talk of prayer, “spiritual maladies,” or absolution from “character defects.”
Instead, SMART Recovery is based on CBT. It’s all about changing harmful thoughts and behaviors in a more user-friendly, practical, and nonjudgmental way. Plus, we get the social support of others in the same (or similar) boat!
Neuroscience fact: One study showed that perceived social support had a specific neural “signature”: participants who experienced it had more activity in the left middle temporal gyrus, an area of the brain also associated with psychological well-being.
Interested in therapy that focuses on the positive side of things? Motivational coaching uses motivational interviewing, goal-setting, and accountability techniques to inspire change.
One of the major downsides of AA is that it can feel a bit negative at times. Listening to others’ stories is powerful, but there’s only so much we can handle when it comes to looking at how things fall apart. Instead, motivational coaching is all about putting our lives back together! The key is to find a person we really jibe with so that we can develop a strong and trusting relationship with our coach. They’ll motivate us to keep going when things get rough, provide useful insights, and, most importantly, cheer us on along the way.
Neuroscience fact: As we know, alcohol hijacks the reward circuit by flooding our brain with dopamine, making it difficult to stop. Motivational coaching can reverse the process! It engages the brain’s reward center and stimulates dopamine release in a healthy way.
Finally, we come to the latest AA alternative on the recovery scene — technology. Alcohol reduction apps such as Reframe and online support groups have changed the landscape of addiction recovery, providing a state-of-the-art toolbox that’s customized to our needs and is always with us, right in our pocket! Here are some of the benefits:
Neuroscience fact: Apps can use real-time data to help us track our progress, get timely feedback, and stay on track with daily reminders. This continuous monitoring and personalized support can strengthen neural pathways associated with healthy behaviors and reduce the risk of relapse.
In the end, the most important thing is this: you made a decision about changing your relationship with alcohol. Congrats! That’s by far the most important step. In the wise words of Buddha, “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” And simply by making this decision, you’re well on your way. The rest — planning your journey, charting your course, and choosing the trusty team to bring along with you — is details.
There are many options for finding help to stay on track in your alcohol journey, and listening to your intuition is important. Try out a few, give them a fair chance, and listen to that inner voice that knows what’s right for you. Whatever course you choose, know that there’s so much joy, health, and inspiration waiting for you in a life with less alcohol (or no alcohol at all). Approach these new opportunities with excitement and curiosity.
The AA Preamble starts every meeting, but what’s it all about? Find out what role the Preamble of AA plays in the program and check out some AA alternatives in our latest blog!
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
If you’ve been to a few AA meetings, you’ve probably noticed some similarities across the board. There’s usually a round of introductions with most members saying, “My name is so-and-so, and I’m an alcoholic.” The 12 Steps are probably hanging on the wall. There’s probably coffee. And yes, the meeting usually starts with the reading of the AA Preamble.
But what is the purpose of the Alcoholics Anonymous Preamble? Let’s look into it.
First, let’s take a brief look at Alcoholics Anonymous itself. To learn about the ins and outs of AA and AA meetings, check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” and “What To Expect at an AA Meeting.” For now, here’s the gist:
The meetings are where the Preamble comes into the picture.
The Alcoholics Anonymous Preamble is read at the beginning of AA meetings. Short and sweet, it’s a concise statement introducing the group’s mission and principles. But what exactly is the purpose of the AA Preamble, and how does it contribute to the recovery process? Let’s take a closer look!
Once we hear the Preamble, there’s no mistaking what door we walked into — we’re definitely at an AA meeting — “a fellowship of people who share their experience, strength and hope.” Most importantly, we’re all here for the same reason — “to solve our common problem and help others recover from alcoholism.”
By emphasizing this goal, the AA Preamble reinforces it and makes clear what AA is all about. And while many might know this already, it never hurts to repeat it!
In fact, even if we end up finding that AA isn’t right for us, putting our “why” — our reasons for changing our relationship with booze — into a concise and clear statement is a great idea. Maybe we want to improve our cardiovascular health, sharpen our cognitive skills, or lose some weight. Or maybe the reason has to do with building more authentic friendships, spending more time with our kids, or strengthening our relationship with our partner. Whatever it is, stating it clearly is the first step.
Next, it’s a good idea to put our “purpose statement” in a place where we’ll come across it daily. Whether we write it on a post-it note and stick it to the bathroom mirror or use a phone widget to create a digital reminder, the effect is the same: seeing our “purpose statement” is a visual reminder of why we decided to make a shift in our daily habits.
Neuroscience fact: There’s an area of neuroscience that deals with the “purpose-driven life” hypothesis. This fascinating research field is all about how mental, emotional, social, and spiritual factors can directly affect our health. The idea behind it is that having a sense of purpose can actually make us physically stronger and more resilient, staving off dementia, improving cardiovascular health, and improving the outcomes of stroke and spinal cord injuries. Purpose statement, here we come! And remember, it doesn’t have to be in the context of AA — feel free to define yours however you want.
One thing is clear about AA: it tries to set a welcoming vibe with minimal expectations. The Preamble reaffirms that. As the second paragraph reads, “The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.” It also mentions that AA is always free and “self-supporting” — contributions are completely voluntary.
Making this tone of inclusivity clear from the start can go a long way to making newcomers feel comfortable. Even if we drank the night before, or that morning, or five minutes before the meeting, we know that we’re still welcome.
That said, while the statement works well to welcome those who want booze out of their lives completely, it’s not as inclusive when it comes to everyone else. A casual drinker exploring a sober-curious lifestyle or trying a Sober October or Dry January challenge to experience the benefits of drinking less without making a lifelong commitment might not feel quite as welcome. (Luckily, there are many AA alternatives — more on that later.)
Neuroscience fact: Social support triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone that promotes feelings of trust and bonding. In addition to making us feel good naturally, it reduces stress — a common trigger for alcohol use.
According to the Preamble, AA “is not aligned with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution,” doesn’t wish to “engage in any controversy,” or support any “opposing causes.”
While this purported neutrality sounds good, this is also where things get a bit muddled. It’s true that AA considers itself to be “spiritual but not religious,” and yet it’s impossible to go through a meeting without hearing the word “God” or references to prayer. While there’s nothing wrong with that, many first-timers may not realize this up-front, and those with differing views or religious trauma might find the tone a bit triggering (or, at the very least, a turn-off).
Neuroscience fact: The area of the brain known as the ventromedial prefrontal cortex (vmPFC) lights up when we make a judgment about another person. Curiously, if that judgment is positive, we get a “dopamine hit” that makes us feel good.
The AA Preamble emphasizes the importance of sharing stories — a crucial component of AA, which is based on people sharing their experiences with alcohol and giving hope to others that recovery is possible. This openness removes the stigma some might feel about their alcohol use: whatever we did, chances are, someone else has done the same thing (or worse). However much we drank, it’s all but certain that someone else drank even more than we did. And while this experience most likely wreaked havoc in our lives at the time, it can now serve as a way to connect with others who’ve been in our shoes.
Whether or not AA is ultimately right for us, having a support team willing to lend a helping hand and an empathetic ear is crucial in recovery. We are “social animals” by nature, and any complex task is infinitely easier with a solid support system to back us up, support us when things get rough, and celebrate our milestones.
Neuroscience fact: When we hear someone share their story, our mirror neurons activate, allowing us to empathize and connect with their experience. Mirror neurons fire when we watch someone perform an action as opposed to engaging in it ourselves. This shared experience, in turn, fosters empathy, makes us closer to others, and supports recovery for everyone involved. It’s a win-win!
Finally, while reading the same couple of paragraphs at the beginning of every meeting might seem a bit repetitive, there’s a reason for the reinforcement. Building new habits is all about repetition, and the AA Preamble reinforces the main points to keep in mind along the way.
And, just like its other benefits, the value of repetition goes beyond the Preamble! Repeating behaviors we want to make automatic can feel tedious at first, but before we know it, neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to adapt and change — makes it easier. Remember, habit formation is all about repetition and reinforcement, and our thoughts and behaviors around alcohol are no different. The more we state our intentions while engaging in alcohol-free activities of any sort, the more we strengthen our connection with the habits fueling our new lifestyle and reinforce our commitment to them.
Neuroscience fact: The brain loves patterns, and repetition strengthens existing connections. Known as “Hebbian learning,” this phenomenon is captured in the saying “neurons that fire together wire together.” Repetition, in turn, serves as a sort of neurological glue that fosters these connections.
The AA Preamble might be useful for its purposes, but that doesn’t mean AA itself is for everyone. And that’s okay! For a deep dive, check out “Best Alternatives for AA.” For now, here are some options to think about:
Remember, whatever path you choose for your recovery, the most important part is this: you’ve decided to change your relationship with alcohol. That’s great! There’s so much to look forward to and so many perks to discover for yourself. And Reframe is here to support you, cheer you on, and help you reach your goals!
