How can we know if we’re helping someone with alcohol problems or making things worse by enabling them? Find out how to differentiate between the two and how to be more helpful.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Have you found yourself overwhelmed trying to help someone struggling with alcohol addiction? Are you wondering why nothing you do is helping them change their behavior?
Empathy is an important part of human connection; it hurts to see someone struggle. But in our efforts to care for someone with addiction, we may actually be enabling them. Enabling supports and sustains an individual’s addiction (even though this isn’t our intent!), but there are ways to channel our care into more helpful behaviors. In this blog, we’ll learn more about enabling behaviors, how to recognize them in ourselves, and how to help our loved one constructively.
Enabling is any behavior or action that allows our loved one to avoid the consequences of their actions. We enable others by justifying their bad actions or indirectly supporting their harmful behaviors (for example, paying off someone’s alcohol related debts).
Enabling is different from helping, even though they look alike. Helping provides support, assistance, and guidance in overcoming a specific challenge. Enabling directly or indirectly helps someone continue an unhealthy habit or behavior.
Helping empowers someone to escape their circumstance, whereas enabling them gives them permission to stay the same. While it may seem like we are helping the person or nurturing them with compassion, enabling actually makes things worse — and it typically prolongs recovery because it perpetuates the cycle of substance misuse.
The solution may seem simple: stop enabling bad behavior! The reality is more complicated than that, as many of us know. Enabling is unintentional and stems from our want/need to help others, especially when it comes to those we are closest to and most comfortable with.
Justifying our actions as “caring” or “showing love” is natural — and these actions are definitely an expression of our love. We may not be aware that our behaviors are enabling our loved one. Let’s go through some reasons why we find ourselves enabling instead of helping.
We enable those who misuse alcohol for many reasons. Understanding the subconscious thought process behind our actions is a crucial first step towards recognizing and dismantling the cycle of enabling.
We learned what it means to enable someone and why we may do it. Now let’s examine what it looks like when we enable an alcoholic.
Though often unintentional, enabling an alcoholic supports their destructive drinking habits by shielding them from the consequences of their actions. This can take many forms, but there are some common patterns:
We shield our loved one from the consequences of their actions through a wide variety of behaviors, conscious and unconscious. Now that we know what enabling looks like, we can assess if it’s something we’re doing — and learn how to stop.
Sometimes it’s hard to recognize whether we are helping someone or enabling them. We should stop and ask ourselves, “Could they do this for themselves if they were sober?” Let’s go through some examples to help identify if we are enabling.
Reflecting on these questions helps us identify unhealthy enabling behaviors. Letting go of these behaviors can feel scary, especially when we don’t know what to expect.
We often imagine the worst possible scenario when we think about stopping our enabling behaviors. We may worry that they’ll end up in jail or without a home — but in reality, chronic alcohol misuse can be fatal. Ending enabling behaviors is the best way to help our loved one, even if the opposite feels true.
Let’s look at some ways we empower others when we stop enabling.
Helping someone recover from alcohol misuse can be stressful and taxing on everyone involved. Remember that it’s about progress, not perfection. There is an abundance of resources to support both you and your loved one through the recovery process.
There are healthy ways to actively support someone who is misusing alcohol. Let’s take a look.
Letting go of enabling behaviors is not easy. It takes setting boundaries and unlearning destructive patterns of behavior. Here are some things you can do to help an alcoholic:
The shift from enabling to helping is not easy! It’s important to remember the challenge will be worth it for you and the person struggling with alcohol addiction.
Have you found yourself overwhelmed trying to help someone struggling with alcohol addiction? Are you wondering why nothing you do is helping them change their behavior?
Empathy is an important part of human connection; it hurts to see someone struggle. But in our efforts to care for someone with addiction, we may actually be enabling them. Enabling supports and sustains an individual’s addiction (even though this isn’t our intent!), but there are ways to channel our care into more helpful behaviors. In this blog, we’ll learn more about enabling behaviors, how to recognize them in ourselves, and how to help our loved one constructively.
Enabling is any behavior or action that allows our loved one to avoid the consequences of their actions. We enable others by justifying their bad actions or indirectly supporting their harmful behaviors (for example, paying off someone’s alcohol related debts).
Enabling is different from helping, even though they look alike. Helping provides support, assistance, and guidance in overcoming a specific challenge. Enabling directly or indirectly helps someone continue an unhealthy habit or behavior.
Helping empowers someone to escape their circumstance, whereas enabling them gives them permission to stay the same. While it may seem like we are helping the person or nurturing them with compassion, enabling actually makes things worse — and it typically prolongs recovery because it perpetuates the cycle of substance misuse.
The solution may seem simple: stop enabling bad behavior! The reality is more complicated than that, as many of us know. Enabling is unintentional and stems from our want/need to help others, especially when it comes to those we are closest to and most comfortable with.
Justifying our actions as “caring” or “showing love” is natural — and these actions are definitely an expression of our love. We may not be aware that our behaviors are enabling our loved one. Let’s go through some reasons why we find ourselves enabling instead of helping.
We enable those who misuse alcohol for many reasons. Understanding the subconscious thought process behind our actions is a crucial first step towards recognizing and dismantling the cycle of enabling.
We learned what it means to enable someone and why we may do it. Now let’s examine what it looks like when we enable an alcoholic.
Though often unintentional, enabling an alcoholic supports their destructive drinking habits by shielding them from the consequences of their actions. This can take many forms, but there are some common patterns:
We shield our loved one from the consequences of their actions through a wide variety of behaviors, conscious and unconscious. Now that we know what enabling looks like, we can assess if it’s something we’re doing — and learn how to stop.
Sometimes it’s hard to recognize whether we are helping someone or enabling them. We should stop and ask ourselves, “Could they do this for themselves if they were sober?” Let’s go through some examples to help identify if we are enabling.
Reflecting on these questions helps us identify unhealthy enabling behaviors. Letting go of these behaviors can feel scary, especially when we don’t know what to expect.
We often imagine the worst possible scenario when we think about stopping our enabling behaviors. We may worry that they’ll end up in jail or without a home — but in reality, chronic alcohol misuse can be fatal. Ending enabling behaviors is the best way to help our loved one, even if the opposite feels true.
Let’s look at some ways we empower others when we stop enabling.
Helping someone recover from alcohol misuse can be stressful and taxing on everyone involved. Remember that it’s about progress, not perfection. There is an abundance of resources to support both you and your loved one through the recovery process.
There are healthy ways to actively support someone who is misusing alcohol. Let’s take a look.
Letting go of enabling behaviors is not easy. It takes setting boundaries and unlearning destructive patterns of behavior. Here are some things you can do to help an alcoholic:
The shift from enabling to helping is not easy! It’s important to remember the challenge will be worth it for you and the person struggling with alcohol addiction.
What does alcoholism have to do with maladaptive behavior? Learn the science behind the connection and get some practical advice in our new blog.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Adaptations are huge in the natural world. It all goes back to evolution: we’ve all heard about the first organisms that left the oceans to live on dry land. They thrived with the help of lungs and limbs that replaced gills and fins. All living things adapt; bees have developed an intricate way to communicate through their trademark “waggle dance,” and desert plants store water in their succulent tissues to get through long droughts.
As humans, we are also amazing at adapting to our environment. We created Stone Age tools (and eventually digital age computers and smartphones); we manage to navigate and even thrive in pretty much every type of climate around the globe, and we communicate with each other in thousands of languages that we acquire with relative ease before we are even old enough to feed and take care of ourselves.
And yet, many times those adaptations can take us in the wrong direction, leading to so-called maladaptive behavior. What is maladaptive behavior, and what is the science behind it? And how does alcohol fit into the picture? Let’s find out more!
As humans, we tend to be driven by two basic motivations: seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. It’s in our song lyrics — whether it’s The Eagles telling us that “Some dance to remember / some dance to forget,” or Pitbull encouraging us with “Now let's get loose, have some fun / forget about bills and the first of the month.” Even the substances we tend to misuse reflect this dichotomy, as we generally classify them as either “uppers” or “downers.”
The maladaptive behaviors we adapt also fit into these two basic categories. In an effort to create excitement or make life easier when it gets stressful, we fall into coping mechanisms that can sometimes become dysfunctional, or “maladaptive.”
There is no single “maladaptive behavior” definition, but it’s easy to identify patterns. Some behaviors are oriented toward the outside world, such as angry outbursts, while others are more internal, such as withdrawing into our thoughts. Many are a mixture of the two and can manifest themselves in a number of different ways ranging from eating disorders to substance misuse or self-harm.
The science behind maladaptive behaviors has to do with how our brain is wired. Structurally, the two main categories of maladaptive coping mechanisms originate from two main pathways: the reward system and the stress response.
There are many types of maladaptive behaviors, and each one will bear the hallmark of our individual characteristics. Our environments and personal histories are unique to us, and so are our behaviors — functional as well as dysfunctional ones.
That said, there are a few types of maladaptive behaviors that stand out among the rest. The first three are more thought-oriented, while the rest manifest in our external actions.
Avoidance is one of the most common types of maladaptive behaviors that fall more into the thought realm — though it does result in certain physical actions that we take when we follow those thoughts.
Avoidance is all about disengagement from the present as a way to avoid potentially stressful or painful experiences. Researchers describe it as a common maladaptive response to stress or anxiety. It’s the human version of the small animal that runs across the busy road with its eyes closed, hoping for the best.
Similar to avoidance, withdrawal is all about protecting ourselves by shutting down. We close ourselves off to the world around us because it feels easier than facing our problems or fears. It can manifest in many different ways, but ultimately it’s a protection reflex that can end up hurting us in the long run.
Passive-aggressive behavior is an indirect expression of negative feelings or attitudes toward someone. Instead of directly addressing the problem or being honest about our feelings, we use sarcasm and underhanded comments, and then deny our intentions when confronted. This “passive” behavior is ultimately masking the “aggressive” feelings at the heart of our actions.
Make no mistake, passive-aggression isn’t just “keeping the peace.” It can quickly go from a bad habit to a weaponized form of emotional manipulation. It has the potential to be very destructive to relationships, resulting in resentment and misunderstandings that can sometimes take years to untangle.
We all feel angry sometimes, and it’s natural. But what if anger becomes excessive? If we don’t find healthy ways to express our anger and instead we “bottle it up,” it can come out in harmful ways. As a maladaptive behavior, angry outbursts and tantrums can relieve that built-up stress and emotional pressure at the moment, but at a long-term cost. This anger tends to be misdirected and irrational, causing us to blame others instead of examining the heart of the matter. Frequent outbursts can take a toll on all areas of our lives, including our family, social, and work relationships.
Sometimes overwhelming stress or negative emotions can provoke us harm to ourselves as a way to “translate” emotional distress into physical pain. People might turn to this maladaptive behavior as a temporary escape, to express feelings they can't put into words, or to feel a sense of control. However, self-harm is a risky and destructive coping mechanism that can lead to more severe health issues — so never ignore it, and know that there’s help available.
Food is a source of dopamine for us — it activates our reward system. In times of stress, it can become a comfort, leading to overeating. (Ever heard of “stress eating?”) On the other hand, obsessively focusing on food and controlling this dopamine response through restriction can give us a powerful feeling of control — with potentially harmful consequences.
Whether the focus is on weight and body image or the food itself, issues like binge eating disorder, bulimia, and anorexia can develop when we cope by changing our food intake. While these might start as innocent coping mechanisms, they can quickly spiral out of control and become a source of more difficulty.
Like self-harm and substance misuse (discussed below), this maladaptive behavior comes with significant health risks, so it’s crucial to be vigilant and ask for help if these behavior patterns emerge.
Similar to eating disorders, substance use disorders involve the use of alcohol or other drugs in ways that might initially offer comfort or the illusion of pleasure, but that end up hurting us in the long run. According to research, they’re one of the most common types of maladaptive behaviors.
When it comes to alcohol’s effect on the brain, it’s kind of a chameleon. It initially seems to act as a stimulant, creating that energizing boozy “high” feeling we briefly get when we drink. However, it’s actually a depressant that dulls our senses and slows down our brain processes. How is this possible? Here’s a brief overview of the neurotransmitters behind these effects:
As we all know, though, these effects don’t last. Worse still, they backfire — big time. If we continue turning to alcohol to feel good for a short amount of time or use it for relaxation, it quickly becomes a maladaptive behavior. Unfortunately, this particular maladaptive behavior is one that can only accelerate. Here’s where that path goes:
Ultimately, maladaptive behaviors don’t serve us, and alcohol is no exception. Luckily, there are ways to overcome these habits and improve our ways of coping.
If you find yourself struggling as alcohol use becomes a maladaptive behavior in your life, you’re not alone. And there’s a way out! Here are some things you can do:
Adaptations are huge in the natural world. It all goes back to evolution: we’ve all heard about the first organisms that left the oceans to live on dry land. They thrived with the help of lungs and limbs that replaced gills and fins. All living things adapt; bees have developed an intricate way to communicate through their trademark “waggle dance,” and desert plants store water in their succulent tissues to get through long droughts.
As humans, we are also amazing at adapting to our environment. We created Stone Age tools (and eventually digital age computers and smartphones); we manage to navigate and even thrive in pretty much every type of climate around the globe, and we communicate with each other in thousands of languages that we acquire with relative ease before we are even old enough to feed and take care of ourselves.
And yet, many times those adaptations can take us in the wrong direction, leading to so-called maladaptive behavior. What is maladaptive behavior, and what is the science behind it? And how does alcohol fit into the picture? Let’s find out more!
As humans, we tend to be driven by two basic motivations: seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. It’s in our song lyrics — whether it’s The Eagles telling us that “Some dance to remember / some dance to forget,” or Pitbull encouraging us with “Now let's get loose, have some fun / forget about bills and the first of the month.” Even the substances we tend to misuse reflect this dichotomy, as we generally classify them as either “uppers” or “downers.”
The maladaptive behaviors we adapt also fit into these two basic categories. In an effort to create excitement or make life easier when it gets stressful, we fall into coping mechanisms that can sometimes become dysfunctional, or “maladaptive.”
There is no single “maladaptive behavior” definition, but it’s easy to identify patterns. Some behaviors are oriented toward the outside world, such as angry outbursts, while others are more internal, such as withdrawing into our thoughts. Many are a mixture of the two and can manifest themselves in a number of different ways ranging from eating disorders to substance misuse or self-harm.
The science behind maladaptive behaviors has to do with how our brain is wired. Structurally, the two main categories of maladaptive coping mechanisms originate from two main pathways: the reward system and the stress response.
There are many types of maladaptive behaviors, and each one will bear the hallmark of our individual characteristics. Our environments and personal histories are unique to us, and so are our behaviors — functional as well as dysfunctional ones.
That said, there are a few types of maladaptive behaviors that stand out among the rest. The first three are more thought-oriented, while the rest manifest in our external actions.
Avoidance is one of the most common types of maladaptive behaviors that fall more into the thought realm — though it does result in certain physical actions that we take when we follow those thoughts.
Avoidance is all about disengagement from the present as a way to avoid potentially stressful or painful experiences. Researchers describe it as a common maladaptive response to stress or anxiety. It’s the human version of the small animal that runs across the busy road with its eyes closed, hoping for the best.
Similar to avoidance, withdrawal is all about protecting ourselves by shutting down. We close ourselves off to the world around us because it feels easier than facing our problems or fears. It can manifest in many different ways, but ultimately it’s a protection reflex that can end up hurting us in the long run.
Passive-aggressive behavior is an indirect expression of negative feelings or attitudes toward someone. Instead of directly addressing the problem or being honest about our feelings, we use sarcasm and underhanded comments, and then deny our intentions when confronted. This “passive” behavior is ultimately masking the “aggressive” feelings at the heart of our actions.
Make no mistake, passive-aggression isn’t just “keeping the peace.” It can quickly go from a bad habit to a weaponized form of emotional manipulation. It has the potential to be very destructive to relationships, resulting in resentment and misunderstandings that can sometimes take years to untangle.
We all feel angry sometimes, and it’s natural. But what if anger becomes excessive? If we don’t find healthy ways to express our anger and instead we “bottle it up,” it can come out in harmful ways. As a maladaptive behavior, angry outbursts and tantrums can relieve that built-up stress and emotional pressure at the moment, but at a long-term cost. This anger tends to be misdirected and irrational, causing us to blame others instead of examining the heart of the matter. Frequent outbursts can take a toll on all areas of our lives, including our family, social, and work relationships.
Sometimes overwhelming stress or negative emotions can provoke us harm to ourselves as a way to “translate” emotional distress into physical pain. People might turn to this maladaptive behavior as a temporary escape, to express feelings they can't put into words, or to feel a sense of control. However, self-harm is a risky and destructive coping mechanism that can lead to more severe health issues — so never ignore it, and know that there’s help available.
Food is a source of dopamine for us — it activates our reward system. In times of stress, it can become a comfort, leading to overeating. (Ever heard of “stress eating?”) On the other hand, obsessively focusing on food and controlling this dopamine response through restriction can give us a powerful feeling of control — with potentially harmful consequences.
Whether the focus is on weight and body image or the food itself, issues like binge eating disorder, bulimia, and anorexia can develop when we cope by changing our food intake. While these might start as innocent coping mechanisms, they can quickly spiral out of control and become a source of more difficulty.
Like self-harm and substance misuse (discussed below), this maladaptive behavior comes with significant health risks, so it’s crucial to be vigilant and ask for help if these behavior patterns emerge.
Similar to eating disorders, substance use disorders involve the use of alcohol or other drugs in ways that might initially offer comfort or the illusion of pleasure, but that end up hurting us in the long run. According to research, they’re one of the most common types of maladaptive behaviors.
When it comes to alcohol’s effect on the brain, it’s kind of a chameleon. It initially seems to act as a stimulant, creating that energizing boozy “high” feeling we briefly get when we drink. However, it’s actually a depressant that dulls our senses and slows down our brain processes. How is this possible? Here’s a brief overview of the neurotransmitters behind these effects:
As we all know, though, these effects don’t last. Worse still, they backfire — big time. If we continue turning to alcohol to feel good for a short amount of time or use it for relaxation, it quickly becomes a maladaptive behavior. Unfortunately, this particular maladaptive behavior is one that can only accelerate. Here’s where that path goes:
Ultimately, maladaptive behaviors don’t serve us, and alcohol is no exception. Luckily, there are ways to overcome these habits and improve our ways of coping.
If you find yourself struggling as alcohol use becomes a maladaptive behavior in your life, you’re not alone. And there’s a way out! Here are some things you can do:
Resilience plays a pivotal role when going through AUD recovery and can be a decisive factor in success. Learn how to cultivate greater resilience to better support your recovery.
Inner work goes beyond building resilience. Perhaps you’d like to change how you feel in general. Or maybe you’re at a place where you’re thinking about changing your relationship with alcohol. Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions worldwide drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills to survive drinking less and thrive while navigating the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know what you’re going through! You’ll also be able to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re constantly introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! We launch fun challenges monthly, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. It’s a great chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for seven days, so you have everything to gain and nothing to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
You have to admire the resilience of the Energizer Bunny. You know that cute, battery-operated pink rabbit with sunglasses? He zips around, incessantly banging his drum while knocking over whatever’s in his path. Despite the obstacles, that bunny just “keeps going and going and going....”
This is resilience in action. And like that little bunny, we need the strength to keep going and going as we navigate Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) recovery. Identifying and cultivating resilience is a process, but it can be a game changer when we are striving for an alcohol-free lifestyle. Let’s look at what it is, its role in AUD recovery, and ways to foster it.
Resilience is the ability to adapt and recover from challenges or adversity. It enables us to bounce back from stress, disappointment, or trauma. For some of us, it could mean getting our energy back after running a marathon. Or maybe it’s getting back on track following a breakup, job loss, or illness. It also offers a protective element because it can help prevent mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. Think of it as an inner strength that helps us cope with and adapt to hard times.
Some of the qualities we associate with resilient people include:
Each of us has our own level of resilience. We sometimes surprise ourselves with our ability to adapt when faced with grave or unforeseen circumstances. Yet there may be others who view even minor obstacles as insurmountable. The difference between us can often determine how well we cope throughout AUD recovery. Let’s take a closer look at the issues involved to learn more about building the resilience needed to help those of us who want to move forward when seeking an AUD recovery strategy.
Alcohol Use Disorder, or AUD, is a medical diagnosis that describes a problematic and unhealthy pattern of alcohol consumption that leads to distress or impairment in daily life. Symptoms of AUD include cravings, loss of control, physical dependence, neglect of responsibilities, and continued use of alcohol despite experiencing negative consequences. The latter factor is the most critical. Financial problems, relationship difficulties, legal issues, and poor job performance are some of the negative consequences associated with AUD. Let’s turn to some obstacles we may face when we choose a path to recovery.
For many of us who want to change our relationship with alcohol, we know deep down that if something is going to happen, it won’t happen on its own. For most of us, reaching this point doesn’t happen overnight, and neither did developing AUD. It sort of snuck up on us over time.
We once may have relied on drinking to blow off steam, temporarily curb anxiety, or relax with friends. However, after some time, we found this came with baggage such as poor judgment, arguments, memory lapses, fumbles at work, and so on.
And even when we faced the consequences of our drinking, denial stood in our way. That’s the insidious part of AUD: it changes our brain chemistry and interferes with the choices we make. It’s like being caught in a trap of knowing what we need to do but simply being unable to do it. It’s a common dilemma that often forces us to confront the barriers to AUD recovery.
Taking that first step toward AUD recovery involves more than motivation. It requires overcoming the often paralyzing barriers of shame, guilt, and fear of being stigmatized. And let’s not forget our negative self-talk like, “I can’t do this!” Instead, people who want to change their relationship with alcohol need to firmly believe it is possible to fully:
A recent study noted that despite its many challenges, resilience in addiction recovery is a vital component. Psychological toughness and inner strength are often necessary for tipping the scales in the direction of a successful recovery. One way to do this is by using a resilient approach.
Some of us are hardwired with innate resilience; it just kicks in when needed. Think of the Energizer Bunny! But not all of us are built this way, and that’s ok. We can develop resilience even when it isn’t second nature to us.
Here are some ways to build resiliency, specifically when it comes to AUD recovery:
Starting AUD recovery is a huge first step toward building a healthier and happier future. Resilience can be one of the most effective tools in recovery; it can help us adapt to and bounce back from its frequent ups and downs. Among other things, resiliency grows when we have a support network, manage expectations, and practice self-care. After all, we need all the cheerleading we can use.
Resilience isn’t just for the most challenging situations. We benefit from it in all aspects of life, whether perfecting our golf swing, studying for exams, or juggling two jobs. Getting through these challenges requires stamina and a stick-to-it attitude. That’s where resilience comes in.
You have to admire the resilience of the Energizer Bunny. You know that cute, battery-operated pink rabbit with sunglasses? He zips around, incessantly banging his drum while knocking over whatever’s in his path. Despite the obstacles, that bunny just “keeps going and going and going....”
This is resilience in action. And like that little bunny, we need the strength to keep going and going as we navigate Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) recovery. Identifying and cultivating resilience is a process, but it can be a game changer when we are striving for an alcohol-free lifestyle. Let’s look at what it is, its role in AUD recovery, and ways to foster it.
Resilience is the ability to adapt and recover from challenges or adversity. It enables us to bounce back from stress, disappointment, or trauma. For some of us, it could mean getting our energy back after running a marathon. Or maybe it’s getting back on track following a breakup, job loss, or illness. It also offers a protective element because it can help prevent mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. Think of it as an inner strength that helps us cope with and adapt to hard times.
Some of the qualities we associate with resilient people include:
Each of us has our own level of resilience. We sometimes surprise ourselves with our ability to adapt when faced with grave or unforeseen circumstances. Yet there may be others who view even minor obstacles as insurmountable. The difference between us can often determine how well we cope throughout AUD recovery. Let’s take a closer look at the issues involved to learn more about building the resilience needed to help those of us who want to move forward when seeking an AUD recovery strategy.
Alcohol Use Disorder, or AUD, is a medical diagnosis that describes a problematic and unhealthy pattern of alcohol consumption that leads to distress or impairment in daily life. Symptoms of AUD include cravings, loss of control, physical dependence, neglect of responsibilities, and continued use of alcohol despite experiencing negative consequences. The latter factor is the most critical. Financial problems, relationship difficulties, legal issues, and poor job performance are some of the negative consequences associated with AUD. Let’s turn to some obstacles we may face when we choose a path to recovery.
For many of us who want to change our relationship with alcohol, we know deep down that if something is going to happen, it won’t happen on its own. For most of us, reaching this point doesn’t happen overnight, and neither did developing AUD. It sort of snuck up on us over time.
We once may have relied on drinking to blow off steam, temporarily curb anxiety, or relax with friends. However, after some time, we found this came with baggage such as poor judgment, arguments, memory lapses, fumbles at work, and so on.
And even when we faced the consequences of our drinking, denial stood in our way. That’s the insidious part of AUD: it changes our brain chemistry and interferes with the choices we make. It’s like being caught in a trap of knowing what we need to do but simply being unable to do it. It’s a common dilemma that often forces us to confront the barriers to AUD recovery.