When it comes to the AA Preamble, it’s helpful to focus on the benefits of having a “preamble” for our alcohol journey as a whole — whatever form that takes. In the words of Tara Stiles:
“Our bodies and our minds have their own timing that pay little attention to our cerebral desires. We can't force or expect things to change as fast as we want, but when we put our efforts in the direction of our intention and drop everything else like snow falling, things unfold with ease.”
And if we set our intentions about alcohol — and, better yet, put them in writing — we can look forward to a healthier, happier version of ourselves “unfolding with ease” each day that we stay on our path!
If you’ve been to a few AA meetings, you’ve probably noticed some similarities across the board. There’s usually a round of introductions with most members saying, “My name is so-and-so, and I’m an alcoholic.” The 12 Steps are probably hanging on the wall. There’s probably coffee. And yes, the meeting usually starts with the reading of the AA Preamble.
But what is the purpose of the Alcoholics Anonymous Preamble? Let’s look into it.
First, let’s take a brief look at Alcoholics Anonymous itself. To learn about the ins and outs of AA and AA meetings, check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” and “What To Expect at an AA Meeting.” For now, here’s the gist:
The meetings are where the Preamble comes into the picture.
The Alcoholics Anonymous Preamble is read at the beginning of AA meetings. Short and sweet, it’s a concise statement introducing the group’s mission and principles. But what exactly is the purpose of the AA Preamble, and how does it contribute to the recovery process? Let’s take a closer look!
Once we hear the Preamble, there’s no mistaking what door we walked into — we’re definitely at an AA meeting — “a fellowship of people who share their experience, strength and hope.” Most importantly, we’re all here for the same reason — “to solve our common problem and help others recover from alcoholism.”
By emphasizing this goal, the AA Preamble reinforces it and makes clear what AA is all about. And while many might know this already, it never hurts to repeat it!
In fact, even if we end up finding that AA isn’t right for us, putting our “why” — our reasons for changing our relationship with booze — into a concise and clear statement is a great idea. Maybe we want to improve our cardiovascular health, sharpen our cognitive skills, or lose some weight. Or maybe the reason has to do with building more authentic friendships, spending more time with our kids, or strengthening our relationship with our partner. Whatever it is, stating it clearly is the first step.
Next, it’s a good idea to put our “purpose statement” in a place where we’ll come across it daily. Whether we write it on a post-it note and stick it to the bathroom mirror or use a phone widget to create a digital reminder, the effect is the same: seeing our “purpose statement” is a visual reminder of why we decided to make a shift in our daily habits.
Neuroscience fact: There’s an area of neuroscience that deals with the “purpose-driven life” hypothesis. This fascinating research field is all about how mental, emotional, social, and spiritual factors can directly affect our health. The idea behind it is that having a sense of purpose can actually make us physically stronger and more resilient, staving off dementia, improving cardiovascular health, and improving the outcomes of stroke and spinal cord injuries. Purpose statement, here we come! And remember, it doesn’t have to be in the context of AA — feel free to define yours however you want.
One thing is clear about AA: it tries to set a welcoming vibe with minimal expectations. The Preamble reaffirms that. As the second paragraph reads, “The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.” It also mentions that AA is always free and “self-supporting” — contributions are completely voluntary.
Making this tone of inclusivity clear from the start can go a long way to making newcomers feel comfortable. Even if we drank the night before, or that morning, or five minutes before the meeting, we know that we’re still welcome.
That said, while the statement works well to welcome those who want booze out of their lives completely, it’s not as inclusive when it comes to everyone else. A casual drinker exploring a sober-curious lifestyle or trying a Sober October or Dry January challenge to experience the benefits of drinking less without making a lifelong commitment might not feel quite as welcome. (Luckily, there are many AA alternatives — more on that later.)
Neuroscience fact: Social support triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone that promotes feelings of trust and bonding. In addition to making us feel good naturally, it reduces stress — a common trigger for alcohol use.
According to the Preamble, AA “is not aligned with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution,” doesn’t wish to “engage in any controversy,” or support any “opposing causes.”
While this purported neutrality sounds good, this is also where things get a bit muddled. It’s true that AA considers itself to be “spiritual but not religious,” and yet it’s impossible to go through a meeting without hearing the word “God” or references to prayer. While there’s nothing wrong with that, many first-timers may not realize this up-front, and those with differing views or religious trauma might find the tone a bit triggering (or, at the very least, a turn-off).
Neuroscience fact: The area of the brain known as the ventromedial prefrontal cortex (vmPFC) lights up when we make a judgment about another person. Curiously, if that judgment is positive, we get a “dopamine hit” that makes us feel good.
The AA Preamble emphasizes the importance of sharing stories — a crucial component of AA, which is based on people sharing their experiences with alcohol and giving hope to others that recovery is possible. This openness removes the stigma some might feel about their alcohol use: whatever we did, chances are, someone else has done the same thing (or worse). However much we drank, it’s all but certain that someone else drank even more than we did. And while this experience most likely wreaked havoc in our lives at the time, it can now serve as a way to connect with others who’ve been in our shoes.
Whether or not AA is ultimately right for us, having a support team willing to lend a helping hand and an empathetic ear is crucial in recovery. We are “social animals” by nature, and any complex task is infinitely easier with a solid support system to back us up, support us when things get rough, and celebrate our milestones.
Neuroscience fact: When we hear someone share their story, our mirror neurons activate, allowing us to empathize and connect with their experience. Mirror neurons fire when we watch someone perform an action as opposed to engaging in it ourselves. This shared experience, in turn, fosters empathy, makes us closer to others, and supports recovery for everyone involved. It’s a win-win!
Finally, while reading the same couple of paragraphs at the beginning of every meeting might seem a bit repetitive, there’s a reason for the reinforcement. Building new habits is all about repetition, and the AA Preamble reinforces the main points to keep in mind along the way.
And, just like its other benefits, the value of repetition goes beyond the Preamble! Repeating behaviors we want to make automatic can feel tedious at first, but before we know it, neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to adapt and change — makes it easier. Remember, habit formation is all about repetition and reinforcement, and our thoughts and behaviors around alcohol are no different. The more we state our intentions while engaging in alcohol-free activities of any sort, the more we strengthen our connection with the habits fueling our new lifestyle and reinforce our commitment to them.
Neuroscience fact: The brain loves patterns, and repetition strengthens existing connections. Known as “Hebbian learning,” this phenomenon is captured in the saying “neurons that fire together wire together.” Repetition, in turn, serves as a sort of neurological glue that fosters these connections.
The AA Preamble might be useful for its purposes, but that doesn’t mean AA itself is for everyone. And that’s okay! For a deep dive, check out “Best Alternatives for AA.” For now, here are some options to think about:
Remember, whatever path you choose for your recovery, the most important part is this: you’ve decided to change your relationship with alcohol. That’s great! There’s so much to look forward to and so many perks to discover for yourself. And Reframe is here to support you, cheer you on, and help you reach your goals!
When it comes to the AA Preamble, it’s helpful to focus on the benefits of having a “preamble” for our alcohol journey as a whole — whatever form that takes. In the words of Tara Stiles:
“Our bodies and our minds have their own timing that pay little attention to our cerebral desires. We can't force or expect things to change as fast as we want, but when we put our efforts in the direction of our intention and drop everything else like snow falling, things unfold with ease.”
And if we set our intentions about alcohol — and, better yet, put them in writing — we can look forward to a healthier, happier version of ourselves “unfolding with ease” each day that we stay on our path!
What is the First Step of AA all about? Learn why admitting powerlessness over booze is so highly emphasized. Then, explore a more scientific approach with us!
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
It started out as harmless fun. Parties on the weekend, trivia night with a pitcher of beer on Thursdays with some pals from work, wine with dinner. Somehow the amount you drank kept increasing until you found yourself downing more than you set out to on a regular basis. The exact amount doesn’t matter. Whether you got to the point where you had to throw back a couple of beers in the morning just to stop the shakes or you found yourself waking up at 3 a.m. in a cold sweat, trying to piece the previous night together and making damage control plans, one thing is clear: alcohol has taken up way more real estate in your life than you’d like — and you’re ready to do something about it.
This realization, in turn, is what the First Step of AA — also considered the most important aspect of the program — is all about. But while there’s value in facing our demons head-on and being honest about our relationship with booze, the way the First Step is presented has some serious drawbacks. Let’s dig deeper into the First Step, AA’s take on it, and a “reframed” version that’s a bit more science-based and optimistic.
First things first: what is Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)? And what are the Steps? AA is the brainchild of Bill Wilson, a stockbroker who nearly lost his life to booze before a spontaneous recovery. It’s a fellowship of people who found themselves in the grip of what we now call alcohol use disorder (AUD). The idea is simple: like-minded people coming together to help each other by sharing stories, offering advice, and working through the “12 Steps.” The Steps serve as recovery instructions, steering people onto the path of sobriety and productive living by cleaning up the aftermath booze left in their own lives and helping others in the same boat.