Taking that first step toward AUD recovery involves more than motivation. It requires overcoming the often paralyzing barriers of shame, guilt, and fear of being stigmatized. And let’s not forget our negative self-talk like, “I can’t do this!” Instead, people who want to change their relationship with alcohol need to firmly believe it is possible to fully:
A recent study noted that despite its many challenges, resilience in addiction recovery is a vital component. Psychological toughness and inner strength are often necessary for tipping the scales in the direction of a successful recovery. One way to do this is by using a resilient approach.
Some of us are hardwired with innate resilience; it just kicks in when needed. Think of the Energizer Bunny! But not all of us are built this way, and that’s ok. We can develop resilience even when it isn’t second nature to us.
Here are some ways to build resiliency, specifically when it comes to AUD recovery:
Starting AUD recovery is a huge first step toward building a healthier and happier future. Resilience can be one of the most effective tools in recovery; it can help us adapt to and bounce back from its frequent ups and downs. Among other things, resiliency grows when we have a support network, manage expectations, and practice self-care. After all, we need all the cheerleading we can use.
Resilience isn’t just for the most challenging situations. We benefit from it in all aspects of life, whether perfecting our golf swing, studying for exams, or juggling two jobs. Getting through these challenges requires stamina and a stick-to-it attitude. That’s where resilience comes in.
Mixology, the art and science of crafting delectable cocktails, is taking on the challenge of creating low-ABV and alcohol-free cocktails that are just as tempting.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
What makes a cocktail appealing? Is it the customizable garnishes, like the cute little umbrellas, floating hibiscus, maraschino cherries, or olives that make them so unique? Or is it because it’s another type of alcoholic drink?
Cocktails are very well-marketed (hello, James Bond!) and hold an enduring allure in culture and media. Recent trends in mixology have elevated cocktail-making to an art, with innovative flavors and new twists on classics. Luckily, for those of us trying to cut back, delicious mocktails and low-alcohol cocktails have also proliferated and mixology specialists are challenging the conventional perception of drinking. In doing so, they are paving the way for a more inclusive and health-conscious approach to socializing.
Let’s explore the rise of low-alcohol drinks within the field of mixology. We’ll check out the reasons behind its popularity, the essential ingredients for crafting delightful concoctions, and the science behind crafting tantalizing low-alcohol drink recipes.
Mixology dates back to the mid-19th century and arose from a desire to shakeup traditional bartending. Whiskey was the primary drink of choice up until that point, but in 1850 the Sazerac became America’s first cocktail.
Today, mixology has evolved into both a science and an art by pushing traditional boundaries of alcohol-centric beverages by focusing on creativity, quality ingredients, and unique experiences. Mixology continues to evolve in response to drinkers’ desires. For those trying to cut back on alcohol, this creative boom lets us keep the flavor high and the alcohol by volume (ABV) low.
Thanks to the increasing social acceptance of sobriety, mindful drinking, and the rise of the sober-curious movement, there is a high demand for craft mocktails and alcohol-free spirits. It’s now easier than ever for non-drinkers to enjoy everything mixology has to offer.
This shift in focus has led mixologists to explore even more innovative ingredients and intricate flavor profiles and, by doing so, develop an entirely new conceptualization of the cocktail experience while still keeping the cute umbrellas.
Like we said earlier, mixology is both an art and a science. So what exactly goes into the technical side of mixing a good alcoholic drink (or mocktail)? Let’s dig deeper!
Crafting a cocktail is more than mixing a random liqueur with a random refresher and expecting it to taste good. Don’t be afraid to try new things, but avoid doing too many experiments all at once. Here are a few small ways you can play:
These principles are key to crafting balanced and delicious drinks, but it’s also important to carefully select premium quality ingredients. Less alcohol means the flavors have more room to shine! Let’s look at some items that play a pivotal role in attaining flavor.
To craft enticing low-ABV cocktails and mocktails, we need to be familiar with the ingredients that contribute the most flavor. Non-alcoholic heavy lifters — such as bitters, citrus, juice, sweeteners, and fresh fruits and herbs — offer a palette of flavors that pack a big punch.
Once we have our base components, it’s time to mix them all together and pick the perfect glass!
The science of mixology relies on two major factors — the blend of flavors and the glassware used. Yes, the glassware! While it may seem odd, specific shapes and styles of glassware not only make for a great presentation, but they also enhance the flavor of what we’re drinking.
For example, the shape of the cocktail glass not only influences the look and feel of the drink, they also influence how we drink. People tend to drink more quickly from wide glasses as opposed to straight or narrow glasses. Furthermore, glasses are typically designed to enhance certain aspects of the drink. Glasses with stems prevent our hands from warming up the beverage, and tulip-shaped beer glasses are designed to keep the aroma of the hops trapped in the glass.
Attention to detail is paramount when creating a cocktail or mocktail. Once we’ve applied our knowledge of flavors and hardware, it’s time for the finale! Garnishes add the final visual and sensory touch that can elevate a drink.
Garnishes may serve two purposes: they can add a whiff of aroma, or set the mood with their looks. Adding mint to the top of a drink provides a wave of botanical freshness that could enhance the sharpness of a blueberry spritzer or muddle the sweetness of a virgin piña colada. But that piña colada may feel a whole lot more fun with a little umbrella poking out of the top!
Smell is Presentation is essent. To make a low- or no-alcohol drink feel extra special, a beautifully placed garnish can inspire us to be mindful and enjoy.
We can reduce or eliminate alcohol from cocktails by taking inspiration from existing recipes. For instance, let’s think about the flavors that go into some classics:
Most flavored alcohol has non-alcoholic counterparts. Oftentimes, the taste profile of a cocktail comes from the mixers and added flavors, not the alcohol itself. If you do want a little alcohol kick, consider reducing the liquor by half or ordering a single instead of a double.
Going low-alcohol has plenty of benefits, and no-alcohol offers even more. Let’s get the skinny on the health benefits waiting for us when we go low.
Alcohol impacts just about every aspect of our health. And according to the World Health Organization (WHO), alcohol’s wide-ranging effects reach further than just our body.
If we do choose to drink, low-alcohol options allow us to mitigate these risks. They’re easier on our brain, our body, our mental health, and our pocketbook. And for those of us trying to lose weight, it’s crucial to keep low-alcohol options in our toolbox.
Alcohol is full of empty calories that provide little to no nutritional value. Reducing or eliminating alcohol from our drinks makes for more health-friendly options without compromising on flavor.
Let's compare the calorie content of three common spirits found in alcoholic drinks.
These measurements represent one standard serving of liquor. Although we may not think about it, many full-strength cocktails contain way more than this! Most well drinks and martinis contain at least 3 ounces of liquor, sometimes more.
Once these liquors get mixed into our favorite drinks, the calories tend to go up — especially as alcohol content goes up. Strong flavors and sugary mixers are often used to mask the flavor of alcohol in mixed drinks. Let’s take a look at the calorie content once these liquors get mixed into popular and easy alcoholic drinks.
Calorie conscious sippers should focus on keeping the alcohol serving low and choosing low-calorie mixers. Then again, when alcohol isn’t in the mix, we have more room in our calorie budget for a second round!
The rise of low-alcohol mixology signals a significant shift in how we approach and enjoy cocktails. And with the rise of the sober-curious movement, there has been an explosion of no-proof spirits and low-proof alcohol options. Most of our favorite cocktails can be enjoyed with just a little less booze, and there is a whole world of craft mocktails to explore.
Crafting flavorful low-ABV cocktails is not about compromise; it's about embracing a new dimension of taste. When exploring the world of low-alcohol or alcohol-free cocktails, keep moderation in mind and remember that the benefits of mindful drinking extend beyond the glass.
What makes a cocktail appealing? Is it the customizable garnishes, like the cute little umbrellas, floating hibiscus, maraschino cherries, or olives that make them so unique? Or is it because it’s another type of alcoholic drink?
Cocktails are very well-marketed (hello, James Bond!) and hold an enduring allure in culture and media. Recent trends in mixology have elevated cocktail-making to an art, with innovative flavors and new twists on classics. Luckily, for those of us trying to cut back, delicious mocktails and low-alcohol cocktails have also proliferated and mixology specialists are challenging the conventional perception of drinking. In doing so, they are paving the way for a more inclusive and health-conscious approach to socializing.
Let’s explore the rise of low-alcohol drinks within the field of mixology. We’ll check out the reasons behind its popularity, the essential ingredients for crafting delightful concoctions, and the science behind crafting tantalizing low-alcohol drink recipes.
Mixology dates back to the mid-19th century and arose from a desire to shakeup traditional bartending. Whiskey was the primary drink of choice up until that point, but in 1850 the Sazerac became America’s first cocktail.
Today, mixology has evolved into both a science and an art by pushing traditional boundaries of alcohol-centric beverages by focusing on creativity, quality ingredients, and unique experiences. Mixology continues to evolve in response to drinkers’ desires. For those trying to cut back on alcohol, this creative boom lets us keep the flavor high and the alcohol by volume (ABV) low.
Thanks to the increasing social acceptance of sobriety, mindful drinking, and the rise of the sober-curious movement, there is a high demand for craft mocktails and alcohol-free spirits. It’s now easier than ever for non-drinkers to enjoy everything mixology has to offer.
This shift in focus has led mixologists to explore even more innovative ingredients and intricate flavor profiles and, by doing so, develop an entirely new conceptualization of the cocktail experience while still keeping the cute umbrellas.
Like we said earlier, mixology is both an art and a science. So what exactly goes into the technical side of mixing a good alcoholic drink (or mocktail)? Let’s dig deeper!
Crafting a cocktail is more than mixing a random liqueur with a random refresher and expecting it to taste good. Don’t be afraid to try new things, but avoid doing too many experiments all at once. Here are a few small ways you can play:
These principles are key to crafting balanced and delicious drinks, but it’s also important to carefully select premium quality ingredients. Less alcohol means the flavors have more room to shine! Let’s look at some items that play a pivotal role in attaining flavor.
To craft enticing low-ABV cocktails and mocktails, we need to be familiar with the ingredients that contribute the most flavor. Non-alcoholic heavy lifters — such as bitters, citrus, juice, sweeteners, and fresh fruits and herbs — offer a palette of flavors that pack a big punch.
Once we have our base components, it’s time to mix them all together and pick the perfect glass!
The science of mixology relies on two major factors — the blend of flavors and the glassware used. Yes, the glassware! While it may seem odd, specific shapes and styles of glassware not only make for a great presentation, but they also enhance the flavor of what we’re drinking.
For example, the shape of the cocktail glass not only influences the look and feel of the drink, they also influence how we drink. People tend to drink more quickly from wide glasses as opposed to straight or narrow glasses. Furthermore, glasses are typically designed to enhance certain aspects of the drink. Glasses with stems prevent our hands from warming up the beverage, and tulip-shaped beer glasses are designed to keep the aroma of the hops trapped in the glass.
Attention to detail is paramount when creating a cocktail or mocktail. Once we’ve applied our knowledge of flavors and hardware, it’s time for the finale! Garnishes add the final visual and sensory touch that can elevate a drink.
Garnishes may serve two purposes: they can add a whiff of aroma, or set the mood with their looks. Adding mint to the top of a drink provides a wave of botanical freshness that could enhance the sharpness of a blueberry spritzer or muddle the sweetness of a virgin piña colada. But that piña colada may feel a whole lot more fun with a little umbrella poking out of the top!
Smell is Presentation is essent. To make a low- or no-alcohol drink feel extra special, a beautifully placed garnish can inspire us to be mindful and enjoy.
We can reduce or eliminate alcohol from cocktails by taking inspiration from existing recipes. For instance, let’s think about the flavors that go into some classics:
Most flavored alcohol has non-alcoholic counterparts. Oftentimes, the taste profile of a cocktail comes from the mixers and added flavors, not the alcohol itself. If you do want a little alcohol kick, consider reducing the liquor by half or ordering a single instead of a double.
Going low-alcohol has plenty of benefits, and no-alcohol offers even more. Let’s get the skinny on the health benefits waiting for us when we go low.
Alcohol impacts just about every aspect of our health. And according to the World Health Organization (WHO), alcohol’s wide-ranging effects reach further than just our body.
If we do choose to drink, low-alcohol options allow us to mitigate these risks. They’re easier on our brain, our body, our mental health, and our pocketbook. And for those of us trying to lose weight, it’s crucial to keep low-alcohol options in our toolbox.
Alcohol is full of empty calories that provide little to no nutritional value. Reducing or eliminating alcohol from our drinks makes for more health-friendly options without compromising on flavor.
Let's compare the calorie content of three common spirits found in alcoholic drinks.
These measurements represent one standard serving of liquor. Although we may not think about it, many full-strength cocktails contain way more than this! Most well drinks and martinis contain at least 3 ounces of liquor, sometimes more.
Once these liquors get mixed into our favorite drinks, the calories tend to go up — especially as alcohol content goes up. Strong flavors and sugary mixers are often used to mask the flavor of alcohol in mixed drinks. Let’s take a look at the calorie content once these liquors get mixed into popular and easy alcoholic drinks.
Calorie conscious sippers should focus on keeping the alcohol serving low and choosing low-calorie mixers. Then again, when alcohol isn’t in the mix, we have more room in our calorie budget for a second round!
The rise of low-alcohol mixology signals a significant shift in how we approach and enjoy cocktails. And with the rise of the sober-curious movement, there has been an explosion of no-proof spirits and low-proof alcohol options. Most of our favorite cocktails can be enjoyed with just a little less booze, and there is a whole world of craft mocktails to explore.
Crafting flavorful low-ABV cocktails is not about compromise; it's about embracing a new dimension of taste. When exploring the world of low-alcohol or alcohol-free cocktails, keep moderation in mind and remember that the benefits of mindful drinking extend beyond the glass.
Turn your Dry January into a Dry February! Learn the benefits of another month without booze, or how you can hop on after a Dry January slip.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help us cut back on drinking gradually with science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills to survive drinking less and thrive while navigating the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re constantly introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Ah, love is in the air. Aquarius season evolves into Pisces season. The Dry January challenge comes to a close — but that doesn’t mean our sobriety has to end. A new month brings a new challenge to change our relationship with alcohol. Perhaps you fit into one of the following categories:
If any of these apply to you, you’re in the right place! Read on to learn about all the benefits of a sober February.
You’ve probably heard of Dry January — the challenge to go the whole month of January without drinking alcohol. The Dry January challenge started in the UK in 2013 as a way to reset and reflect on our drinking habits after the holiday season. The movement quickly spread across the globe, inspiring other month-long sobriety challenges like Sober October and Dry July.
The Dry February challenge is a way to continue that momentum — and it’s highly effective at forming a more permanent habit. It’s also a way to get back on track if our Dry or Damp January plans didn’t quite go as planned. Whatever the case, there are plenty of reasons to try out an alcohol-free February!
Yes! Damp (or Dry-ish) January is a challenge to cut back on alcohol and develop mindfulness about our drinking habits. For those of us who find Dry January a bit too restrictive, Damp January is an excellent way to take stock of the role alcohol plays in our life. A Damp January can take many forms: setting a drink budget for the week, creating boundaries about which days and places we choose to drink, or incorporating more sober days into our week.
Together, the Damp and Dry January challenges are a great way to start the year with an intention of self-care. But changing our relationship with alcohol isn’t something that has to end just because January is over. Continuing into a Dry February offers even more benefits — and as the shortest month of the year, it’s even easier to make it to the end.
Let’s take a look at Dry February’s benefits!
Physical health is one of the first things to improve when we cut out the booze. After just a few days without drinking, our inflammation levels go down, we get better sleep, and our heart starts to recover. After a whole month? The benefits only become more striking.
It’s hard to argue with the physical benefits of going a month without alcohol. Every month we stay sober, these benefits increase.
But there are so many more benefits to parlaying a Dry January into a Dry February — including some that really start to show up in the second month of sobriety.
Alcohol’s most profound effects are on our mental health, even if those effects don’t seem as obvious as the physical ones. Alcohol alters both our central nervous system (CNS) and our neurotransmitters’ functionality. After prolonged or excessive use, our brain chemicals lose their balance trying to adjust to the frequent presence of alcohol.
Mental health recovers more slowly because the brain’s balancing act with neurotransmitters is pretty precarious — chemical imbalances occur even without the presence of alcohol. One thing is for sure, though: alcohol increases our risk of anxiety and depression.
Let’s take a look at how another month without alcohol can benefit our brains.
Our mental and physical health improve each day we stay sober. But wait — that’s not all! There’s one more important part of our life that just keeps getting better the longer we stay away from alcohol.
Alcohol is a big expense; bars are expensive, bottles are expensive, and we also pay indirectly through the poor decisions we make while intoxicated. When we remove booze from our lives, we add money to our pockets.
The benefits of a sober February are plentiful. We thrive emotionally, we’re secure in our bodies, and we enjoy more financial security.
So how can we get through Dry February successfully and achieve our physical, mental, and financial health goals? Let’s take action!
Here’s the thing: Dry Feb. will look different for everyone. And that's okay! Wherever we start from, February is a great time to deepen our commitment to ourselves and keep our year on track. Let’s look at a few tips for thriving in sobriety this February.
Wherever we are in our journey, the Dry February challenge is one more opportunity to continue down the path to sobriety. We know how good it is for us, and challenging ourselves to stay dry is a radical act of self-love. Let’s show up for ourselves in February and keep the ball rolling into March!
Ah, love is in the air. Aquarius season evolves into Pisces season. The Dry January challenge comes to a close — but that doesn’t mean our sobriety has to end. A new month brings a new challenge to change our relationship with alcohol. Perhaps you fit into one of the following categories:
If any of these apply to you, you’re in the right place! Read on to learn about all the benefits of a sober February.
You’ve probably heard of Dry January — the challenge to go the whole month of January without drinking alcohol. The Dry January challenge started in the UK in 2013 as a way to reset and reflect on our drinking habits after the holiday season. The movement quickly spread across the globe, inspiring other month-long sobriety challenges like Sober October and Dry July.
The Dry February challenge is a way to continue that momentum — and it’s highly effective at forming a more permanent habit. It’s also a way to get back on track if our Dry or Damp January plans didn’t quite go as planned. Whatever the case, there are plenty of reasons to try out an alcohol-free February!
Yes! Damp (or Dry-ish) January is a challenge to cut back on alcohol and develop mindfulness about our drinking habits. For those of us who find Dry January a bit too restrictive, Damp January is an excellent way to take stock of the role alcohol plays in our life. A Damp January can take many forms: setting a drink budget for the week, creating boundaries about which days and places we choose to drink, or incorporating more sober days into our week.
Together, the Damp and Dry January challenges are a great way to start the year with an intention of self-care. But changing our relationship with alcohol isn’t something that has to end just because January is over. Continuing into a Dry February offers even more benefits — and as the shortest month of the year, it’s even easier to make it to the end.
Let’s take a look at Dry February’s benefits!
Physical health is one of the first things to improve when we cut out the booze. After just a few days without drinking, our inflammation levels go down, we get better sleep, and our heart starts to recover. After a whole month? The benefits only become more striking.
It’s hard to argue with the physical benefits of going a month without alcohol. Every month we stay sober, these benefits increase.
But there are so many more benefits to parlaying a Dry January into a Dry February — including some that really start to show up in the second month of sobriety.
Alcohol’s most profound effects are on our mental health, even if those effects don’t seem as obvious as the physical ones. Alcohol alters both our central nervous system (CNS) and our neurotransmitters’ functionality. After prolonged or excessive use, our brain chemicals lose their balance trying to adjust to the frequent presence of alcohol.
Mental health recovers more slowly because the brain’s balancing act with neurotransmitters is pretty precarious — chemical imbalances occur even without the presence of alcohol. One thing is for sure, though: alcohol increases our risk of anxiety and depression.
Let’s take a look at how another month without alcohol can benefit our brains.
Our mental and physical health improve each day we stay sober. But wait — that’s not all! There’s one more important part of our life that just keeps getting better the longer we stay away from alcohol.
Alcohol is a big expense; bars are expensive, bottles are expensive, and we also pay indirectly through the poor decisions we make while intoxicated. When we remove booze from our lives, we add money to our pockets.
The benefits of a sober February are plentiful. We thrive emotionally, we’re secure in our bodies, and we enjoy more financial security.
So how can we get through Dry February successfully and achieve our physical, mental, and financial health goals? Let’s take action!
Here’s the thing: Dry Feb. will look different for everyone. And that's okay! Wherever we start from, February is a great time to deepen our commitment to ourselves and keep our year on track. Let’s look at a few tips for thriving in sobriety this February.
Wherever we are in our journey, the Dry February challenge is one more opportunity to continue down the path to sobriety. We know how good it is for us, and challenging ourselves to stay dry is a radical act of self-love. Let’s show up for ourselves in February and keep the ball rolling into March!
Struggling to think of a good gift for a recovering alcoholic? Take a look at our guide for what makes a good recovery gift and ideas for gifts that help to show you care.
As your loved one is on their recovery journey, it can be a radical show of support to use the moment to reexamine your own relationship with alcohol.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Alcohol is one of the most common gifts in our society today. From buying someone a drink after work to gifting expensive wine bottles at life milestones, alcohol is often seen as a token of appreciation. Alcohol is also often the center of many celebrations and social gatherings, making it difficult to think of a quality gift for alcoholics in recovery.
Going through recovery from addiction to alcohol is no easy task. Having support from loved ones can be crucial to someone in recovery trying to stay on the right track. Having a better understanding of what recovery entails can help you choose the right gift for recovering alcoholics in your life. A gift can show you truly care about someone, but the wrong gift may end up triggering or offending them. To make things a bit easier, let’s take a look at what makes a good gift for someone in recovery and offer some ideas for you to show your support for the person you care about.
Before getting into different ideas on gifts for recovering addicts, it’s important to understand what someone in recovery may be going through. This can help you get a better idea of what tools and resources may be helpful for someone during this time, leading to a more thoughtful and meaningful recovery gift.
There are different stages of recovery which may be accompanied by different feelings and symptoms. When buying a gift, it’s helpful to know where they’re at in their journey. The four most notable stages of recovery from addiction are as follows:
When cutting back or quitting alcohol, a person may experience withdrawal symptoms. Symptoms in the early acute stages of withdrawal may include anxiety, nausea, headaches, and tremors. Later withdrawal symptoms typically include mood swings, reduced energy, insomnia, temptation, and isolation. These symptoms can show up in various ways and to different degrees throughout their recovery and well into their sobriety, but they are most prevalent in the beginning. Helpful presents during the early and middle stages of recovery include healthy distractions and recovery gifts that make them feel comfortable and ease any uncomfortable symptoms.
The first step is determining someone's phase of recovery. That knowledge will help you choose a thoughtful gift to help you choose the right one.
A good gift is always one that shows you care for someone. A good recovery gift shows your understanding of what they might be going through. Some helpful questions to keep in mind when looking for a gift include:
Now that we have explored what makes a good gift for someone in recovery, let’s take a look at the some specific categories that make for top-notch gifts for recovering alcoholics.
Self-care gift baskets can help someone pamper and take extra care of themselves at a time when they may be grappling with shame and low self-esteem. Items in this category can help reduce uncomfortable symptoms of withdrawal, help to ease anxiety, and remind them to be kind to themselves.
Notable self-care recovery gifts include pamper baskets with a person’s favorite snacks, spa-day treatments, comfortable robes or socks, candles, and bath products. These are suitable for a person in any stage of recovery, but many find that self-care gifts can be especially thoughtful during the period of withdrawal.
Spending quality time with someone can make them feel less isolated and help them keep their mind off unwanted thoughts. Participating in an activity can be a healthy distraction and help them develop new hobbies and interests.
Some adventure gifts for recovering alcoholics include going on a hike, taking a trip, participating in a class, and pursuing a new hobby. Especially during the maintenance phase, people in recovery may struggle with temptations, so it is extremely helpful to have healthy distractions to help them stay on track. In the later stages, many people also find themselves feeling more isolated. Spending quality time with a loved one in recovery helps them feel supported and encourages them to keep going.
Gift cards are always a great way to go when you’re not sure what someone needs. After getting sober, a loved one may be relearning how to manage money. A gift card can help them celebrate their journey to health while taking a bit off their financial burden. Gift cards can be very personal — consider gift cards to their favorite stores, grocery store gift cards, or a subscription related to their favorite best-liked entertainment. You could try a premium subscription to their of choice podcast, a magazine about one of their interests, or even a bacon-of-the month club!
Small fidget toys such as a Rubik’s Cube or fidget ring can help ease immediate compulsions and anxiety. Small tokens are also extremely customizable. For instance, you can choose a gift in the person’s favorite color to make it more meaningful. When out and about, it can sometimes be difficult for someone in recovery to manage triggerS. Having something on hand to ease these symptoms can make staying away from alcohol a bit more manageable. While these gadgets may seem small, they can be a big help and provide tangible distractions for someone in recovery.
Books and movies make for great distractions and can also be a helpful tool for self-improvement. Book options range from pure entertainment to educational self-help strategies to help them develop positive skills. A journal can also be a great gift. During recovery, a person may experience a lot of emotions that may be helpful to process through journaling. It can also serve as a reminder for how far they have come, making for a great motivational recovery gift.
Although gifts are need not be gender-specific, some popular options for the women in your life in recovery from addiction.
Men and women in recovery experience many of the same physical symptoms, but natural psychological differences based on brain chemistry and social expectations make the emotional experience very different. Let’s look at some gift ideas catered to a male loved one.