Some swear by it, some can’t stomach its less-than-scientific claims (go figure — it was started nearly a century ago), and others fall somewhere in between. For a closer look, check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” For now, let’s focus on the First Step, AA’s take on it, and what might be a more palatable (and science-based) version.
So what is this famous First Step? Here goes: “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and our lives have become unmanageable.” In other words, the First Step is admitting that booze got the better of us, as well as acknowledging the fact that our lives became a mess as a result.
What that mess looks like depends on the person. Some of us might be walking into the meeting having been court-ordered to do so after our last DUI. Others might be “functional,” taking swigs of vodka from a coffee thermos between Zoom conferences and PTA meetings. The only requirement, as the AA Preamble says, is the desire to stop drinking.
There’s a useful image that illustrates the power alcohol can have over us, and how the First Step can help. It’s the carnivorous “pitcher plant” analogy that addiction specialist Allen Carr describes in The Easy Way To Control Alcohol. Here’s the gist:
Luckily, however, there’s light at the end of the tunnel for us. While we might indeed feel like we’re hopelessly stuck, this is where our paths diverge from those of the doomed bugs. We can get out, and it starts with that famous First Step.
The First Step of AA lays the foundation for the whole program.
It puts us in “honesty mode.” If we’ve been struggling for a while, it’s likely that we’ve been less than honest about our daily dealings with others (and, even worse, with ourselves). What started out as a few “white lies” might have morphed into full-blown deception. The First Step, in turn, creates an opportunity to interrupt the cycle of lies and broken promises.
It’s about letting go of control. Releasing control is another key component of the AA program, which is echoed in the Serenity Prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
In a way, the First Step (which is usually read at the beginning of an AA meeting) and the Serenity Prayer (the traditional closing) create a “bookend” structure around the meeting. Both are about accepting reality while taking an active step toward change.
The powerlessness at the heart of the First Step might appear baffling to the outside observer. “Why don’t they just stop?” is a question that keeps our loved ones awake at night as they witness our descent into the “pitcher.” In fact, it’s the same question that probably keeps us up as well. Why in the world are we powerless to stop what looks like voluntary behavior?
The First Step, in turn, is calling out this mess for what it is. We’re stuck between a rock and a hard place: wanting something and yet wishing we didn’t want it at the same time. Unmanageable indeed.
That said, the way the First Step is phrased misses a critical component — one that’s also backed by science. Understanding how the brain responds to alcohol gives us the tools to reclaim our own power on our own terms. The result? We break free from the trap and are no longer dependent on booze (or, for that matter, on AA). Instead of dwelling on our “powerlessness,” we focus on the power we have to rewire our own brain.
How can we make this magic happen? The answer lies in neuro-plasticity — the brain’s ability to change and adapt. There’s a beautiful symmetry here: the very thing that got us into the alcohol trap — our brain adjusting to the presence of alcohol — can also help get us out.
According to research, simply staying away from booze begins the process of rewiring the brain. The longer we abstain, the easier it gets, as new neural circuits get established. It’s a bit like creating a ski track in the snow: the first go is the hardest, but before we know it we’re gliding along almost effortlessly. It’s important to note, however, that for those of us who struggled with AUD in the past, drinking again isn’t a good idea. History can — and often does — repeat itself.
There’s a saying that illustrates this concept: “Neurons that fire together wire together.” In other words, the more we repeat a certain behavior, the stronger the connection between all of its constituent parts — in this case, the way we react to and behave around booze.
Scientists at MIT demonstrated this process in action and even found a key protein (called Arc) that serves as a neurochemical trigger to get neighboring neurons to sync up. The lead author compares this uncanny ability to “a massive school of fish [that] can suddenly change direction, en masse, so long as the lead fish turns and every other fish obeys the simple rule of following the fish right in front of it.”
Thanks to the power of neuroplasticity, the physical part of recovery kicks off as soon as we set down the glass, bottle, or coffee thermos we stash our booze in. Our brain adjusts to the “new” new normal: soon enough we’re no longer physically dependent, our dopamine levels begin to get restored, and our mood starts to lift. Hooray! We might still feel some emotional dependence on it, but that’s about to change, too.
Here’s the best news: in addition to recovering physically, we can actually be happy about it. The more we see through the illusion of pleasure alcohol created through its chemical shenanigans in our brain, the more our desire for it fades away.
This is what cognitive behavioral therapy is all about: uncovering our subconscious beliefs about alcohol and reframing these cognitive distortions in a way that changes how we feel about drinking.
For example, maybe you think you need booze to socialize. Okay, let’s look at the evidence. Were we able to have fun at social events before we drank? Of course — just think of the booze-free fun you had as a child running around the playground, feeding pigeons in the park, or building pillow forts in the living room. Now, think about all those embarrassing late-night phone calls, hangovers that made you cancel plans, and morning-after regrets. Chances are, they didn’t do much for your social life.
Moreover, by understanding alcohol’s effects on dopamine, we can finally understand why we kept drinking in the first place against our own better judgment (and, seemingly, even against our will). As Annie Grace explains in This Naked Mind,
“It’s important to understand the difference between wanting and liking. When I was in the deepest levels of my addiction, the cravings were overwhelming to the point where I felt I was no longer in control. Yet the pleasure I got from drinking was practically nonexistent.”
In other words, our intense desire for booze was driven by our brain running on autopilot, demanding that we continue doing what we’ve done before. It’s no accident that dopamine is involved in the process of learning — we’re naturally driven to repeat what we’ve done before, even if the dopamine hit we get from it is barely enough to return us to baseline.
The result of this insight is nothing short of a (scientific) miracle. As Grace goes on to say:
“When you completely change your mental (conscious and unconscious) perspective on alcohol, you begin to see the truth about drinking. When this happens, no willpower is required, and it becomes a joy not to drink.”
Interestingly, AA can actually foster this shift to some extent, but doesn’t give science any credit for it. People who keep going to meetings while helping others in the same boat really do start feeling better — often to the point that they no longer crave alcohol. However, what’s most likely happening is they’re seeing through the illusion alcohol created.
Hearing others’ stories, examining our own, and watching enough newcomers walk (or stumble) through the doors to take their own First Step adds up to a mountain of undeniable evidence that drinking too much doesn’t end well. In fact, the AA saying that “the newcomer is the most important person in any meeting” has a double meaning. Yes, it’s about helping those who need it the most. But it’s also about remembering that we don’t want to end up in their shoes again.
Moreover, the very act of helping others also plays a key role. Science says that authentic interactions and a genuine effort to help those around us is a natural way to boost “happy” neurochemicals such as dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. In fact, it’s one of the best “natural highs”!
So how do we go about taking the First Step of AA (or its “reframed” version)? It’s actually easier than we might think. In fact, chances are, if we’re walking through the doors of that church basement — or even reading about it in order to find guidance for our current situation — we’ve already taken it. And even if we decide not to go to AA, just being mindful about wanting to change can set us up for success. As Ann Voskamp writes in One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are, “Sometimes you don’t know when you’re taking the First Step through a door until you’re already inside.”
Once we’ve made a decision, there are many ways we can build a booze-free life. This is the fun part — the sky’s the limit, and there’s so much to look forward to! Therapy, other support groups, and apps such as Reframe are all great ways to make lasting shifts in our relationship with alcohol. It’s all about understanding our own mind to put booze in the background and focus our energy on finding new sources of joy and becoming happier, healthier versions of ourselves.
It started out as harmless fun. Parties on the weekend, trivia night with a pitcher of beer on Thursdays with some pals from work, wine with dinner. Somehow the amount you drank kept increasing until you found yourself downing more than you set out to on a regular basis. The exact amount doesn’t matter. Whether you got to the point where you had to throw back a couple of beers in the morning just to stop the shakes or you found yourself waking up at 3 a.m. in a cold sweat, trying to piece the previous night together and making damage control plans, one thing is clear: alcohol has taken up way more real estate in your life than you’d like — and you’re ready to do something about it.
This realization, in turn, is what the First Step of AA — also considered the most important aspect of the program — is all about. But while there’s value in facing our demons head-on and being honest about our relationship with booze, the way the First Step is presented has some serious drawbacks. Let’s dig deeper into the First Step, AA’s take on it, and a “reframed” version that’s a bit more science-based and optimistic.
First things first: what is Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)? And what are the Steps? AA is the brainchild of Bill Wilson, a stockbroker who nearly lost his life to booze before a spontaneous recovery. It’s a fellowship of people who found themselves in the grip of what we now call alcohol use disorder (AUD). The idea is simple: like-minded people coming together to help each other by sharing stories, offering advice, and working through the “12 Steps.” The Steps serve as recovery instructions, steering people onto the path of sobriety and productive living by cleaning up the aftermath booze left in their own lives and helping others in the same boat.