There are so many options for gifts for recovering alcoholics, but there are also some gifts to savoid. Some are more obvious, while others may be more personal triggers .
Stay away from addiction-specific gifts for alcoholics in recovery, as these can isolate and label someone as an addict. While that may not be your intention, these recovery gifts may put alcohol as the main focus and can be harmful for a person’s progress. It may seem meaningful to recognize their choice to recover from addiction, but labels can be isolating and demeaning for some. Examples of these may include mugs or personalized gifts that use the term “addict,” as these may belittle a person’s accomplishments.
Alcohol is the obvious choice to stay away from, but even alcohol-related gag gifts can be invalidating to someone's exerpience. Even though it may seem humorous, an alcohol-connected gift might serve as more a trigger than a support tool. As there are so many other options for gifts, stay away from alcohol-related gifts, no matter how amusing they might seem.
While money may seem like a great gift for someone in recovery, it could be overwhelming lead to negative spending habits. Try to give the gift of time instead. Arrange for a meal prep service or offer to babysit or clean for them. For those who are dedicating much of their time to recovery and getting their life back on track, having help for tasks they need to complete is extremely meaningful and useful.
Now that you have a bunch of ideas, bring a smile to your loved one's face with any one of these gifts! Recovery can be a tough battle, but a thoughtful gift can make a deep impact on them..
Alcohol is one of the most common gifts in our society today. From buying someone a drink after work to gifting expensive wine bottles at life milestones, alcohol is often seen as a token of appreciation. Alcohol is also often the center of many celebrations and social gatherings, making it difficult to think of a quality gift for alcoholics in recovery.
Going through recovery from addiction to alcohol is no easy task. Having support from loved ones can be crucial to someone in recovery trying to stay on the right track. Having a better understanding of what recovery entails can help you choose the right gift for recovering alcoholics in your life. A gift can show you truly care about someone, but the wrong gift may end up triggering or offending them. To make things a bit easier, let’s take a look at what makes a good gift for someone in recovery and offer some ideas for you to show your support for the person you care about.
Before getting into different ideas on gifts for recovering addicts, it’s important to understand what someone in recovery may be going through. This can help you get a better idea of what tools and resources may be helpful for someone during this time, leading to a more thoughtful and meaningful recovery gift.
There are different stages of recovery which may be accompanied by different feelings and symptoms. When buying a gift, it’s helpful to know where they’re at in their journey. The four most notable stages of recovery from addiction are as follows:
When cutting back or quitting alcohol, a person may experience withdrawal symptoms. Symptoms in the early acute stages of withdrawal may include anxiety, nausea, headaches, and tremors. Later withdrawal symptoms typically include mood swings, reduced energy, insomnia, temptation, and isolation. These symptoms can show up in various ways and to different degrees throughout their recovery and well into their sobriety, but they are most prevalent in the beginning. Helpful presents during the early and middle stages of recovery include healthy distractions and recovery gifts that make them feel comfortable and ease any uncomfortable symptoms.
The first step is determining someone's phase of recovery. That knowledge will help you choose a thoughtful gift to help you choose the right one.
A good gift is always one that shows you care for someone. A good recovery gift shows your understanding of what they might be going through. Some helpful questions to keep in mind when looking for a gift include:
Now that we have explored what makes a good gift for someone in recovery, let’s take a look at the some specific categories that make for top-notch gifts for recovering alcoholics.
Self-care gift baskets can help someone pamper and take extra care of themselves at a time when they may be grappling with shame and low self-esteem. Items in this category can help reduce uncomfortable symptoms of withdrawal, help to ease anxiety, and remind them to be kind to themselves.
Notable self-care recovery gifts include pamper baskets with a person’s favorite snacks, spa-day treatments, comfortable robes or socks, candles, and bath products. These are suitable for a person in any stage of recovery, but many find that self-care gifts can be especially thoughtful during the period of withdrawal.
Spending quality time with someone can make them feel less isolated and help them keep their mind off unwanted thoughts. Participating in an activity can be a healthy distraction and help them develop new hobbies and interests.
Some adventure gifts for recovering alcoholics include going on a hike, taking a trip, participating in a class, and pursuing a new hobby. Especially during the maintenance phase, people in recovery may struggle with temptations, so it is extremely helpful to have healthy distractions to help them stay on track. In the later stages, many people also find themselves feeling more isolated. Spending quality time with a loved one in recovery helps them feel supported and encourages them to keep going.
Gift cards are always a great way to go when you’re not sure what someone needs. After getting sober, a loved one may be relearning how to manage money. A gift card can help them celebrate their journey to health while taking a bit off their financial burden. Gift cards can be very personal — consider gift cards to their favorite stores, grocery store gift cards, or a subscription related to their favorite best-liked entertainment. You could try a premium subscription to their of choice podcast, a magazine about one of their interests, or even a bacon-of-the month club!
Small fidget toys such as a Rubik’s Cube or fidget ring can help ease immediate compulsions and anxiety. Small tokens are also extremely customizable. For instance, you can choose a gift in the person’s favorite color to make it more meaningful. When out and about, it can sometimes be difficult for someone in recovery to manage triggerS. Having something on hand to ease these symptoms can make staying away from alcohol a bit more manageable. While these gadgets may seem small, they can be a big help and provide tangible distractions for someone in recovery.
Books and movies make for great distractions and can also be a helpful tool for self-improvement. Book options range from pure entertainment to educational self-help strategies to help them develop positive skills. A journal can also be a great gift. During recovery, a person may experience a lot of emotions that may be helpful to process through journaling. It can also serve as a reminder for how far they have come, making for a great motivational recovery gift.
Although gifts are need not be gender-specific, some popular options for the women in your life in recovery from addiction.
Men and women in recovery experience many of the same physical symptoms, but natural psychological differences based on brain chemistry and social expectations make the emotional experience very different. Let’s look at some gift ideas catered to a male loved one.
There are so many options for gifts for recovering alcoholics, but there are also some gifts to savoid. Some are more obvious, while others may be more personal triggers .
Stay away from addiction-specific gifts for alcoholics in recovery, as these can isolate and label someone as an addict. While that may not be your intention, these recovery gifts may put alcohol as the main focus and can be harmful for a person’s progress. It may seem meaningful to recognize their choice to recover from addiction, but labels can be isolating and demeaning for some. Examples of these may include mugs or personalized gifts that use the term “addict,” as these may belittle a person’s accomplishments.
Alcohol is the obvious choice to stay away from, but even alcohol-related gag gifts can be invalidating to someone's exerpience. Even though it may seem humorous, an alcohol-connected gift might serve as more a trigger than a support tool. As there are so many other options for gifts, stay away from alcohol-related gifts, no matter how amusing they might seem.
While money may seem like a great gift for someone in recovery, it could be overwhelming lead to negative spending habits. Try to give the gift of time instead. Arrange for a meal prep service or offer to babysit or clean for them. For those who are dedicating much of their time to recovery and getting their life back on track, having help for tasks they need to complete is extremely meaningful and useful.
Now that you have a bunch of ideas, bring a smile to your loved one's face with any one of these gifts! Recovery can be a tough battle, but a thoughtful gift can make a deep impact on them..
Showing your support and care for a loved one in sobriety with a gift can be a tricky task. Explore our detailed guide to help you choose a meaningful sobriety gift.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Sobriety is a significant milestone in alcohol addiction recovery, one that deserves celebration. Whether it’s someone’s first day, first year, or first decade in sobriety, sober gifts to honor the occasion can be just the encouragement someone may need to keep going. Recovering from alcohol addiction is no easy feat. While you may want to show your support for such a noteworthy landmark, choosing the right gift may prove to be a challenge.
It’s no secret that many people turn to a case of local craft beers or a fancy bottle of wine for easy gift ideas, but for your sober friends, this just isn’t an option. Similarly, many parties often include boozy drinks and a toast to honor the occasion. Fortunately, there are plenty of thoughtful sobriety gift ideas and celebrations that help to acknowledge someone’s efforts, alcohol-free.
Let’s take a deeper dive into things to keep in mind when choosing a gift and explore a range of gift ideas to help you show support for your sober friends.
Before getting into our top picks for sobriety gift ideas, it’s important to gain a better understanding of what makes a quality sobriety gift. Here are some things to keep in mind when choosing a sober gift.
While personality is important to take into account for any gift, it can be even more important when considering sobriety gift ideas. Some people may not want to publicly announce their recovery milestones or sobriety. Knowing the person’s likes or dislikes can help you respect their boundaries and celebrate in a way that they find comfortable. For example, you may be planning a grand party to celebrate their sobriety, but a more private person may find this inappropriate or triggering. Make sure to take into account what the person is comfortable with, and if you’re unsure, it never hurts to ask.
Taking a closer look at the person’s interests can help you choose a more personalized and thoughtful gift. While there are plenty of sobriety gift ideas that can be beneficial for anyone, a sober gift that aligns with the person’s interests can help them feel heard and more supported. They will also be more likely to use the gift as support on their continuing sobriety trek. For homebodies, crochet kits or cookbooks may be a more useful distraction. For people who like to stay active, a gym membership or camping trip may be more suitable. As a loved one searching for the right sobriety gift, keeping in mind a person’s interest can make the difference in providing the motivation that someone needs in recovery.
There are general triggers for anyone going through recovery from alcohol addiction, but being aware of personal triggers can help ensure the gift does not provoke a negative reaction or temptation to relapse. General triggers typically include alcohol or alcohol-related gifts (this sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised). Other personal triggers include certain environments, specific people, or negatively associated events. As you most likely know the person best, be sure to keep their triggers in mind when browsing for a gift for your sober friend.
Sobriety is often thought of as a spectrum, but in this case, we’ll discuss it as abstinence from alcohol. While there are no established phases post-abstinence as there are in recovery, some notable periods include post-acute withdrawal, repair, and growth. Different stages come with their own set of challenges.
Someone who is newly sober may benefit from support that is completely different from what someone years into sobriety may need. Understanding which phase of sobriety a person is in can help you choose a gift that best supports their current needs. These small nuances set apart a good sobriety gift from a great one, which can make all the difference to someone in recovery who needs a reminder to keep pushing through.
Now, let’s explore some of the best sobriety gift ideas to help you show a loved one how much you care.
The gift of time is a priceless present, especially for someone who may be trying to get their life back on track. Time is a great gift for anyone, but it can be especially helpful as a gift for sober friends in earlier stages of sobriety. They may not have as much energy to complete everyday tasks due to withdrawal symptoms or seeking new employment or education opportunities after finding sobriety, so crossing a few things off their list of everyday tasks can be extremely significant in their recovery.
Need some ideas related to the gift of time? Try a meal preparation subscription, cleaning service, or scheduled grocery deliveries. You can also offer your own time to them for tasks such as babysitting, running errands, or cooking. Offering your time is a considerate gift and can be great for those who may not have a lot to spend on a physical present or to buy someone else’s service.
While physical sober gifts are great, experiences can often be the gifts that keep on giving. Participating in a class or activity can be a healthy distraction for someone in sobriety and can help them re-develop their hobbies and interests. Activities are also a great way to spend quality time with your sober friends and show your support for them by being there. There are infinite choices when it comes to activities and experiences. No matter what a person’s interest may be, there are alcohol-free activities that will make for a perfect sobriety gift.
Activity-based sobriety gift ideas can be personalized to fit a person’s interests. For example, someone who loves spending time outdoors may enjoy being invited out for a day of hiking. For people who enjoy cooking, a weekly cooking class could be a great gift. Participating in an experience with a sober friend can help them feel less isolated during a tough time.
Many people find that they lose their interests and who they truly are when falling into alcohol misuse, due to depression and other symptoms. A sobriety gift that can help a loved one find their interests again can help them stay on the right path by focusing their attention on positive activities. A wide range of gifts for sober friends can help someone rediscover who they are and what they enjoy doing.
Some sobriety gift ideas in this category include books, journals, or personalized mementos. Books can be entertainment or self-help tools that can help them learn positive skills and coping mechanisms. Journals are a great way for someone to express their emotions and serve as a reminder of how far they have come. Personalized sober gifts can remind them of their achievements and motivate them to continue. Equipment for a new hobby can help them get started in an activity they may not otherwise look into.
Healthy distractions are a great way to help someone in recovery refrain from stepping back into old habits. Distractions can range from activities and entertainment to smaller, tangible items that they can use for immediate relief.
Some sobriety gift ideas that serve as helpful distractions in recovery include movies, subscriptions to a streaming service, puzzles, and gift cards to a self-care treatment. These gift ideas can help a sober friend stay busy and spend less time thinking about harmful habits or uncomfortable feelings that sobriety may bring. Smaller, immediate distraction tools can help to relieve sudden anxiety or temptations. Gift ideas for more tangible items include fidget toys, small gadgets, rings, or keychains that they can have access easily. While these may seem small, these distractions can be significant in helping a sober friend refrain from engaging in old habits.