Some swear by it, some can’t stomach its less-than-scientific claims (go figure — it was started nearly a century ago), and others fall somewhere in between. For a closer look, check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” For now, let’s focus on the First Step, AA’s take on it, and what might be a more palatable (and science-based) version.
So what is this famous First Step? Here goes: “We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and our lives have become unmanageable.” In other words, the First Step is admitting that booze got the better of us, as well as acknowledging the fact that our lives became a mess as a result.
What that mess looks like depends on the person. Some of us might be walking into the meeting having been court-ordered to do so after our last DUI. Others might be “functional,” taking swigs of vodka from a coffee thermos between Zoom conferences and PTA meetings. The only requirement, as the AA Preamble says, is the desire to stop drinking.
There’s a useful image that illustrates the power alcohol can have over us, and how the First Step can help. It’s the carnivorous “pitcher plant” analogy that addiction specialist Allen Carr describes in The Easy Way To Control Alcohol. Here’s the gist:
Luckily, however, there’s light at the end of the tunnel for us. While we might indeed feel like we’re hopelessly stuck, this is where our paths diverge from those of the doomed bugs. We can get out, and it starts with that famous First Step.
The First Step of AA lays the foundation for the whole program.
It puts us in “honesty mode.” If we’ve been struggling for a while, it’s likely that we’ve been less than honest about our daily dealings with others (and, even worse, with ourselves). What started out as a few “white lies” might have morphed into full-blown deception. The First Step, in turn, creates an opportunity to interrupt the cycle of lies and broken promises.
It’s about letting go of control. Releasing control is another key component of the AA program, which is echoed in the Serenity Prayer: “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
In a way, the First Step (which is usually read at the beginning of an AA meeting) and the Serenity Prayer (the traditional closing) create a “bookend” structure around the meeting. Both are about accepting reality while taking an active step toward change.
The powerlessness at the heart of the First Step might appear baffling to the outside observer. “Why don’t they just stop?” is a question that keeps our loved ones awake at night as they witness our descent into the “pitcher.” In fact, it’s the same question that probably keeps us up as well. Why in the world are we powerless to stop what looks like voluntary behavior?
The First Step, in turn, is calling out this mess for what it is. We’re stuck between a rock and a hard place: wanting something and yet wishing we didn’t want it at the same time. Unmanageable indeed.
That said, the way the First Step is phrased misses a critical component — one that’s also backed by science. Understanding how the brain responds to alcohol gives us the tools to reclaim our own power on our own terms. The result? We break free from the trap and are no longer dependent on booze (or, for that matter, on AA). Instead of dwelling on our “powerlessness,” we focus on the power we have to rewire our own brain.
How can we make this magic happen? The answer lies in neuro-plasticity — the brain’s ability to change and adapt. There’s a beautiful symmetry here: the very thing that got us into the alcohol trap — our brain adjusting to the presence of alcohol — can also help get us out.
According to research, simply staying away from booze begins the process of rewiring the brain. The longer we abstain, the easier it gets, as new neural circuits get established. It’s a bit like creating a ski track in the snow: the first go is the hardest, but before we know it we’re gliding along almost effortlessly. It’s important to note, however, that for those of us who struggled with AUD in the past, drinking again isn’t a good idea. History can — and often does — repeat itself.
There’s a saying that illustrates this concept: “Neurons that fire together wire together.” In other words, the more we repeat a certain behavior, the stronger the connection between all of its constituent parts — in this case, the way we react to and behave around booze.
Scientists at MIT demonstrated this process in action and even found a key protein (called Arc) that serves as a neurochemical trigger to get neighboring neurons to sync up. The lead author compares this uncanny ability to “a massive school of fish [that] can suddenly change direction, en masse, so long as the lead fish turns and every other fish obeys the simple rule of following the fish right in front of it.”
Thanks to the power of neuroplasticity, the physical part of recovery kicks off as soon as we set down the glass, bottle, or coffee thermos we stash our booze in. Our brain adjusts to the “new” new normal: soon enough we’re no longer physically dependent, our dopamine levels begin to get restored, and our mood starts to lift. Hooray! We might still feel some emotional dependence on it, but that’s about to change, too.
Here’s the best news: in addition to recovering physically, we can actually be happy about it. The more we see through the illusion of pleasure alcohol created through its chemical shenanigans in our brain, the more our desire for it fades away.
This is what cognitive behavioral therapy is all about: uncovering our subconscious beliefs about alcohol and reframing these cognitive distortions in a way that changes how we feel about drinking.
For example, maybe you think you need booze to socialize. Okay, let’s look at the evidence. Were we able to have fun at social events before we drank? Of course — just think of the booze-free fun you had as a child running around the playground, feeding pigeons in the park, or building pillow forts in the living room. Now, think about all those embarrassing late-night phone calls, hangovers that made you cancel plans, and morning-after regrets. Chances are, they didn’t do much for your social life.
Moreover, by understanding alcohol’s effects on dopamine, we can finally understand why we kept drinking in the first place against our own better judgment (and, seemingly, even against our will). As Annie Grace explains in This Naked Mind,
“It’s important to understand the difference between wanting and liking. When I was in the deepest levels of my addiction, the cravings were overwhelming to the point where I felt I was no longer in control. Yet the pleasure I got from drinking was practically nonexistent.”
In other words, our intense desire for booze was driven by our brain running on autopilot, demanding that we continue doing what we’ve done before. It’s no accident that dopamine is involved in the process of learning — we’re naturally driven to repeat what we’ve done before, even if the dopamine hit we get from it is barely enough to return us to baseline.
The result of this insight is nothing short of a (scientific) miracle. As Grace goes on to say:
“When you completely change your mental (conscious and unconscious) perspective on alcohol, you begin to see the truth about drinking. When this happens, no willpower is required, and it becomes a joy not to drink.”
Interestingly, AA can actually foster this shift to some extent, but doesn’t give science any credit for it. People who keep going to meetings while helping others in the same boat really do start feeling better — often to the point that they no longer crave alcohol. However, what’s most likely happening is they’re seeing through the illusion alcohol created.
Hearing others’ stories, examining our own, and watching enough newcomers walk (or stumble) through the doors to take their own First Step adds up to a mountain of undeniable evidence that drinking too much doesn’t end well. In fact, the AA saying that “the newcomer is the most important person in any meeting” has a double meaning. Yes, it’s about helping those who need it the most. But it’s also about remembering that we don’t want to end up in their shoes again.
Moreover, the very act of helping others also plays a key role. Science says that authentic interactions and a genuine effort to help those around us is a natural way to boost “happy” neurochemicals such as dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. In fact, it’s one of the best “natural highs”!
So how do we go about taking the First Step of AA (or its “reframed” version)? It’s actually easier than we might think. In fact, chances are, if we’re walking through the doors of that church basement — or even reading about it in order to find guidance for our current situation — we’ve already taken it. And even if we decide not to go to AA, just being mindful about wanting to change can set us up for success. As Ann Voskamp writes in One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are, “Sometimes you don’t know when you’re taking the First Step through a door until you’re already inside.”
Once we’ve made a decision, there are many ways we can build a booze-free life. This is the fun part — the sky’s the limit, and there’s so much to look forward to! Therapy, other support groups, and apps such as Reframe are all great ways to make lasting shifts in our relationship with alcohol. It’s all about understanding our own mind to put booze in the background and focus our energy on finding new sources of joy and becoming happier, healthier versions of ourselves.
Wondering what AA meeting rules are, what cross-talk is in AA, and more? Check out our latest blog for AA rules and learn what topics to stay away from.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
At any gathering, the last thing you want to do is put your foot in your mouth. It happens to all of us at some time, but we have a better chance of avoiding embarrassment if we know the rules of a particular organization before walking through the door. That’s certainly true when it comes to Alcoholics Anonymous, or AA. So, if we’re considering attending an AA meeting, what are the rules? What is cross talk in AA, and why is it a no-no? What should we not say in AA to avoid upsetting anyone or risking an unpleasant interaction? Let’s find out!
What is Alcoholics Anonymous all about? For a deep dive, check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” For now, here are the basics:
If it turns out that AA isn’t for you, not to worry. There are plenty of AA alternatives out there. We’ll revisit this point at the end, but for now let’s dive into some AA etiquette.
What are the rules of AA meetings? And what should you not say in AA? Let’s tackle each question separately, as there are subtle differences at play here.
First, here are the (more or less) official AA meeting rules.
The first big no-no? Cross talk. What is cross-talk in AA? Cross talk refers to interrupting or directly addressing another person who is sharing during the meeting.
Why is cross talk a problem? Part of the reason has to do with anonymity. AA is meant to be a safe, nonjudgmental place for anyone to share their experience. Cross talk may come off as confrontational and disrupt that safe space that the program strives to maintain.
Even when it’s meant well, cross talk can put people on edge and make them hesitant to share in an open and honest way. That said, you can always approach someone after the meeting and offer help, ask questions, or make polite suggestions in a discreet way. In fact, that’s what “fellowship” is all about.