It’s a common stumbling block for people in recovery: many celebrations, holidays, and parties include alcohol. But there are plentiful ways to plan celebrations even in sobriety. Whether you’re celebrating a sobriety milestone or planning a birthday or holiday party with and for sober friends, a wide range of activities make for booze-free fun.
A special occasion does not need alcohol! Some sober birthday ideas include going on a picnic, planning a scavenger hunt, bowling, taking a road trip, having a spa day, or signing up for your favorite workout class to celebrate a special day without even the thought of alcohol.
Another notable sobriety event is throwing a sobriety party. A sobriety party is similar to an anniversary, but in this case, it’s to recognize the amount of time someone has been sober. This is a great way to commemorate a person’s achievement and gather their circle of support to show them some love.
A key aspect of a sobriety celebration is a sobriety cake — a fun, whimsical treat that recognizes a person’s accomplishments. As the sobriety cake is typically the focal point of a sobriety party, the message on the cake is one you won’t want to mess up.
While personalization will always depend on the celebrant, some common messages are popular for good reason. Some favored sobriety cake ideas include the Alcoholics Anonymous Chip with the anniversary number the person is celebrating and “Happy Soberversary.” Some more humorous sobriety cake messages include a picture of the iconic bald mascot “Mr. Clean” and “Sober AF.” Make sure to respect the person’s boundaries and their sense of humor.
There are no definitive sobriety gifts to completely avoid; however, there are some that are more sensitive that may not be appropriate for everyone.
Alcohol-related Gifts
Addiction-specific gifts
Personal triggers
Finding a thoughtful gift to celebrate a momentous occasion can be overwhelming at first. But now that you have a long list of quality options, you can rest assured that your sobriety gift is sure to warm the heart!
Sobriety is a significant milestone in alcohol addiction recovery, one that deserves celebration. Whether it’s someone’s first day, first year, or first decade in sobriety, sober gifts to honor the occasion can be just the encouragement someone may need to keep going. Recovering from alcohol addiction is no easy feat. While you may want to show your support for such a noteworthy landmark, choosing the right gift may prove to be a challenge.
It’s no secret that many people turn to a case of local craft beers or a fancy bottle of wine for easy gift ideas, but for your sober friends, this just isn’t an option. Similarly, many parties often include boozy drinks and a toast to honor the occasion. Fortunately, there are plenty of thoughtful sobriety gift ideas and celebrations that help to acknowledge someone’s efforts, alcohol-free.
Let’s take a deeper dive into things to keep in mind when choosing a gift and explore a range of gift ideas to help you show support for your sober friends.
Before getting into our top picks for sobriety gift ideas, it’s important to gain a better understanding of what makes a quality sobriety gift. Here are some things to keep in mind when choosing a sober gift.
While personality is important to take into account for any gift, it can be even more important when considering sobriety gift ideas. Some people may not want to publicly announce their recovery milestones or sobriety. Knowing the person’s likes or dislikes can help you respect their boundaries and celebrate in a way that they find comfortable. For example, you may be planning a grand party to celebrate their sobriety, but a more private person may find this inappropriate or triggering. Make sure to take into account what the person is comfortable with, and if you’re unsure, it never hurts to ask.
Taking a closer look at the person’s interests can help you choose a more personalized and thoughtful gift. While there are plenty of sobriety gift ideas that can be beneficial for anyone, a sober gift that aligns with the person’s interests can help them feel heard and more supported. They will also be more likely to use the gift as support on their continuing sobriety trek. For homebodies, crochet kits or cookbooks may be a more useful distraction. For people who like to stay active, a gym membership or camping trip may be more suitable. As a loved one searching for the right sobriety gift, keeping in mind a person’s interest can make the difference in providing the motivation that someone needs in recovery.
There are general triggers for anyone going through recovery from alcohol addiction, but being aware of personal triggers can help ensure the gift does not provoke a negative reaction or temptation to relapse. General triggers typically include alcohol or alcohol-related gifts (this sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised). Other personal triggers include certain environments, specific people, or negatively associated events. As you most likely know the person best, be sure to keep their triggers in mind when browsing for a gift for your sober friend.
Sobriety is often thought of as a spectrum, but in this case, we’ll discuss it as abstinence from alcohol. While there are no established phases post-abstinence as there are in recovery, some notable periods include post-acute withdrawal, repair, and growth. Different stages come with their own set of challenges.
Someone who is newly sober may benefit from support that is completely different from what someone years into sobriety may need. Understanding which phase of sobriety a person is in can help you choose a gift that best supports their current needs. These small nuances set apart a good sobriety gift from a great one, which can make all the difference to someone in recovery who needs a reminder to keep pushing through.
Now, let’s explore some of the best sobriety gift ideas to help you show a loved one how much you care.
The gift of time is a priceless present, especially for someone who may be trying to get their life back on track. Time is a great gift for anyone, but it can be especially helpful as a gift for sober friends in earlier stages of sobriety. They may not have as much energy to complete everyday tasks due to withdrawal symptoms or seeking new employment or education opportunities after finding sobriety, so crossing a few things off their list of everyday tasks can be extremely significant in their recovery.
Need some ideas related to the gift of time? Try a meal preparation subscription, cleaning service, or scheduled grocery deliveries. You can also offer your own time to them for tasks such as babysitting, running errands, or cooking. Offering your time is a considerate gift and can be great for those who may not have a lot to spend on a physical present or to buy someone else’s service.
While physical sober gifts are great, experiences can often be the gifts that keep on giving. Participating in a class or activity can be a healthy distraction for someone in sobriety and can help them re-develop their hobbies and interests. Activities are also a great way to spend quality time with your sober friends and show your support for them by being there. There are infinite choices when it comes to activities and experiences. No matter what a person’s interest may be, there are alcohol-free activities that will make for a perfect sobriety gift.
Activity-based sobriety gift ideas can be personalized to fit a person’s interests. For example, someone who loves spending time outdoors may enjoy being invited out for a day of hiking. For people who enjoy cooking, a weekly cooking class could be a great gift. Participating in an experience with a sober friend can help them feel less isolated during a tough time.
Many people find that they lose their interests and who they truly are when falling into alcohol misuse, due to depression and other symptoms. A sobriety gift that can help a loved one find their interests again can help them stay on the right path by focusing their attention on positive activities. A wide range of gifts for sober friends can help someone rediscover who they are and what they enjoy doing.
Some sobriety gift ideas in this category include books, journals, or personalized mementos. Books can be entertainment or self-help tools that can help them learn positive skills and coping mechanisms. Journals are a great way for someone to express their emotions and serve as a reminder of how far they have come. Personalized sober gifts can remind them of their achievements and motivate them to continue. Equipment for a new hobby can help them get started in an activity they may not otherwise look into.
Healthy distractions are a great way to help someone in recovery refrain from stepping back into old habits. Distractions can range from activities and entertainment to smaller, tangible items that they can use for immediate relief.
Some sobriety gift ideas that serve as helpful distractions in recovery include movies, subscriptions to a streaming service, puzzles, and gift cards to a self-care treatment. These gift ideas can help a sober friend stay busy and spend less time thinking about harmful habits or uncomfortable feelings that sobriety may bring. Smaller, immediate distraction tools can help to relieve sudden anxiety or temptations. Gift ideas for more tangible items include fidget toys, small gadgets, rings, or keychains that they can have access easily. While these may seem small, these distractions can be significant in helping a sober friend refrain from engaging in old habits.
It’s a common stumbling block for people in recovery: many celebrations, holidays, and parties include alcohol. But there are plentiful ways to plan celebrations even in sobriety. Whether you’re celebrating a sobriety milestone or planning a birthday or holiday party with and for sober friends, a wide range of activities make for booze-free fun.
A special occasion does not need alcohol! Some sober birthday ideas include going on a picnic, planning a scavenger hunt, bowling, taking a road trip, having a spa day, or signing up for your favorite workout class to celebrate a special day without even the thought of alcohol.
Another notable sobriety event is throwing a sobriety party. A sobriety party is similar to an anniversary, but in this case, it’s to recognize the amount of time someone has been sober. This is a great way to commemorate a person’s achievement and gather their circle of support to show them some love.
A key aspect of a sobriety celebration is a sobriety cake — a fun, whimsical treat that recognizes a person’s accomplishments. As the sobriety cake is typically the focal point of a sobriety party, the message on the cake is one you won’t want to mess up.
While personalization will always depend on the celebrant, some common messages are popular for good reason. Some favored sobriety cake ideas include the Alcoholics Anonymous Chip with the anniversary number the person is celebrating and “Happy Soberversary.” Some more humorous sobriety cake messages include a picture of the iconic bald mascot “Mr. Clean” and “Sober AF.” Make sure to respect the person’s boundaries and their sense of humor.
There are no definitive sobriety gifts to completely avoid; however, there are some that are more sensitive that may not be appropriate for everyone.
Alcohol-related Gifts
Addiction-specific gifts
Personal triggers
Finding a thoughtful gift to celebrate a momentous occasion can be overwhelming at first. But now that you have a long list of quality options, you can rest assured that your sobriety gift is sure to warm the heart!
Thinking of taking cocaine while drinking alcohol? Find out how this can be extremely dangerous.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
You’re out with friends, a few drinks in, and dancing the night away. At first you felt great, but now the euphoric alcohol effects are beginning to wear off. You’re starting to feel a little tired, ready for the night to end. But as you get ready to leave, someone offers you a “super easy” way to keep the night going and make it even better. Just a little cocaine: you’ll be feeling great and ready for the rest of the night!
Beyond the regular risks of cocaine use, what is the risk of mixing cocaine and alcohol? In this blog, we’ll explore what happens when we use alcohol, cocaine, and both of them together. Let’s dig into the dangers of mixing alcohol and cocaine and learn some tips for staying safe and gaining control of our substance use.
The “alcohol” we consume in beer, wine, or other spirits is chemically known as “ethanol.” It’s produced during the fermentation process, where yeast breaks down sugar and produces ethanol as a by-product. Alcohol has psychoactive effects, meaning that it can change our brain function and affect our mood, thoughts, awareness, feelings, and movements.
Our first sips of alcohol may make us feel happy and more awake. For this reason, many people think of alcohol as a stimulant that “gets the party started.” However, alcohol is actually a depressant, meaning it slows things down in our brains. This effect takes longer to notice, but it always kicks in. Ever feel tired or foggy after a few drinks? That’s the depressant effect at work. As a depressant, alcohol can decrease our inhibitions and cause us to feel relaxed or sedated.
There are both short- and long-term consequences of drinking alcohol. Let’s begin with a review of how alcohol can affect our body and mind in the short and long term.
In the short term, alcohol impacts our body, behavior, and mood. As a depressant, alcohol slows down our body and mind, and we might lose control of our impulses or motor function. This reduced functionality shows up throughout our body in different ways.
In the long term, alcohol can rewire the connections in our brain and cause chronic changes in our physical, mental, and social health.
Neurotransmitters are a crucial element of our brain’s communication system. They trigger and regulate all of our thoughts and actions. There are two main neurotransmitters altered by alcohol — dopamine and gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA).
Dopamine is known as the “reward” neurotransmitter, so a temporary increase in dopamine makes us feel euphoric. Have you ever achieved a goal and felt a rush of satisfaction and joy? You can thank dopamine for that! When alcohol dumps dopamine into our brain, we get a rush of energy and excitement that mimics a stimulant effect — that’s our brain telling us, “I want more!”
Despite this dopamine rush, alcohol mostly acts as a depressant, meaning it slows the nervous system down. GABA is our primary inhibitory neurotransmitter and is responsible for slowing down brain activity. Alcohol increases the effectiveness of GABA in our brain, which gives it more power to slow down various processes. This can result in slower thinking, poor coordination, or motor impairments.
Cocaine comes from the leaves of the coca plant, native to western South America. It was first used by the Inca Empire as a local anesthetic due to its numbing effects. In the late 19th century, chemists isolated the psychoactive component of coca (known as “cocaine”). It quickly left medical settings and became popular for recreational use. It was even a key ingredient in the original recipe for Coca-Cola!
As a stimulant, cocaine targets the reward system of the brain — specifically, dopamine — just as alcohol does. When we consume cocaine, dopamine floods our brain. Cocaine also blocks the process that recycles and clears the brain of excess dopamine. This surplus allows dopamine to communicate with more parts of the brain, amplifying the “reward” effect.
At the same time, cocaine increases the functionality of two stimulating neurotransmitters called epinephrine and norepinephrine, leading to a rise in heart rate and blood pressure. Just like alcohol used chronically, cocaine can stress out the heart and cause permanent damage or a decrease in functionality.
Cocaine is highly addictive and known for its stimulating effects. Meanwhile, its harms and dangers are often overlooked. Let’s break down what cocaine actually does to us.
These effects can vary wildly depending on the person, the dose, and whether or not it is used in combination with other drugs. Because of this, it is widely considered to be dangerous and risky to use.
It’s important to note that it is illegal to possess, sell, transport, and produce cocaine in most parts of the world (except for a few areas in South America). In the United States, cocaine is a Schedule II drug under the Controlled Substance Act, which means it has a high potential for abuse, although it does have legitimate medical uses as a local anesthetic for some eye, ear, and throat surgeries.
Recent reports indicate cocaine is increasingly being contaminated by fentanyl, an incredibly dangerous opioid that is lethal in very small amounts. Overdose deaths from fentanyl have increased fivefold in the last 20 years. Cocaine is one of the most common drugs mixed with fentanyl, and overdose deaths from this combination are 50 times higher than they were in 2010.
Unregulated drugs should never be trusted as they may contain fentanyl. In emergency situations, naloxone — an FDA-approved, over-the-counter overdose treatment medication — can be purchased by anyone. It is a safe antidote to a suspected overdose and, when given in time, can save a life. Many states and cities also distribute fentanyl test strips along with other addiction treatment resources. Anyone seeing signs of a fentanyl overdose should call emergency services immediately.
It might seem that the effects of alcohol (a depressant) and cocaine (a stimulant) would cancel each other out. However, this isn't the case: the combination creates a more powerful and dangerous effect than either substance alone. When alcohol and cocaine are in the system at the same time, a by-product is produced in the liver called cocaethylene. Cocaethylene is a psychoactive agent that mimics the effects of cocaine but is longer lasting with more extreme symptoms.
Cocaethylene is a by-product of concurrent alcohol and cocaine metabolism. The liver processes alcohol by breaking it down with specific enzymes. When these enzymes meet cocaine, they produce the by-product known as cocaethylene.
Cocaethylene amplifies and extends the effects of both alcohol and cocaine. Research indicates that it takes the body twice as long to metabolize cocaethylene compared to alcohol or cocaine alone, giving it longer-lasting effects.
The effects of cocaethylene are pretty dramatic — but how long do they last? And are they really as serious as they seem?
The “half-life” of a drug is the amount of time the body takes to reduce the substance by one-half. The half-life of cocaine is about one hour, but the effects of cocaine last for only 20 to 90 minutes depending on administration route.
Unfortunately, there is less research conducted on cocaethylene than on cocaine alone, but it is estimated the half-life is double that of cocaine — roughly 2 hours — resulting in longer-lasting effects. It’s important to note that the half-life of drugs are estimated averages and that there are individual differences in drug metabolism, such as weight, gender, overall health, diet, and genetics.
Because of the extreme changes cocaethylene induces, consuming alcohol and cocaine simultaneously is more dangerous than either substance on its own. The presence of cocaethylene in the system significantly increases the likelihood of sudden death — in fact, sudden death is 18 times more likely than when using cocaine alone.
Cocaethylene is particularly dangerous because it targets the following essential organs:
Cocaine and alcohol are both highly addictive drugs. Treating alcohol or cocaine misuse can be challenging, and trying to stop them both at the same time is even more difficult. Luckily, there is hope! Research shows that if we use these substances together, long-term sobriety is more achievable if they are treated together.
Here are some of the best ways to stop the use of cocaethylene:
Quitting both alcohol and cocaine can be difficult, but there are ways to make the process easier. There is always hope, and there are many resources available to make the journey more manageable. A whole new life awaits in sobriety!
You’re out with friends, a few drinks in, and dancing the night away. At first you felt great, but now the euphoric alcohol effects are beginning to wear off. You’re starting to feel a little tired, ready for the night to end. But as you get ready to leave, someone offers you a “super easy” way to keep the night going and make it even better. Just a little cocaine: you’ll be feeling great and ready for the rest of the night!
Beyond the regular risks of cocaine use, what is the risk of mixing cocaine and alcohol? In this blog, we’ll explore what happens when we use alcohol, cocaine, and both of them together. Let’s dig into the dangers of mixing alcohol and cocaine and learn some tips for staying safe and gaining control of our substance use.
The “alcohol” we consume in beer, wine, or other spirits is chemically known as “ethanol.” It’s produced during the fermentation process, where yeast breaks down sugar and produces ethanol as a by-product. Alcohol has psychoactive effects, meaning that it can change our brain function and affect our mood, thoughts, awareness, feelings, and movements.
Our first sips of alcohol may make us feel happy and more awake. For this reason, many people think of alcohol as a stimulant that “gets the party started.” However, alcohol is actually a depressant, meaning it slows things down in our brains. This effect takes longer to notice, but it always kicks in. Ever feel tired or foggy after a few drinks? That’s the depressant effect at work. As a depressant, alcohol can decrease our inhibitions and cause us to feel relaxed or sedated.
There are both short- and long-term consequences of drinking alcohol. Let’s begin with a review of how alcohol can affect our body and mind in the short and long term.
In the short term, alcohol impacts our body, behavior, and mood. As a depressant, alcohol slows down our body and mind, and we might lose control of our impulses or motor function. This reduced functionality shows up throughout our body in different ways.
In the long term, alcohol can rewire the connections in our brain and cause chronic changes in our physical, mental, and social health.
Neurotransmitters are a crucial element of our brain’s communication system. They trigger and regulate all of our thoughts and actions. There are two main neurotransmitters altered by alcohol — dopamine and gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA).
Dopamine is known as the “reward” neurotransmitter, so a temporary increase in dopamine makes us feel euphoric. Have you ever achieved a goal and felt a rush of satisfaction and joy? You can thank dopamine for that! When alcohol dumps dopamine into our brain, we get a rush of energy and excitement that mimics a stimulant effect — that’s our brain telling us, “I want more!”
Despite this dopamine rush, alcohol mostly acts as a depressant, meaning it slows the nervous system down. GABA is our primary inhibitory neurotransmitter and is responsible for slowing down brain activity. Alcohol increases the effectiveness of GABA in our brain, which gives it more power to slow down various processes. This can result in slower thinking, poor coordination, or motor impairments.
Cocaine comes from the leaves of the coca plant, native to western South America. It was first used by the Inca Empire as a local anesthetic due to its numbing effects. In the late 19th century, chemists isolated the psychoactive component of coca (known as “cocaine”). It quickly left medical settings and became popular for recreational use. It was even a key ingredient in the original recipe for Coca-Cola!
As a stimulant, cocaine targets the reward system of the brain — specifically, dopamine — just as alcohol does. When we consume cocaine, dopamine floods our brain. Cocaine also blocks the process that recycles and clears the brain of excess dopamine. This surplus allows dopamine to communicate with more parts of the brain, amplifying the “reward” effect.
At the same time, cocaine increases the functionality of two stimulating neurotransmitters called epinephrine and norepinephrine, leading to a rise in heart rate and blood pressure. Just like alcohol used chronically, cocaine can stress out the heart and cause permanent damage or a decrease in functionality.
Cocaine is highly addictive and known for its stimulating effects. Meanwhile, its harms and dangers are often overlooked. Let’s break down what cocaine actually does to us.
These effects can vary wildly depending on the person, the dose, and whether or not it is used in combination with other drugs. Because of this, it is widely considered to be dangerous and risky to use.
It’s important to note that it is illegal to possess, sell, transport, and produce cocaine in most parts of the world (except for a few areas in South America). In the United States, cocaine is a Schedule II drug under the Controlled Substance Act, which means it has a high potential for abuse, although it does have legitimate medical uses as a local anesthetic for some eye, ear, and throat surgeries.
Recent reports indicate cocaine is increasingly being contaminated by fentanyl, an incredibly dangerous opioid that is lethal in very small amounts. Overdose deaths from fentanyl have increased fivefold in the last 20 years. Cocaine is one of the most common drugs mixed with fentanyl, and overdose deaths from this combination are 50 times higher than they were in 2010.
Unregulated drugs should never be trusted as they may contain fentanyl. In emergency situations, naloxone — an FDA-approved, over-the-counter overdose treatment medication — can be purchased by anyone. It is a safe antidote to a suspected overdose and, when given in time, can save a life. Many states and cities also distribute fentanyl test strips along with other addiction treatment resources. Anyone seeing signs of a fentanyl overdose should call emergency services immediately.
It might seem that the effects of alcohol (a depressant) and cocaine (a stimulant) would cancel each other out. However, this isn't the case: the combination creates a more powerful and dangerous effect than either substance alone. When alcohol and cocaine are in the system at the same time, a by-product is produced in the liver called cocaethylene. Cocaethylene is a psychoactive agent that mimics the effects of cocaine but is longer lasting with more extreme symptoms.
Cocaethylene is a by-product of concurrent alcohol and cocaine metabolism. The liver processes alcohol by breaking it down with specific enzymes. When these enzymes meet cocaine, they produce the by-product known as cocaethylene.
Cocaethylene amplifies and extends the effects of both alcohol and cocaine. Research indicates that it takes the body twice as long to metabolize cocaethylene compared to alcohol or cocaine alone, giving it longer-lasting effects.
The effects of cocaethylene are pretty dramatic — but how long do they last? And are they really as serious as they seem?
The “half-life” of a drug is the amount of time the body takes to reduce the substance by one-half. The half-life of cocaine is about one hour, but the effects of cocaine last for only 20 to 90 minutes depending on administration route.
Unfortunately, there is less research conducted on cocaethylene than on cocaine alone, but it is estimated the half-life is double that of cocaine — roughly 2 hours — resulting in longer-lasting effects. It’s important to note that the half-life of drugs are estimated averages and that there are individual differences in drug metabolism, such as weight, gender, overall health, diet, and genetics.
Because of the extreme changes cocaethylene induces, consuming alcohol and cocaine simultaneously is more dangerous than either substance on its own. The presence of cocaethylene in the system significantly increases the likelihood of sudden death — in fact, sudden death is 18 times more likely than when using cocaine alone.
Cocaethylene is particularly dangerous because it targets the following essential organs:
Cocaine and alcohol are both highly addictive drugs. Treating alcohol or cocaine misuse can be challenging, and trying to stop them both at the same time is even more difficult. Luckily, there is hope! Research shows that if we use these substances together, long-term sobriety is more achievable if they are treated together.
Here are some of the best ways to stop the use of cocaethylene:
Quitting both alcohol and cocaine can be difficult, but there are ways to make the process easier. There is always hope, and there are many resources available to make the journey more manageable. A whole new life awaits in sobriety!
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be all about alcohol! Explore some fun sober date ideas with us and try something new this year.
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It’s the question we hear every time we sit down at a restaurant, and it’s never a surprise: “What would you like to drink?” But if we’re trying to cut back or quit drinking, this question can loom large in our minds — especially on date night.
These days, things have gotten a bit easier. Many people are open about their drinking preferences (including the fact that they don’t drink) in their online dating profiles, and some even share bits of their alcohol journey on social media or in casual conversations with old and new friends alike. Still, a bottle of wine with dinner is a persistent date night stereotype, and it can sometime feel like a potential obstacle to those of us who are trying to stay sober without being kicked out of the dating pool.
While many times the concern is mostly in our minds (and anyone we’d want to date would probably be fine with our preferences), it can still be stressful. So to make things easier and more fun this Valentine’s Day, let’s brainstorm some non-drinking date ideas and sober activities for couples to enjoy together.
First, let’s review some common misconceptions about alcohol and dating in general — and the science-backed reasons why they’re not true.
Now for the fun part! We’ve got Seven ideas for sober date nights that will leave you with lasting memories and will ignite the spark between you and that special someone this year.
Who doesn’t love gazing into the night sky? Centuries ago, Greek philosopher Marcus Aurelius wrote, “Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” So check out which stars are visible in your location on a certain night and head out with some snacks, an extra layer of clothing, and a thermos with jasmine green tea or a spicy chai latte.
There’s also a bit of extra meaning behind this stargazing date night — one that has potential to help future generations have a chance to fall in love under those very same stars as well. In recent decades, there’s been increasing concern that light pollution (excess lighting from buildings, night traffic, stadium floodlights, and even holiday decorations) has been drowning out the light of the stars to the point that most people around the globe have never seen the Milky Way. In recent years, the National Science Foundation’s NOIRLab has set up a project called “Globe at Night” — an international citizen-science campaign that invites people all over the world to help fight light pollution simply by keeping a record of the stars they see at their particular location on a given day. In February, they hold a special fundraising campaign called “Love the Stars,” which connects our natural love for the night sky and the romance it brings with an opportunity to help preserve it. Why not give it a try this year?
Stargazing together can help you connect to each other — and to the world — in a way that inspires gratitude and naturally puts alcohol in the background. There’s also a refreshing minimalism about it that helps declutter your mind and sharpen your senses (unlike the boozy brain fog that drinking creates).