To allow as many members as possible to share, most discussion meetings will have a time limit for sharing. What that is depends on the meeting, but it’s usually in the 3–5 minute range. There will often be a designated timekeeper (especially at larger meetings) who’ll keep an eye on the clock and give a gentle reminder (usually by raising their hand) when time’s up. Of course, we don’t have to stop mid-sentence — it’s just a signal to start wrapping things up.
As the AA Preamble states, the meetings have a specific purpose — to share our experience with alcohol. (This is not the time to share our new frittata recipe or our predictions for the latest season of Love Is Blind.)
That said, if the story relates to our recovery, it’s fair game. And let’s face it, especially in the early days, pretty much everything does. If we’ve been drinking heavily for a long time, chances are many aspects of our lives — including our culinary endeavors and TV program choices — have either been affected by, or perhaps became triggers for, our drinking. If so, it’s good to get things off our chest and share away!
Some meetings might have a discussion topic that is introduced at the start of the meeting. Common ones include “gratitude in recovery,” “the importance of fellowship,” “living life on life’s terms,” and other broad but relevant subjects. If that’s the case, we should try to relate our share to the chosen topic, but we shouldn’t feel compelled to do so if there’s something we need to get off our chest. In the end, all meetings are for helping each other stay sober — that’s always the top priority.
When we hear others share their struggles, it can be tempting to jump in with “solutions.” But when it comes to AA, there’s a time and a place for that — and that time is not during the meeting. Instead, try to phrase any suggestions in terms of your own experience to avoid giving what might be perceived as unsolicited advice (or that cross talk we mentioned earlier). Here are some examples:
Remember, we can always approach another member after the meeting to see if they want to chat! In fact, even if we find that AA isn’t right for us after all, we might end up making lasting friendships with those in the same boat. So feel free to connect with people in more informal ways outside of meetings — they could end up being a valuable support system (and might also be looking for AA alternatives).
The fact that AA is meant to be a safe space to share our stories without sensitive information leaving the room is the cornerstone of AA. After all, it’s in the name: we can expect to remain anonymous. There’s an AA saying that some groups repeat at the beginning of each meeting: “What you hear here, whom you see here, let it remain here, when you leave here!” And they mean it! Blabbing about someone else’s bender to the outside world is a huge no-no.
Just think about it: Would you want someone else to tell their friends or family about the number of beers you fessed up to drinking this St. Patrick’s Day, or the fight you had with your partner about those empty bottles at the back of your closet? Plus, those stories have a way of making it back to our nosy neighbors, coworkers, or in-laws, so it’s best for everyone to keep what they hear to themselves.
Sharing honestly is encouraged, but any “woe is me” talk is likely to be frowned upon. Personal responsibility is huge in AA, and while we obviously can talk about pressures we’re experiencing from others or difficulties we’re having in our relationships, it’s important to make sure we’re sticking to “our side of the street” and not blaming our problems on someone else. It’s all about what we can control — and while we don’t have to like the rest, sometimes we just need to accept it.
Now, we come to the “unofficial” guidelines about what might not be such a great idea to say in one of those church basements. Rather than rules, they are bits of friendly advice from members on avoiding potentially unpleasant interactions.
Now, we’re certainly not saying there aren’t other ways to get sober. In fact, many find that some of the more science-based AA alternatives work better for them than the “spiritual but not religious” steps of AA. For a deep dive, check out “Best AA Alternatives.” Just don’t mention them at an AA meeting — it might get people stirred up, and there’s no point trying to talk an AA advocate out of their views that 12 Step programs are the be-all and end-all of recovery.
As far as AA is concerned, once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. And while the AA view of alcoholism as a type of “allergy” is less than scientific, there actually is science behind the risks of someone with alcohol use disorder (AUD) drinking again. That said, the question of moderate drinking might be on our mind, especially if we’re at the stage of wanting to explore a sober-curious lifestyle or are interested in cutting back rather than quitting completely.
There’s no wiggle room when it comes to ”just cutting back” in AA. The AA fellowship is for folks who have decided booze isn’t for them — period. If we’re wanting to explore a sober-curious lifestyle for health reasons, try a Dry January or Sober October challenge, or simply cut back (at least for now), saying so could get us the side-eye from other members. Some might even approach us after the meeting in an effort to “clarify” some things we might be “missing” about our relationship with booze. Rest assured, they mean well, but their efforts might not sit well with you, so keep this in mind!
Finally, as we already mentioned, spirituality is huge in AA, and challenging the “Higher Power” concept isn’t going to land well. That said, we should feel free to choose a path that’s right for us. Let’s look at some alternatives!
What if AA isn’t working for you? For a deep dive, check out the other blogs we mentioned earlier. For now, here’s a brief overview.
It doesn’t matter which road you take to recovery, and the decision is a personal one! The most important thing is finding what works for you.
Whatever path you choose, the main thing to remember is that you've made a commitment to a brighter future by changing your relationship with alcohol. Only good things await! The rest, ultimately, is details. And here at Reframe we’re happy to support you every step of the way, to be there for you when things get rough, and to celebrate your wins!
At any gathering, the last thing you want to do is put your foot in your mouth. It happens to all of us at some time, but we have a better chance of avoiding embarrassment if we know the rules of a particular organization before walking through the door. That’s certainly true when it comes to Alcoholics Anonymous, or AA. So, if we’re considering attending an AA meeting, what are the rules? What is cross talk in AA, and why is it a no-no? What should we not say in AA to avoid upsetting anyone or risking an unpleasant interaction? Let’s find out!
What is Alcoholics Anonymous all about? For a deep dive, check out “How Does Alcoholics Anonymous Work?” For now, here are the basics:
If it turns out that AA isn’t for you, not to worry. There are plenty of AA alternatives out there. We’ll revisit this point at the end, but for now let’s dive into some AA etiquette.
What are the rules of AA meetings? And what should you not say in AA? Let’s tackle each question separately, as there are subtle differences at play here.
First, here are the (more or less) official AA meeting rules.
The first big no-no? Cross talk. What is cross-talk in AA? Cross talk refers to interrupting or directly addressing another person who is sharing during the meeting.
Why is cross talk a problem? Part of the reason has to do with anonymity. AA is meant to be a safe, nonjudgmental place for anyone to share their experience. Cross talk may come off as confrontational and disrupt that safe space that the program strives to maintain.
Even when it’s meant well, cross talk can put people on edge and make them hesitant to share in an open and honest way. That said, you can always approach someone after the meeting and offer help, ask questions, or make polite suggestions in a discreet way. In fact, that’s what “fellowship” is all about.
To allow as many members as possible to share, most discussion meetings will have a time limit for sharing. What that is depends on the meeting, but it’s usually in the 3–5 minute range. There will often be a designated timekeeper (especially at larger meetings) who’ll keep an eye on the clock and give a gentle reminder (usually by raising their hand) when time’s up. Of course, we don’t have to stop mid-sentence — it’s just a signal to start wrapping things up.
As the AA Preamble states, the meetings have a specific purpose — to share our experience with alcohol. (This is not the time to share our new frittata recipe or our predictions for the latest season of Love Is Blind.)
That said, if the story relates to our recovery, it’s fair game. And let’s face it, especially in the early days, pretty much everything does. If we’ve been drinking heavily for a long time, chances are many aspects of our lives — including our culinary endeavors and TV program choices — have either been affected by, or perhaps became triggers for, our drinking. If so, it’s good to get things off our chest and share away!
Some meetings might have a discussion topic that is introduced at the start of the meeting. Common ones include “gratitude in recovery,” “the importance of fellowship,” “living life on life’s terms,” and other broad but relevant subjects. If that’s the case, we should try to relate our share to the chosen topic, but we shouldn’t feel compelled to do so if there’s something we need to get off our chest. In the end, all meetings are for helping each other stay sober — that’s always the top priority.
When we hear others share their struggles, it can be tempting to jump in with “solutions.” But when it comes to AA, there’s a time and a place for that — and that time is not during the meeting. Instead, try to phrase any suggestions in terms of your own experience to avoid giving what might be perceived as unsolicited advice (or that cross talk we mentioned earlier). Here are some examples:
Remember, we can always approach another member after the meeting to see if they want to chat! In fact, even if we find that AA isn’t right for us after all, we might end up making lasting friendships with those in the same boat. So feel free to connect with people in more informal ways outside of meetings — they could end up being a valuable support system (and might also be looking for AA alternatives).
The fact that AA is meant to be a safe space to share our stories without sensitive information leaving the room is the cornerstone of AA. After all, it’s in the name: we can expect to remain anonymous. There’s an AA saying that some groups repeat at the beginning of each meeting: “What you hear here, whom you see here, let it remain here, when you leave here!” And they mean it! Blabbing about someone else’s bender to the outside world is a huge no-no.
Just think about it: Would you want someone else to tell their friends or family about the number of beers you fessed up to drinking this St. Patrick’s Day, or the fight you had with your partner about those empty bottles at the back of your closet? Plus, those stories have a way of making it back to our nosy neighbors, coworkers, or in-laws, so it’s best for everyone to keep what they hear to themselves.
Sharing honestly is encouraged, but any “woe is me” talk is likely to be frowned upon. Personal responsibility is huge in AA, and while we obviously can talk about pressures we’re experiencing from others or difficulties we’re having in our relationships, it’s important to make sure we’re sticking to “our side of the street” and not blaming our problems on someone else. It’s all about what we can control — and while we don’t have to like the rest, sometimes we just need to accept it.
Now, we come to the “unofficial” guidelines about what might not be such a great idea to say in one of those church basements. Rather than rules, they are bits of friendly advice from members on avoiding potentially unpleasant interactions.
Now, we’re certainly not saying there aren’t other ways to get sober. In fact, many find that some of the more science-based AA alternatives work better for them than the “spiritual but not religious” steps of AA. For a deep dive, check out “Best AA Alternatives.” Just don’t mention them at an AA meeting — it might get people stirred up, and there’s no point trying to talk an AA advocate out of their views that 12 Step programs are the be-all and end-all of recovery.
As far as AA is concerned, once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. And while the AA view of alcoholism as a type of “allergy” is less than scientific, there actually is science behind the risks of someone with alcohol use disorder (AUD) drinking again. That said, the question of moderate drinking might be on our mind, especially if we’re at the stage of wanting to explore a sober-curious lifestyle or are interested in cutting back rather than quitting completely.
There’s no wiggle room when it comes to ”just cutting back” in AA. The AA fellowship is for folks who have decided booze isn’t for them — period. If we’re wanting to explore a sober-curious lifestyle for health reasons, try a Dry January or Sober October challenge, or simply cut back (at least for now), saying so could get us the side-eye from other members. Some might even approach us after the meeting in an effort to “clarify” some things we might be “missing” about our relationship with booze. Rest assured, they mean well, but their efforts might not sit well with you, so keep this in mind!
Finally, as we already mentioned, spirituality is huge in AA, and challenging the “Higher Power” concept isn’t going to land well. That said, we should feel free to choose a path that’s right for us. Let’s look at some alternatives!
What if AA isn’t working for you? For a deep dive, check out the other blogs we mentioned earlier. For now, here’s a brief overview.
It doesn’t matter which road you take to recovery, and the decision is a personal one! The most important thing is finding what works for you.
Whatever path you choose, the main thing to remember is that you've made a commitment to a brighter future by changing your relationship with alcohol. Only good things await! The rest, ultimately, is details. And here at Reframe we’re happy to support you every step of the way, to be there for you when things get rough, and to celebrate your wins!
Anonymity is one of the foundations of AA to protect its members and the group as a whole. Check out our latest blog for more info on the pros and cons of this decision.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Imagine walking into a room filled with unfamiliar faces, each one with their own struggles and stories of battling an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. The atmosphere may be warm, but at the same time somewhat reserved and definitely respectful. Introductions are by first name only, and personal details are shared with others only by those who choose to offer them. This is the world of Alcoholics Anonymous, or for short AA, where anonymity isn’t merely a guideline — it’s a core value.
But why does AA emphasize anonymity? Why is it so deeply embedded in its core values? Understanding the pros and cons of anonymity in AA’s philosophy may help you decide if this well-known option for stopping alcohol misuse feels like a good fit. A good place to start is at the beginning.
AA was founded in 1935 in Akron, Ohio, by Bill Wilson, who came to be known as “Bill W.,” and Bob Smith, or “Dr. Bob.” A stockbroker and a surgeon respectively, they began their recovery only after meeting each other and subsequently recognizing the power of peer support. Prior to the recognition of alcohol use disorder as a disease in 1956, it was seen as a “bad habit” or “moral failing.” Even today, we continue to work towards destigmatizing alcohol use disorder (AUD) as we spread awareness and reframe it through the lens — and facts — of neuroscience. As individuals who struggled with AUD nearly a century ago, the founders of AA understood all too well the shame, fear, and guilt associated with the condition and decided that anonymity was a way to open the doors and help others.
When they developed the core values, or Twelve Traditions of AA, anonymity was written into two of them. The 11th Tradition states that AA aims to attract rather than promote, and the 12th Tradition states that anonymity serves as the spiritual foundation of AA. But exactly what does that mean?
Anonymity in AA includes individual and group guidelines. For an individual, it doesn’t mean that we’re not allowed to disclose that we’re a member of AA, but instead that we have the right to choose whether we want to disclose that we’re a member and to whom. That also goes for respecting the anonymity of other members, whether they’re acquaintances, public figures, or people we’re meeting for the first time.
Public anonymity refers to the practice that AA members don’t refer to themselves as AA members using full names or full-face photos on publicly accessible content on the internet or in other media. This refers to social media platforms, websites, TV, film, newspapers, books, magazines, podcasts, speeches, presentations, and more. Members certainly may disclose their identity and speak as someone in recovery on public platforms, as long as their AA membership isn’t shared. Alternatively, members may speak as AA members if their names and faces aren’t revealed. Either way, members may share their knowledge and experiences before and during recovery without bringing in AA.
AA chooses to remain anonymous to protect individual members and the group as a whole. The founders of AA stressed the importance of equality of the members and unity in the fellowship. Here are five reasons AA stands firm in its choice to remain anonymous.
AA’s rule of anonymity protects its members’ identities. Members are therefore free to share without fear of judgment or repercussions. Anonymity encourages open and honest communication, which is critical in coming to terms with our drinking habits and developing strategies to overcome them.
Anonymity may not only be beneficial for current members, but it can also encourage participation of new members who might be hesitant to participate due to shame or fear of judgment. The stigma surrounding AUD is often a major barrier for those struggling to seek help, which AA’s anonymity can eliminate.
Rules to protect members’ identities also help promote equality among members — another core value of AA. The principle of equality unifies its members and serves as a reminder that AUD can affect anyone.
In Alcoholics Anonymous, social status, income, fame, and other external factors don’t matter. Everyone is treated equally, and everyone gets a fair chance to work towards a healthier and happier life by quitting alcohol. This removes stigma and other barriers that may impact motivation or ability to access support.
Members can tell their stories without sharing their identity. AA’s anonymity helps prevent misuse of members’ stories. Although hearing recovery stories can motivate others, everyone’s story is theirs to tell and not to be shared outside AA for any purpose, such as acquiring new members, gaining financial support, or promoting AA to the media. One of the Twelve Traditions of AA is to attract rather than promote.
Protecting members’ identities not only protects individuals but also AA’s reputation. While AA’s program may not work for everyone, it has worked for many people dealing with alcohol use disorder. So, imagine you’re thinking about going to a meeting just to see how you feel about it and then learning that a public figure you looked up to spoke poorly about the organization and their experience. The result: You might not go to the meeting based on that one person’s comments.
AA reports that, in the past, some members used their affiliation for personal gain through various business enterprises, jeopardizing AA’s reputation and dissuading potential members who might benefit from joining.
AA’s mission to stay anonymous as a group helps maintain the group’s focus on the core mission: recovery rather than personal gain or individual personalities. It makes the goal crystal clear: to recover from AUD and support others on the same journey.
Media attention, positive or negative, can distract from AA’s primary purpose. Imagine attending AA every week to recover from AUD, but a new Netflix documentary about AA has family and friends bombarding you with questions and comments. Or you’re perhaps finally seeing progress after attending AA meetings — until you stop going after reading media accounts about some member’s bad experience.
As we can see, AA’s anonymity has many positives — but there can also be some negatives.
Anonymity can be something of a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it can reduce stigma by protecting its members’ identities. On the other, it makes the organization seem a little ominous, leading to misperceptions. Over the years, anonymity has led some folks to perceive the organization as a kind of cult or secret society, although often they have just not understood the program.
With anonymity comes less public accountability. Some argue that anonymity fosters secrecy, which can promote unhealthy dynamics within a group. Think of the power of public accountability in our own community and how we value our ability to hold our town council accountable for proper management of utilities and finances. Transparency sets standards for integrity and, when necessary, it can drive positive change.
Although AA is anonymous, its purpose and teachings are clear. So, if we’re trying to determine whether or not it’s right for us, what should we expect when stepping into the world of AA?
The core of AA is the support group meeting where members can listen and share their experiences and help each other navigate the Twelve Steps of the program. There are two types of meetings in AA: open and closed. Open meetings are for anyone interested in the program, and closed meetings are only for members who are struggling with alcohol misuse and are committed to quitting alcohol. Both open and closed meetings follow AA’s anonymity rules.
AA meetings may differ slightly but contain similar elements. They typically follow this structure:
After understanding what we can expect at an AA meeting and how it can be used to support our journey, we may find that it’s not a good fit for us. If so, there are other pathways to recovery we can explore that might better suit our needs
AA may not be for everyone as we discuss in “Why 12 Step Programs Don’t Work For Everyone.” Fortunately, there are plenty of other recovery options we can explore.