And for an extra flair, bring some portable speakers and play “I Love the Stars” by The Orion Experience, which puts the love of the stars to music: “I love the night, I love the mystery / I love to gaze into infinity / Little lights that lead as far as I can see / I love the way they seem to wink at me…”
As kids, we’re outside all the time — in fact, it can be a challenge for parents to get us to come back indoors when we’re busy climbing trees, drawing portraits of our family in chalk on the sidewalk, or pretending we’re steering a ship to a deserted island in the backyard pool. But when we grow up, work and other responsibilities get in the way and edge out outdoor time.
If there’s a nature reserve or park nearby, plan a hiking trip together! Bring snacks, your favorite non-alcoholic drinks, and romantic music to listen to when you take a break to sit down and enjoy the view.
Engaging in a physical activity while also spending time outdoors is a double-whammy when it comes to reducing alcohol cravings. Ecotherapy — spending time in nature — is a science-backed way to lower stress. Likewise, exercise releases endorphins and reduces cortisol levels, boosting our well-being and natural resilience while keeping alcohol cravings at bay.
One of the best ways for creative types to connect is to engage in an activity that involves the arts. If you live in a city, there are likely to be plenty of museums, theaters, and art galleries to choose from. Go for something that you will both enjoy, whether that’s a modern rendition of the Aida in a local university theater, a new exhibit of Sumerian pottery, or a Portuguese film at an arts festival. Pick something that will keep you entertained and creatively inspired while giving you something interesting to talk about.
Smaller towns have plenty of opportunities for artistic exploration, too! Explore local galleries, community theaters, or music festivals. Many coffee shops hold poetry readings or open mic nights, as do some bookstores and libraries. If all else fails, start your own arts night! Get a few friends together (or just the two of you, if you prefer) to jam or share something you’ve written.
In addition to bringing you closer and giving you something interesting to chat about, engaging your creativity is a great way to stay on track when it comes to alcohol. The natural dopamine release involved in making and enjoying art rivals (and often surpasses) the brief boost of happy chemicals provided by alcohol.
If you watch the sitcom Modern Family, you know there’s a recurring plot line with Claire and Phil spicing up their date nights with some (PG-rated, “just-for-fun”) roleplay by acting out stories as fictional characters. The situation inevitably becomes comedic and maybe mildly embarrassing (for our benefit as viewers), but it illustrates an important point — creativity nourishes relationships and dressing up isn’t just for kids.
While in the show roleplay is used as a comedic setup, in real life it can add an unexpected twist that helps you get to know your partner better by engaging with them in a new way. It can take on whatever form you’re comfortable with — acting out a scene from a movie, dressing up in something that represents the characters you made up and going out. Being just outside your comfort zone but still on board with the situation in general is key here.
Whatever the mood is — silly, entertaining, or adventurous — it’s a chance to explore a different personality, see each other in a new light, and create a fun story together while acting it out. And as far as alcohol is concerned, the element of creativity mixed with novelty will help keep the feel-good neurotransmitters going, keeping cravings away.
As Slavoj Žižek puts it in Living in the End Times, “Our biological body itself is a form of hardware that needs reprogramming through tantra like a new spiritual software which can release or unblock its potential.”
Many wellness centers and yoga studios hold tantra workshops for couples, especially around Valentine’s Day. These can range from hour-long classes to full-day workshops or even weekend retreats. Activities usually include some aspects of traditional yoga asanas, breathing exercises, and various partner exercises that involve synchronized breathing, eye-gazing, and exploring various types of touch. There might also be a time for learning the background of tantra philosophy (it’s all about the “twin flames” of masculine and feminine energy complementing and empowering each other).
In many ways, tantra yoga practice has it all when it comes to connecting with your partner and staying sober. The element of mindfulness and meditation is a science-backed way to overcome cravings by learning to watch your own mind and have greater control over which thoughts you decide to act on. The spirit of creativity and physical movement are also powerful craving busters, as is the meaningful personal connection you’ll experience.
(This is definitely not a first date idea! It’s more suitable for deepening an existing bond rather than creating a new one.)
As far as first dates go, ballroom dancing is an old favorite for a reason! It’s a great way to break the ice and have something physical to do with specific instructions to follow (it’s harder than it looks, but that’s all part of the fun — nobody is judging!). Whether it’s a flirty foxtrot, romantic waltz, or energizing swing, it’s bound to make both of you feel more at ease with each other and probably have some laughs. And this type of dancing certainly doesn’t mix well with booze — you need all the coordination and attention you have, as well as your clarity of mind (and both of your hands).
Finally, another great way to tap into the energy and fun you had as a child is to go to a theme park or arcade together. Once again, you’ll have specific activities to do — lots of them! — so there’s no question of boredom or awkward silences.
Theme park rides can also be a bit scary (in a good way), but getting adrenaline flowing in a way that provides a “safe” thrill can actually be a great way to stave off cravings. Engaging your senses makes you feel “alive” in a more authentic way without the need for the illusion of excitement that alcohol provides. Plus, it’s a great excuse to snuggle up to each other and hold hands (maybe even extra tightly during some parts!).
No matter what you choose, congrats for being creative and thinking outside the box when it comes to date ideas. In addition to making a great step to a healthier version of yourself, you’re showing your partner that you’re willing to put extra effort into making sure your time together is meaningful and fosters authentic connection.
It’s the question we hear every time we sit down at a restaurant, and it’s never a surprise: “What would you like to drink?” But if we’re trying to cut back or quit drinking, this question can loom large in our minds — especially on date night.
These days, things have gotten a bit easier. Many people are open about their drinking preferences (including the fact that they don’t drink) in their online dating profiles, and some even share bits of their alcohol journey on social media or in casual conversations with old and new friends alike. Still, a bottle of wine with dinner is a persistent date night stereotype, and it can sometime feel like a potential obstacle to those of us who are trying to stay sober without being kicked out of the dating pool.
While many times the concern is mostly in our minds (and anyone we’d want to date would probably be fine with our preferences), it can still be stressful. So to make things easier and more fun this Valentine’s Day, let’s brainstorm some non-drinking date ideas and sober activities for couples to enjoy together.
First, let’s review some common misconceptions about alcohol and dating in general — and the science-backed reasons why they’re not true.
Now for the fun part! We’ve got Seven ideas for sober date nights that will leave you with lasting memories and will ignite the spark between you and that special someone this year.
Who doesn’t love gazing into the night sky? Centuries ago, Greek philosopher Marcus Aurelius wrote, “Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars, and see yourself running with them.” So check out which stars are visible in your location on a certain night and head out with some snacks, an extra layer of clothing, and a thermos with jasmine green tea or a spicy chai latte.
There’s also a bit of extra meaning behind this stargazing date night — one that has potential to help future generations have a chance to fall in love under those very same stars as well. In recent decades, there’s been increasing concern that light pollution (excess lighting from buildings, night traffic, stadium floodlights, and even holiday decorations) has been drowning out the light of the stars to the point that most people around the globe have never seen the Milky Way. In recent years, the National Science Foundation’s NOIRLab has set up a project called “Globe at Night” — an international citizen-science campaign that invites people all over the world to help fight light pollution simply by keeping a record of the stars they see at their particular location on a given day. In February, they hold a special fundraising campaign called “Love the Stars,” which connects our natural love for the night sky and the romance it brings with an opportunity to help preserve it. Why not give it a try this year?
Stargazing together can help you connect to each other — and to the world — in a way that inspires gratitude and naturally puts alcohol in the background. There’s also a refreshing minimalism about it that helps declutter your mind and sharpen your senses (unlike the boozy brain fog that drinking creates).
And for an extra flair, bring some portable speakers and play “I Love the Stars” by The Orion Experience, which puts the love of the stars to music: “I love the night, I love the mystery / I love to gaze into infinity / Little lights that lead as far as I can see / I love the way they seem to wink at me…”
As kids, we’re outside all the time — in fact, it can be a challenge for parents to get us to come back indoors when we’re busy climbing trees, drawing portraits of our family in chalk on the sidewalk, or pretending we’re steering a ship to a deserted island in the backyard pool. But when we grow up, work and other responsibilities get in the way and edge out outdoor time.
If there’s a nature reserve or park nearby, plan a hiking trip together! Bring snacks, your favorite non-alcoholic drinks, and romantic music to listen to when you take a break to sit down and enjoy the view.
Engaging in a physical activity while also spending time outdoors is a double-whammy when it comes to reducing alcohol cravings. Ecotherapy — spending time in nature — is a science-backed way to lower stress. Likewise, exercise releases endorphins and reduces cortisol levels, boosting our well-being and natural resilience while keeping alcohol cravings at bay.
One of the best ways for creative types to connect is to engage in an activity that involves the arts. If you live in a city, there are likely to be plenty of museums, theaters, and art galleries to choose from. Go for something that you will both enjoy, whether that’s a modern rendition of the Aida in a local university theater, a new exhibit of Sumerian pottery, or a Portuguese film at an arts festival. Pick something that will keep you entertained and creatively inspired while giving you something interesting to talk about.
Smaller towns have plenty of opportunities for artistic exploration, too! Explore local galleries, community theaters, or music festivals. Many coffee shops hold poetry readings or open mic nights, as do some bookstores and libraries. If all else fails, start your own arts night! Get a few friends together (or just the two of you, if you prefer) to jam or share something you’ve written.
In addition to bringing you closer and giving you something interesting to chat about, engaging your creativity is a great way to stay on track when it comes to alcohol. The natural dopamine release involved in making and enjoying art rivals (and often surpasses) the brief boost of happy chemicals provided by alcohol.
If you watch the sitcom Modern Family, you know there’s a recurring plot line with Claire and Phil spicing up their date nights with some (PG-rated, “just-for-fun”) roleplay by acting out stories as fictional characters. The situation inevitably becomes comedic and maybe mildly embarrassing (for our benefit as viewers), but it illustrates an important point — creativity nourishes relationships and dressing up isn’t just for kids.
While in the show roleplay is used as a comedic setup, in real life it can add an unexpected twist that helps you get to know your partner better by engaging with them in a new way. It can take on whatever form you’re comfortable with — acting out a scene from a movie, dressing up in something that represents the characters you made up and going out. Being just outside your comfort zone but still on board with the situation in general is key here.
Whatever the mood is — silly, entertaining, or adventurous — it’s a chance to explore a different personality, see each other in a new light, and create a fun story together while acting it out. And as far as alcohol is concerned, the element of creativity mixed with novelty will help keep the feel-good neurotransmitters going, keeping cravings away.
As Slavoj Žižek puts it in Living in the End Times, “Our biological body itself is a form of hardware that needs reprogramming through tantra like a new spiritual software which can release or unblock its potential.”
Many wellness centers and yoga studios hold tantra workshops for couples, especially around Valentine’s Day. These can range from hour-long classes to full-day workshops or even weekend retreats. Activities usually include some aspects of traditional yoga asanas, breathing exercises, and various partner exercises that involve synchronized breathing, eye-gazing, and exploring various types of touch. There might also be a time for learning the background of tantra philosophy (it’s all about the “twin flames” of masculine and feminine energy complementing and empowering each other).
In many ways, tantra yoga practice has it all when it comes to connecting with your partner and staying sober. The element of mindfulness and meditation is a science-backed way to overcome cravings by learning to watch your own mind and have greater control over which thoughts you decide to act on. The spirit of creativity and physical movement are also powerful craving busters, as is the meaningful personal connection you’ll experience.
(This is definitely not a first date idea! It’s more suitable for deepening an existing bond rather than creating a new one.)
As far as first dates go, ballroom dancing is an old favorite for a reason! It’s a great way to break the ice and have something physical to do with specific instructions to follow (it’s harder than it looks, but that’s all part of the fun — nobody is judging!). Whether it’s a flirty foxtrot, romantic waltz, or energizing swing, it’s bound to make both of you feel more at ease with each other and probably have some laughs. And this type of dancing certainly doesn’t mix well with booze — you need all the coordination and attention you have, as well as your clarity of mind (and both of your hands).
Finally, another great way to tap into the energy and fun you had as a child is to go to a theme park or arcade together. Once again, you’ll have specific activities to do — lots of them! — so there’s no question of boredom or awkward silences.
Theme park rides can also be a bit scary (in a good way), but getting adrenaline flowing in a way that provides a “safe” thrill can actually be a great way to stave off cravings. Engaging your senses makes you feel “alive” in a more authentic way without the need for the illusion of excitement that alcohol provides. Plus, it’s a great excuse to snuggle up to each other and hold hands (maybe even extra tightly during some parts!).
No matter what you choose, congrats for being creative and thinking outside the box when it comes to date ideas. In addition to making a great step to a healthier version of yourself, you’re showing your partner that you’re willing to put extra effort into making sure your time together is meaningful and fosters authentic connection.