While AA is a valuable support program for many, it’s worth exploring a range of options and tailoring the recovery journey to your unique needs.
The anonymity of AA may be perplexing, especially in this day and age where almost everything (too much?) is shared online. But AA continues to stand firm on its core value of anonymity, providing its members with both community and privacy in their recovery. These are undeniable benefits, but there are also some drawbacks to anonymity. At the end of the day, AA’s program may work for some, but not for everyone. Fortunately, there are plenty of routes we can take on our journey toward a happier, healthier life!
Imagine walking into a room filled with unfamiliar faces, each one with their own struggles and stories of battling an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. The atmosphere may be warm, but at the same time somewhat reserved and definitely respectful. Introductions are by first name only, and personal details are shared with others only by those who choose to offer them. This is the world of Alcoholics Anonymous, or for short AA, where anonymity isn’t merely a guideline — it’s a core value.
But why does AA emphasize anonymity? Why is it so deeply embedded in its core values? Understanding the pros and cons of anonymity in AA’s philosophy may help you decide if this well-known option for stopping alcohol misuse feels like a good fit. A good place to start is at the beginning.
AA was founded in 1935 in Akron, Ohio, by Bill Wilson, who came to be known as “Bill W.,” and Bob Smith, or “Dr. Bob.” A stockbroker and a surgeon respectively, they began their recovery only after meeting each other and subsequently recognizing the power of peer support. Prior to the recognition of alcohol use disorder as a disease in 1956, it was seen as a “bad habit” or “moral failing.” Even today, we continue to work towards destigmatizing alcohol use disorder (AUD) as we spread awareness and reframe it through the lens — and facts — of neuroscience. As individuals who struggled with AUD nearly a century ago, the founders of AA understood all too well the shame, fear, and guilt associated with the condition and decided that anonymity was a way to open the doors and help others.
When they developed the core values, or Twelve Traditions of AA, anonymity was written into two of them. The 11th Tradition states that AA aims to attract rather than promote, and the 12th Tradition states that anonymity serves as the spiritual foundation of AA. But exactly what does that mean?
Anonymity in AA includes individual and group guidelines. For an individual, it doesn’t mean that we’re not allowed to disclose that we’re a member of AA, but instead that we have the right to choose whether we want to disclose that we’re a member and to whom. That also goes for respecting the anonymity of other members, whether they’re acquaintances, public figures, or people we’re meeting for the first time.
Public anonymity refers to the practice that AA members don’t refer to themselves as AA members using full names or full-face photos on publicly accessible content on the internet or in other media. This refers to social media platforms, websites, TV, film, newspapers, books, magazines, podcasts, speeches, presentations, and more. Members certainly may disclose their identity and speak as someone in recovery on public platforms, as long as their AA membership isn’t shared. Alternatively, members may speak as AA members if their names and faces aren’t revealed. Either way, members may share their knowledge and experiences before and during recovery without bringing in AA.
AA chooses to remain anonymous to protect individual members and the group as a whole. The founders of AA stressed the importance of equality of the members and unity in the fellowship. Here are five reasons AA stands firm in its choice to remain anonymous.
AA’s rule of anonymity protects its members’ identities. Members are therefore free to share without fear of judgment or repercussions. Anonymity encourages open and honest communication, which is critical in coming to terms with our drinking habits and developing strategies to overcome them.
Anonymity may not only be beneficial for current members, but it can also encourage participation of new members who might be hesitant to participate due to shame or fear of judgment. The stigma surrounding AUD is often a major barrier for those struggling to seek help, which AA’s anonymity can eliminate.
Rules to protect members’ identities also help promote equality among members — another core value of AA. The principle of equality unifies its members and serves as a reminder that AUD can affect anyone.
In Alcoholics Anonymous, social status, income, fame, and other external factors don’t matter. Everyone is treated equally, and everyone gets a fair chance to work towards a healthier and happier life by quitting alcohol. This removes stigma and other barriers that may impact motivation or ability to access support.
Members can tell their stories without sharing their identity. AA’s anonymity helps prevent misuse of members’ stories. Although hearing recovery stories can motivate others, everyone’s story is theirs to tell and not to be shared outside AA for any purpose, such as acquiring new members, gaining financial support, or promoting AA to the media. One of the Twelve Traditions of AA is to attract rather than promote.
Protecting members’ identities not only protects individuals but also AA’s reputation. While AA’s program may not work for everyone, it has worked for many people dealing with alcohol use disorder. So, imagine you’re thinking about going to a meeting just to see how you feel about it and then learning that a public figure you looked up to spoke poorly about the organization and their experience. The result: You might not go to the meeting based on that one person’s comments.
AA reports that, in the past, some members used their affiliation for personal gain through various business enterprises, jeopardizing AA’s reputation and dissuading potential members who might benefit from joining.
AA’s mission to stay anonymous as a group helps maintain the group’s focus on the core mission: recovery rather than personal gain or individual personalities. It makes the goal crystal clear: to recover from AUD and support others on the same journey.
Media attention, positive or negative, can distract from AA’s primary purpose. Imagine attending AA every week to recover from AUD, but a new Netflix documentary about AA has family and friends bombarding you with questions and comments. Or you’re perhaps finally seeing progress after attending AA meetings — until you stop going after reading media accounts about some member’s bad experience.
As we can see, AA’s anonymity has many positives — but there can also be some negatives.
Anonymity can be something of a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it can reduce stigma by protecting its members’ identities. On the other, it makes the organization seem a little ominous, leading to misperceptions. Over the years, anonymity has led some folks to perceive the organization as a kind of cult or secret society, although often they have just not understood the program.
With anonymity comes less public accountability. Some argue that anonymity fosters secrecy, which can promote unhealthy dynamics within a group. Think of the power of public accountability in our own community and how we value our ability to hold our town council accountable for proper management of utilities and finances. Transparency sets standards for integrity and, when necessary, it can drive positive change.
Although AA is anonymous, its purpose and teachings are clear. So, if we’re trying to determine whether or not it’s right for us, what should we expect when stepping into the world of AA?
The core of AA is the support group meeting where members can listen and share their experiences and help each other navigate the Twelve Steps of the program. There are two types of meetings in AA: open and closed. Open meetings are for anyone interested in the program, and closed meetings are only for members who are struggling with alcohol misuse and are committed to quitting alcohol. Both open and closed meetings follow AA’s anonymity rules.
AA meetings may differ slightly but contain similar elements. They typically follow this structure:
After understanding what we can expect at an AA meeting and how it can be used to support our journey, we may find that it’s not a good fit for us. If so, there are other pathways to recovery we can explore that might better suit our needs
AA may not be for everyone as we discuss in “Why 12 Step Programs Don’t Work For Everyone.” Fortunately, there are plenty of other recovery options we can explore.
While AA is a valuable support program for many, it’s worth exploring a range of options and tailoring the recovery journey to your unique needs.
The anonymity of AA may be perplexing, especially in this day and age where almost everything (too much?) is shared online. But AA continues to stand firm on its core value of anonymity, providing its members with both community and privacy in their recovery. These are undeniable benefits, but there are also some drawbacks to anonymity. At the end of the day, AA’s program may work for some, but not for everyone. Fortunately, there are plenty of routes we can take on our journey toward a happier, healthier life!
Wondering how to go about making a relapse prevention plan? It’s all about being aware of your vulnerabilities. Use our Relapse Risk Calculator to stay on track!
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app today!
In the context of recovery from alcohol misuse, a relapse is a return to drinking after a period of abstinence. While the main trigger for relapse is holding on to the belief that alcohol serves you in some way, there are additional factors — such as stress or lack of support — that amplify the risk.
You said goodbye to alcohol and meant it. But then … you said hello again. As Craig Beck writes in Alcohol Lied to Me Again, “This journey backwards virtually always starts with the same sentence being uttered: ‘Surely just one drink won’t hurt.’”
First things first: you’re not alone. Relapse is a reality for many people on the alcohol journey, and it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. There’s also no such thing as “going back to square one”: once you set off on the path of recovery, you’ve been moving forward, even if that path involves a setback. As Reshma Saujani puts it, “There’s no more powerful lesson than knowing that your setbacks will one day help you succeed.”
That said, relapse is something we want to avoid if we can. And that’s where our handy Relapse Risk Calculator comes in!
Recovery from alcohol use disorder (AUD) can be a rocky road full of ups and downs. A relapse means we returned to drinking after a period of being booze-free. Here are the main things to understand about the science behind it:
Want to know more? Check out “Defining Relapse: A Rehearsal for Success,” and “How To Stay Sober After Recovering From Alcoholism” to learn about the signs of relapse and more. But now, let’s get practical — ready to calculate your relapse risk and form a plan?
Teasing out the factors that might set the stage for relapse can be tricky. Enter the Relapse Risk Calculator! By analyzing responses to questions about your history and current habits, it helps you pinpoint factors that might set the stage for a relapse. Think of these factors as relapse red flags marking the areas of your life where slight shifts can set you on the path to success.
Ready to “weatherproof” your recovery? Let’s get started!
Congrats! You just took an important step to a lasting recovery by filling out the Relapse Risk Calculator and finding the factors that might lead you down the relapse road. Now, let’s look at each one in a bit more detail.
Biologically, stress is the body’s response to danger — the so-called “fight-or-flight” mechanism. The stress response is triggered by the amygdala, which stimulates the release of “stress hormones” such as adrenaline and cortisol. The result? Our body switches into “emergency mode”: our heart rate and breathing rate increases, glucose gets pumped into the blood to provide fuel for our muscles, and functions such as digestion get put on hold.
While the stress response is a (literal) lifesaver when it comes to “fighting” or “fleeing” from actual danger (think raging fire or an angry buffalo), it leads to a host of health problems if it’s triggered unnecessarily, especially on a chronic basis. And yet it’s a modern-day reality for many of us: in 2022, over a third of American adults reported that stress was “completely overwhelming” for them on most days.
High stress is a known trigger for relapse. In fact, studies show that stress is a major factor in relapse because of how it affects the brain. For one thing, chronic stress lowers dopamine levels, making alcohol cravings more powerful. It also interferes with the prefrontal cortex — the decision-making hub of the brain involved in self-regulation and impulse control.
Lower your risk:
Recovery is a journey, and having a strong support team to back us up is key. A network of trusted friends, family members, and others who support our booze-free life is an essential part of any relapse prevention plan.
While alcohol often gets credit for making us “more social,” the reality is it does the opposite. We might feel less inhibited, but solid connections are unlikely to take root with alcohol in the picture. And when we leave behind our drinking days — and our weekend barhopping posse — we might feel more isolated than ever.
Science says that social support is crucial in recovery for many reasons. Our peers hold us accountable, share their experience and coping skills, celebrate our milestones, and cheer us on when things get tough. As a result, social support provides a powerful buffer against relapse.
So if your social support system needs a tune-up, it’s time for some changes!
Lower your risk:
Even if we have a strong support system and keep our stress levels low, alcohol cravings can still creep in and lead to relapse. Remember how we said it takes the brain a while to adjust to being booze-free? The main reason for this is that alcohol disrupts the delicate neurotransmitter balance in the brain by boosting dopamine (the reward neurotransmitter) and GABA (an inhibitory one responsible for the downer effects of booze). It also lowers glutamate, GABA’s excitatory counterpart. And while the brain will rebalance itself in time, the process can take a few weeks or even months. In fact, studies show a strong correlation between dopamine levels and likelihood of relapse. One study found that participants who relapsed at various points after detoxification had less dopamine and less activity in the brain’s reward circuit than those who didn’t relapse.
Lower your risk:
Our alcohol journey is unique, and so is our history. One study compared participants who quit drinking and later relapsed to ones who stayed on track. Out of the “relapsers,” a greater percentage had made more than one attempt to leave booze behind, showing that having a history of relapse might sometimes make us more vulnerable in the future.
That said, having multiple relapses in the past is by no means a sign that another one is inevitably coming. Likewise, it’s not a sign of weakness — if anything, it’s a testament to our strength that we keep trying again in spite of experiencing setbacks. The key is to learn from each one and modify our strategy accordingly. Tracking our triggers is key here: if we know what set the relapse in motion — especially more than once — we can be prepared in the future.
Lower your risk:
No matter which relapse-related factors loom large for you, there are some steps that every relapse prevention plan should include:
With these tips — and with the Relapse Risk Calculator — you’re off to a great start when it comes to lowering your chances of getting off track in the recovery journey.
In the context of recovery from alcohol misuse, a relapse is a return to drinking after a period of abstinence. While the main trigger for relapse is holding on to the belief that alcohol serves you in some way, there are additional factors — such as stress or lack of support — that amplify the risk.
You said goodbye to alcohol and meant it. But then … you said hello again. As Craig Beck writes in Alcohol Lied to Me Again, “This journey backwards virtually always starts with the same sentence being uttered: ‘Surely just one drink won’t hurt.’”
First things first: you’re not alone. Relapse is a reality for many people on the alcohol journey, and it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. There’s also no such thing as “going back to square one”: once you set off on the path of recovery, you’ve been moving forward, even if that path involves a setback. As Reshma Saujani puts it, “There’s no more powerful lesson than knowing that your setbacks will one day help you succeed.”
That said, relapse is something we want to avoid if we can. And that’s where our handy Relapse Risk Calculator comes in!
Recovery from alcohol use disorder (AUD) can be a rocky road full of ups and downs. A relapse means we returned to drinking after a period of being booze-free. Here are the main things to understand about the science behind it:
Want to know more? Check out “Defining Relapse: A Rehearsal for Success,” and “How To Stay Sober After Recovering From Alcoholism” to learn about the signs of relapse and more. But now, let’s get practical — ready to calculate your relapse risk and form a plan?
Teasing out the factors that might set the stage for relapse can be tricky. Enter the Relapse Risk Calculator! By analyzing responses to questions about your history and current habits, it helps you pinpoint factors that might set the stage for a relapse. Think of these factors as relapse red flags marking the areas of your life where slight shifts can set you on the path to success.
Ready to “weatherproof” your recovery? Let’s get started!
Congrats! You just took an important step to a lasting recovery by filling out the Relapse Risk Calculator and finding the factors that might lead you down the relapse road. Now, let’s look at each one in a bit more detail.
Biologically, stress is the body’s response to danger — the so-called “fight-or-flight” mechanism. The stress response is triggered by the amygdala, which stimulates the release of “stress hormones” such as adrenaline and cortisol. The result? Our body switches into “emergency mode”: our heart rate and breathing rate increases, glucose gets pumped into the blood to provide fuel for our muscles, and functions such as digestion get put on hold.
While the stress response is a (literal) lifesaver when it comes to “fighting” or “fleeing” from actual danger (think raging fire or an angry buffalo), it leads to a host of health problems if it’s triggered unnecessarily, especially on a chronic basis. And yet it’s a modern-day reality for many of us: in 2022, over a third of American adults reported that stress was “completely overwhelming” for them on most days.
High stress is a known trigger for relapse. In fact, studies show that stress is a major factor in relapse because of how it affects the brain. For one thing, chronic stress lowers dopamine levels, making alcohol cravings more powerful. It also interferes with the prefrontal cortex — the decision-making hub of the brain involved in self-regulation and impulse control.
Lower your risk:
Recovery is a journey, and having a strong support team to back us up is key. A network of trusted friends, family members, and others who support our booze-free life is an essential part of any relapse prevention plan.
While alcohol often gets credit for making us “more social,” the reality is it does the opposite. We might feel less inhibited, but solid connections are unlikely to take root with alcohol in the picture. And when we leave behind our drinking days — and our weekend barhopping posse — we might feel more isolated than ever.
Science says that social support is crucial in recovery for many reasons. Our peers hold us accountable, share their experience and coping skills, celebrate our milestones, and cheer us on when things get tough. As a result, social support provides a powerful buffer against relapse.
So if your social support system needs a tune-up, it’s time for some changes!
Lower your risk:
Even if we have a strong support system and keep our stress levels low, alcohol cravings can still creep in and lead to relapse. Remember how we said it takes the brain a while to adjust to being booze-free? The main reason for this is that alcohol disrupts the delicate neurotransmitter balance in the brain by boosting dopamine (the reward neurotransmitter) and GABA (an inhibitory one responsible for the downer effects of booze). It also lowers glutamate, GABA’s excitatory counterpart. And while the brain will rebalance itself in time, the process can take a few weeks or even months. In fact, studies show a strong correlation between dopamine levels and likelihood of relapse. One study found that participants who relapsed at various points after detoxification had less dopamine and less activity in the brain’s reward circuit than those who didn’t relapse.
Lower your risk:
Our alcohol journey is unique, and so is our history. One study compared participants who quit drinking and later relapsed to ones who stayed on track. Out of the “relapsers,” a greater percentage had made more than one attempt to leave booze behind, showing that having a history of relapse might sometimes make us more vulnerable in the future.
That said, having multiple relapses in the past is by no means a sign that another one is inevitably coming. Likewise, it’s not a sign of weakness — if anything, it’s a testament to our strength that we keep trying again in spite of experiencing setbacks. The key is to learn from each one and modify our strategy accordingly. Tracking our triggers is key here: if we know what set the relapse in motion — especially more than once — we can be prepared in the future.
Lower your risk:
No matter which relapse-related factors loom large for you, there are some steps that every relapse prevention plan should include:
With these tips — and with the Relapse Risk Calculator — you’re off to a great start when it comes to lowering your chances of getting off track in the recovery journey.
